One Step at a Time - May 2018

[Lizann]

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Aww Bird, sounds like you have a rough childhood! I hope you enjoy your trip. However did you end up in Georgia?

Pauly, you had me laughing with the "turd" comment! The climate here is decidedly chilly today. Hubby is still mad at me? Really? What did I do wrong? He yelled at me! BTW tomorrow is our 36th wedding anniversary, sigh. . .

Waiting for Logan to fall asleep and I will head out to meet mom at the bank. This is definitely a trigger for me and I don't understand why hubby doesn't get that? I haven't drank and I won't. Thanks for your support guys.

On a lighter note CJ and Joe sent pictures of their kitchen and the cabinets are in! CJ is soo excited! I can't wait to see her.
Hope you all enjoy your Tuesday. It's going to e 88 here today!

[NoraC]

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Good for you, Liz. You refuse to give him the power that makes you want to drink. You realize it is HIS issue. :heartbeat:

[NoraC]

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Bird and Rusty - safe travels

Hi Pauly

[Lizann]

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Hey guys! My visits to the bank went well. Dad did not come along, mom convinced him we were just dealing with the computer aspect of his accounts. The guy at the bank was super helpful. Hubby did apologize half heartily. I'm over it. Like Pauly said men came just be turds sometimes. On the bright side we will celebrate our anniversary tomorrow when I get home from work.
Anyway, thanks for letting me cry on your shoulders. I still need to get lunches and clothes ready for tomorrow.
Have a quiet AF night. I'll be back in the blankie fort in a bit, just because I'm exhausted and that's where I want to be. Love you all

[NoraC]

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I'm in the blankie fort too. Just because I want to.

Anxious to hear how the travelers are doing.

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,Happy anniversary Liz! glad things went smooth yesterday and hubs is back to being sweet tired this morning so just a huge wave to all and wishes for a wonderful AF Wednesday!

[Rusty]

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Good Morning!

I arrived home safely and I am working at home today on this sunny, glorious Hump Day!

Nora: This was brilliant!

Good for you, Liz. You refuse to give him the power that makes you want to drink. You realize it is HIS issue.

Wow, where did you learn that?? That statement is a valuable tool that could really help anyone in their AF journey, whether they are struggling, newly AF or longtime sober. Thank you, sweetheart!

Liz-Men don't apologize very easily or very well, many times. Often, they lash out in anger when they are just afraid of a possible outcome. My dad was like that...short-tempered, extremely condescending, etc. He mellowed when he got into his 70s but I really did not understand him until about 10 years after he died. So often, when I thought he was mad at one of us, he wasn't mad, he was just worried. Maybe your hubs was afraid that your parents would end up being forced to move somewhere where they didn't want to go, and you and he would be stuck dealing with the aftermath.
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-enjoy your vacation!

Pauly-there was an IHOP right near my hotel in MN and I thought of you. It was right near the Dollar Tree (oooohhhh, I love that store!!!)

Hi Glassie!

Ok, back to work.

Happy Hump Day..AF!!!

[NoraC]

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Liz - hope that you are having a Happy Anniversary. :heartbeat:

Rusty - glad that you are having a happy day. I agree with you that "not giving someone else the power that makes you want to drink" is a valuable tool. I spent too many years letting other's have that power over me.

Pauly - how are things? Did you get some rest or are you going to bed early?

Glassie - Big hugs

Bird - hope you're having a great time.

[NoraC]

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I'm sorry that I haven't been around much lately. To be honest I am having to work harder to be happy. You know what I mean? Oh well, I'm sure we all get in those moods. That's why we have a blankie fort around here.

J&C were going to come over tonight but I texted him to put it off. They were moving on Mother's Day so they didn't come over on Sunday. Lots going on in their world.
Mom has been having some episodes. Think that this is the next thing in the decline. She will suddenly sigh or call out loudly and do that several times. We've had episodes of her just groaning/humming. :sad: I get down & talk to her and she just keeps doing it. Maybe comfort?
Hubby's aunt is very sick and has gone home just to wait. She is in pain and it is so sad.
I probably already posted all of this so sorry if I'm repeating.

[NoraC]

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Law of Attraction and Alcoholism

Interesting article. Talking about focusing on the positive.

[Rusty]

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Ahhh, Nora:hug::hug: You have SO much to worry about all the time...don't worry that you haven't been posting as much. Could one of your previous hospice nurses give you some insight as to what your mom's episodes mean? So sorry to hear about hubby's aunt....sucks to get old. I am sure many elderly people, like my mom, wish they would just die in their sleep. Thank you for the Laws of Attraction link. Interesting!

Hope you had a lovely anniversary, Liz!:love:

Big hellos to everyone else...I have to run.

Happy AF Thursday!

[Lizann]

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Good morning and happy Thursday
Nora, don't worry about not posting a lot. There's so much going on with you right now. Sorry to hear about your. Mom. My guess would be its just the progression of this awful disease. You are taking such good care of mom and no doubt about it , it's hard!

Rusty, you are so sweet! You always know the right thing to say, so wise! Hope you enjoyed the nice weather the other day. It's been raining since forever here.

Bird, hope you're enjoying yourself. I really can't wait to here about it

Pauly, what's napping on your side of the world? Darn auto correct! Was going to change it but it's pretty funny, I meant happening.

Went out to dinner after work to celebrate just the two of us. Came home and FaceTimed with CJ and Joe. The progress on the house is coming along. Now they are looking into plans for adding another house on their vast piece of property. I really am missing her and can't wait to see her. Progress is also being made with Marks move to England. They have drawn up an expense account for him which is halfway approved, then we start the visa process. Can't imagine this will be completed before his start date of 7/2, but what do I know. Today I'm ok with it. As much as I want a moving date, I think maybe it's ok I'm not able to count down the days to when he leaves. Does that make sense?
Anyone else into this royal wedding? It's been all over the tv these past few days. I can't wait to see the actual wedding, but I'm already tired of it being picked apart from every angle! I will be up at 5 am on Saturday to watch and then tape it while I'm at work. I wonder how Princess Kate is feeling about all this hype? It's like she's the forgotten princess?
Well hubby has some work to do outside, so the baby is all mine for the better part of the day. He'll be 11 months tomorrow!!!
Have a great AF Thursday!

[bird]

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Hi all
Oh Nora, that is so hard. It is kinda like babies. You don't really know what is going on in their heads sometimes....nice article too......so I am here at my cousins. It is very lovely here, they have a nice yard where we sat and talked. Her kids and grands came and there was a 1 y.o to play with. Will do some riding around today to see some prairie dogs and go to the park. Had a rough flight. I hate flying and cried some. It was only 3 hours though so...also today we will go by my grandmas house, where I have many happy memories. I hope I don;t cry but I might......happy day to all

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,Nora,we love you Liz,napping haha! Nothing much with me,the drinkin nag was buggin a bit yesterday and I just came home and ate it back to sleep! Probably not the healthiest way to cope with it but its all i could do at that moment Bird,sorry the plane ride was rough but glad you're enjoying yourself Rusty,sounds like things are well with you wishes for a terrific AF Thursday!

[paulywogg]

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hubs bought some magnolian beef from a Chinese place across the street,he gave me the fortune cookie and it says"Someone is looking up to you-Dont let that person down" how true cuz I see Lou and the kids and realize what an influence i am to them,that's who I want to be