One Step at a Time - June 2018

[NoraC]

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There are such nice people in the world.
We got the car started after charging the battery. We headed over to the auto store to get a new battery. But, I was having a hard time keeping the car running whenever I had to stop. We were in the right hand lane and stalled out right before we would have crossed a major street. People honking at me as we tried to find the hazard lights. osteroops: The button was right in front of our faces. Talked about our options for a couple minutes and then hubby decided to push me backwards about 10 feet and then up a Jack in the Box driveway. A man pulled his car into the lot and jumped out and helped. They couldn't get me up the driveway but then a group of 3 workmen were walking by and they all pushed me back into a parking spot. Then that nice man tried to charge our battery, then waited while hubby took the battery out of the car and drove us across the street to Pep Boys so that hubby wouldn't have to carry the battery that far.
How nice is that!

Sadly, we had a heck of a time making it home after installing the new battery. I'll have to take the car in tomorrow. I am guessing it is the alternator.

[NoraC]

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Liz - how did the lunch with your niece go? How are things going with the gaming? There was something in the news recently about it. Talking about behavioral addiction. Sadly it seems like it is becoming common.

Pauly - I love hearing you all talk about your grandkids. I can't wait. How are things going with hubby? Is he still acting strange? Mid life crisis maybe?

Rusty - are you relaxing this weekend? Is there a lot that you need to do before the wedding? I can't wait to hear details.

Glassie - it was fun having you around!!! I hope you squeeze in some more steppers time soon.

Bird - I hope it helps having dd gone for a little bit. I can just imagine how stressful it is for you. :hug:

[NoraC]

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Liz - I'm sorry that hubby isn't being really supportive with your dad. I wonder why.......this is when you really need him to step up.
I just want to remind you to remember to take some time for yourself. You are trying to be the perfect wife, mother, daughter, employee, etc. Don't forget YOU in the middle of all of that. :heartbeat:

Glassie - did you hear anything back after your interview?

[Lizann]

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Wow, [MENTION=5628]Nora[/MENTION] that was so nice of everyone coming to help you! Bummer that it seems to be more involved though. I have been taking time for myself. Last night I went shopping and some nights I walk after I leave. By myself, in the park just enjoying nature. I think it was [MENTION=1214]Rusty[/MENTION] who said it might be hard for hubby to see my dad this way and I think she hit the nail right on the head. He came tonight and daddy was very sleepy. Hubby seemed awkward trying to talk to dad, which never happened, ever. One of the aides there asked if we would want some help at home when he's done at the rehab. We are hoping to be able to get him home and manage his care and wow, yes would need some help. She said she would be able to help us out. Seriously exactly what I was worried about earlier in the evening. A little comforting. He never opened his eyes tonight. Mark came too. I know they don't want to see Opa this way and I don't force the issue. I am tired and I don't know if I'm making sense, forgive me. The birthday lunch was fun. Things are quiet with my niece for now. I don't know if I mentioned it or not she is now engaged to the individual she met through this gaming thing. She wanted to come to another fellow gamers aid when his family kicked him out, for no reason, I might add. Seriously she lacks a sense of reality. Off to read a bit before bed! Let's make this a great week!

[Rusty]

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Good Morning, Steppers!

It is wonderful to see this thread so active… I love it!

Nora – I am so sorry to hear about your car troubles. :hug:That is so stressful… I’m glad you encountered some lovely and helpful people. When is the baby due? We are all waiting and excitement for you to become a grandma.

Pauly-my AutoCorrect has named you PROBABLY. Ha ha! To answer your question… I have to work on site in Chicago tomorrow, but the rest of my time will be spent taking my mother to her doctor's appointments and taking her to see my nieces and nephews, who are flying and driving in from all over the country. All in all, We will have 11 nieces and nephews with their spouses, and 14 great nieces and nephews in attendance at the wedding. :-) Is hubs treating you better? Glad to hear Romeo is smart and is toddling around. He is at such a fun age.

Gladys-I LOVED the coffee-making machine! Have you gotten any feedback on your interview? We are all cheering you on to your future reign as Dr. Glassie!❤️❤️❤️

Liz-ooh it is so fun to wear a new outfit. Glad the lunch went well. Wow, I am amazed that your niece is marrying her fellow gamer. I am going to post part of an article from The Fox, which says that gaming has officially been diagnosed as a mental illness. I was just talking with a close friend yesterday, and her kids love the game, Fortnite. Apparently this game is the most addicting. �� Here is the article from The Fix, 6/19/18 "The World Health Organization just added “gaming disorder” to its official International Classification of Diseases (ICD).
Gaming disorder was officially added to the 11th edition of the ICD, released Monday. While health care professionals are divided on whether gaming disorder should be included—one expert called it "a little bit premature" to label this as a diagnosis—officials with WHO explained that the intent of the official classification is to raise awareness about gaming disorder and make it possible for more people to recognize it and seek help. Gaming disorder is defined “as a pattern of gaming behavior characterized by impaired control over gaming, increasing priority given to gaming over other activities to the extent that gaming takes precedence over other interests and daily activities, and continuation or escalation of gaming despite the occurrence of negative consequences.”

Liz, I wanted to lend my support and Words of empathy when it comes to your husband’s awkwardness around your dad. My brother is the same way around my mom. My mom told me about six months before she moved into assisted living that my brother, who would visit her every other weekend, often felt awkward when he visited her and didn’t know what to say to her. He was much more comfortable when he came with my sister-in-law. My brother adores my mother and never hesitates to tell her how much he loves her, but I believe he is just so sad to see her declining as she ages. I think it’s the same with your husband and your dad. We were all so spoiled because my mother was incredibly bright and she was so active… Volunteering, driving herself and others to charitable events. Now, her memory is almost totally gone and physically, she is so frail. Since your husband's parents are gone, I am sure your husband is very sad to see your dad declining, too, and it's not a situation your husband can control. :sad: Thinking of you, sweetheart.

[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-I hope your two daughters will be able to work things out. Is your friend’s house ready to sell now?

Wow, now that I have finished this autobiography, I think I shall take a walk on the lake path.

Happy Monday to all!

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,Nora,glad those guys helped you yesterday! Hope the alternator is an easy and(inexpensive) fix,,to bad I didn't live closer cuz hubs could change it for you,he's always changing them out for the neighbors or the kid's cars,Liz,glad the party went well,these young kids these days are all into that gaming and other tech stuff dunno what the future will be like when they get older sheesh,I seen that they classified it but its gonna be like any other addiction and they won't stop unless they want to Rusty,that will be a nice get together! Such a big family you have,will be great to see everyone hubs is acting better but it was my turn to be an ass yesterday,just in an awful mood out of nowhere I hate that! Just kept thinking about my mom and dad and crying over missing them,hating Vegas,hating my job,etc you know those days? Sheesh I can't even blame it on TOM either,feel better today hope it lasts,Bird,hope your doing well much love to all and wishes for a blessed AF Monday!

[Lizann]

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Wow, [MENTION=1214]Rusty[/MENTION], that's very interesting and scary at the same time (the gaming). I will suggest sissy read the article. Nit that there is anything she could do. I wonder if K, my niece, would be open to hearing any of this. I would imagine she would deny it.
I thought about what you said as I watched hubby last night with dad, I think you are right. Thanks for pointing that out, it helps me be more understanding with him and expect less in the actual visitation department. I know you will enjoy the time this week with your family. Sounds like it's going to be quite the affair.

Pauly, your video on fb was so cute, the boys are so cute! I totally get into moods like that sometimes too. Who knows why., were hungry. Tired, hot, overwhelmed. Glad today was better.

Dad was for the most part unresponsive today. It was really scary. I thought of you Nora, because apparently he was doing a funny breathing thing, I went by after work tonight and he was starting to wake up and talking. He was hard to understand but he was answering questions approximately and asking appropriate questions, he said goodbye and I love you. this has been such a roller coaster.

[bird]

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Hi all,
Ended up drinking a few last night. Just really dumb and it doesn't even do anything or taste good. Will be closing on the new place this week, so trying to get all the packing finished. Been hot hot hot too and miserable. Mosquitoes and gnats are so bad. Summers here are brutal. Just about have the other place ready to put on the market. Busy busy.......Nora, was it your alternator? Sure was nice of those peeps to help out.....Lizann, glad the bday lunch was nice. That is hard about your dad. When my mom was getting bad, her best friend stopped visiting her. She told me she had been visiting, but my mom would not talk or anything. She said it hurt her to see her like that and stopped going. Asked me if I could understand that....Pauly, hope you are feeling better. Maybe you will be able to get out of Vegas at some point. Nice Romeo is sitting up.....Rusty, that is a lot of nieces and nephews! Have a good time....well off to do packing. Not much left.....b

[NoraC]

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Love to all. Let's have a good day.

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,hope everyone has a happy Tuesday!

[Lizann]

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How's everyone's Tuesday going? An absolutely beautiful day here!

[NoraC]

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One more hour of work and then off to drive thru and pick up my groceries. Love Walmart pickup.

[NoraC]

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Hello folks -

Mom was really aware when I got home. I walked in and she said 'you must be completely worn out.' That was amazing. She saw me, recognized the fact that I had just got home, told me how much she loved me. Really nice. Of course, it's a little worrisome when your 90 year old mother thinks I look worn out. How bad do I look?!? e044.gif

[NoraC]

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Liz - I'm sorry for what you are going thru. I do know what you mean about an episode. And, I understand what you & Rusty are talking about regarding your husband. My brother was very uncomfortable going in & sitting with my Dad. And, I know that he struggled to take care of mom. People are different and handle things differently.
Were you able to get any pool time in

Bird - sorry that you drank but glad you have a good plan in place. When are you moving? Are you moving to Georgia? I forget where you decided.

Rusty - you must be busy, busy with the family. Enjoy every minute. What a special time right now. How is your Mom doing with all the excitement? How is her pain?

Pauly - you are sounding good. I'm glad. How is Brady doing? Having fun? He's not considering moving is he? This is just vacation isn't it? Things going better with hubby?

Oh - I forgot to tell you that it was just the battery. My car has been working fine. I was all set to have it towed and then decided I might be able to baby it over to the shop. It worked perfectly. Glad I figured that out before I had it towed!

Glassie - what is new & exciting? Did I tell you that I am trying to decide what country I should move to? LOL Of course, I thought of you! :love: It's a nice dream. I am too old & set in my ways.

[Lizann]

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Nora, glad it was just the battery! How exciting that mom was aware today. I'm sure you don't really look worn out, it's just what moms say! How is DIL feeling? Uncomfortable I would imagine. I did get some pool time in today and it was wonderful! I read the paper and caught up on some of my magazines!

Bird, I know what you mean about the taste of al and not even wanting it, but still drinking it. It is the nature of the disease. I hope you're back on track. Yes, where did you finally decide to move to? Maybe things will calm down once this is all behind you, hope so.

Waves to everyone and wishes for a peaceful AF night!