One Step at a Time - April 2018

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

[MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION] understand exactly what you mean, not wanting to feel these feelings, but not wanting the drink either. I understand!:hug::hug:

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Good Morning, Dear Friends,

Oh, [MENTION=19302]Lizann[/MENTION],:hug:how frightening for your mom!! I know your dad didn't mean to hurt your mom, but if he is getting physically abusive, then YES, it is time to look for a facility you can afford because he won't get any better...he will just get worse.:sad: Like your dad, my mom would have days or one day, where she was feeling really good, and then she would think she didn't need to go into a facility. I would hang my hat on those days, and when there was an apartment available for my mom at this facility, mom and I would tell my sister that she didn't need to move. So, we put off moving her. I was definitely part of the problem.:sad: Like you, and [MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION], I didn't feel like drinking but I felt like I needed to escape so many times. Fortunately, I have you lovely people here and I have several really close friends near me and I called them and they just let me vent. I hope you and [MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION] both have friends you can call if you are feeling frail.

I forgot to mention this in my previous posts: when I would suggest in-home care for my mom as opposed to assisted-living, my sister would say, "OK, if mom agrees to in-home care, we can do that, but we are just prolonging the inevitable." She was absolutely right. We would end up moving my mom into assisted-living anyway. My sister was also right when she said the time to move mom into a facility is when she still has all her mental capacity, so then she can make friends and she won't be lonely. I was deathly afraid that my mom would be lonely, but she is not at all...people adore her and her old friends still come and visit her. I am here for both of you if you need me.:heartbeat:

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Morning friends,just wanna give a:hug: to Nora and Liz,you too are both going through something similar and it makes me sad I like Rusty's post,it makes a lot of sense cuz you only want the best care for your parents and I think its super hard too cuz we're used to our parents taking care of us not vise versa,waves to Bird,wishes for a nice AF Monday for us all

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

[MENTION=19302]Lizann[/MENTION], thank you so much for the sweet words about my niece.:heartbeat: All of my nieces and nephews, she is my absolute favorite. She's very hard working and smart, and yet so kind to others, from family to people she has never met. Yes, she was named after me. ;-)

Pauly-yes, it is hard like you said....we're used to our parents taking care of us!

Big hellos to [MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION], [MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION], classy Glassie and anyone else I have forgotten....hope you are having a productive AF Monday. Mine is off to a good start. :-)

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Windy here again. Is the snow finally melting for you?

Hospice called and Mom has been decertified. She's covered until April 25. The woman was very nice about it but mom doesn't meet the guidelines. Even though Mom has been declining, they do not expect things to change significantly in the next 6 months. (Meaning they didn't think she would die) We both laughed and said well that part is good. So, we will just take it from here. I talked to my brother and he just started talking like we would get a caretaker in here and how many hours a day. I had to stop him and say that I needed to think about things. That I didn't have room to have a caretaker come in and sit for 5 hours a day. And that at this point, I didn't need to bring someone in. I'll have to have a serious talk with him soon about what we are going to do. Make sure we get on the same page.

Since, I'm venting, I will continue. Son called. He has been becoming increasingly unhappy with his job. The company has restructured and it is not a good situation. Well, he is so very unhappy that I worry about him. Not much you can do for your 31 year old son. But, it still hurts to see him so unhappy. I think he has a tendency for depression and he hides it. We all know where that leads. He just had the BAC monitor removed from his car. I don't think he would ever drink & drive again..........

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

How is everyone doing?

I'm ready to hear all about your exciting days.

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Aww Nora:hug: what did hospice actually do for you? Did someone come in? Sorry about your sons job situation. I sure do know where depression can lead. He's still young, can he look elsewhere for work?
So busy at work today! OMG! One nice day and everyone's allergies are acting up! The day went quick and I think I thrive on multitasking! It was a good day. Don't know if I mentioned the other day that the doctor I work for is now engaged to one of the nurses that I work with. Apparently there is quite a history with those two, prior marriages/affair/divorce etc. they bought a house together and they will blend their families. Oh the drama! Anyway her ring is freaking huge! The office manager and I are coveting her ring! The situation is a bit awkward, but whatever, I'm just there to do my job.
I hope everyone had a good day and hoping you all have a good night.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Always have to love the drama in the workplace. NOT! :egad:

A hospice aide comes in twice a week and bathes Mom. Then a nurse comes on Tuesday and another on Saturday. They check her vitals. Pretty much make sure things are going as they should. It has been wonderful. And, when there is another major decline, we will request them again. It's just not easy in this situation to provide care as you very well know. :sad:

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Hi all,
Wow so much going on with all the parents! Big hugs to all!!!...... [MENTION=1214]Rusty[/MENTION], I am a welder. Or I was, I have not been to work. The bridal shower sounded wonderful! Glad you had a good ol time, and good for you at being home for a bit........Nora, the milk glass is beautiful. So hope things get better soon. When I lived in FL I got a lot of gigs in the retirement homes. They were all very nice. What does son do for a living. It is bad when work is a drag........Lizann sorry to hear your Dad is having some bad times. .......Pauly, I am trying to cut back on sugar. It really makes me sick.....so I am still talking to me ex coworker and trying to get him to take my job. I think he is ready now hahaha. He was messaging me this a.m. about it. I just don't want to leave them hanging, as I have been with my employer for many years.......a bit chilly this a.m.....so anyway, looks like I will be taking posesion of my friend who dieds house and vehicles soon, like probably next week.....so that is going to be a lot of work as it is a big mess and lots of junkpiles and very dirty....and so that is todays news......b

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

also the guy I have been trying to get to take my job just called and he is going out there tomorrow, they want him to come to work...phew

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Wow, Bird. Sounds like a big job to clean up the new property.

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Just a quick bueno from me,hope everyone has a great day,back after work!

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Hi Pauly. :welldone: great to see you

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Hello!

Busy at work here...trying to write all my documents before Thursday. God, Help Me!! LOL. Every time I think I am making progress, I get interrupted or I procrastinate by posting here. HAHAHAH!!!
[MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION], I know your son has a master's degree but I forgot what he does for a living. Sorry! How long has he been sober? I remember when he was in that car accident and had to have the interlock device put on his car. I am so hoping he has brighter days ahead and can stay sober. I feel so badly that your mom will be decertified from hospice! You and your hubs can never catch a break!!
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-you're a welder...wow! It's hard work of precision. Are you going into another field? I don't envy you having to clean up all your friend's junk piles...UGH! So glad you got someone to take over your job.

Pauly-I envy you being in Vegas right now, as I sit on my desk, looking at all the snow. Haha! I am not a gambler, but I love the lazy river pool at the Monte Carlo! ;-)

Liz-office drama, right? You must feel like you're on an episode of The Young and The Restless.

Ok, break time is over.

I hope everyone is having a lovely AF Tuesday. :-)

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - April 2018

Rusty,you would not love the wind and dust right now,its awful! I actually cut a guy who works at the Monte Carlos yesterday and I guess they're remodeling and are gonna change the name,we'll see