One Step at a Time - June 2018

[Glass Half Empty]

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Liz I understand how bittersweet it must be to see your parents going through this. Together, but also alone. That’s so sad.

My parents have been married for 63 years and my father refers to their relationship as “the greatest love story that’s never been told”. (Except most of his book is about her!).
I have a story that always me cry whenever I think of it.

Many years ago, my parents went on one of their usual caravanning holidays and my mother hurt her back very badly and had to be airlifted home. So my sister and I collected her and looked after her until Dad (who probably broke every speed limit on the way), drove back. She was in a bedroom just near the front door, and when she heard him open it she called out “Oh, are you home?” . And he said “No”, and then went into the room and put his arms around her and said “Now I am”.

[NoraC]

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Home. Yahoo.

Glassie - you have been sick for so long. Please, please take care of yourself. :hug: How about working at home for a couple weeks?

Pauly - glad to see you posting. Hope that you get back to where you want to be right away. :love:

Glassie - you brought up a very good point. We have to do the work ourselves and find our own way out. We can offer love & support to each other but we can't fix it.
You are very right that there are different types of drinking. Thanks for that reminder. My drinking behavior did escalate but I certainly don't think that is the case for everyone.
You can go without and not fret about it. I struggled when I would go 30 or 60 days without. (I struggled when I would go one day without!) It would be in my thoughts all the time. And a bottle of wine absolutely didn't last me more than one day.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Liz I understand how bittersweet it must be to see your parents going through this. Together, but also alone. That’s so sad.

My parents have been married for 63 years and my father refers to their relationship as “the greatest love story that’s never been told”. (Except most of his book is about her!).
I have a story that always me cry whenever I think of it.

Many years ago, my parents went on one of their usual caravanning holidays and my mother hurt her back very badly and had to be airlifted home. So my sister and I collected her and looked after her until Dad (who probably broke every speed limit on the way), drove back. She was in a bedroom just near the front door, and when she heard him open it she called out “Oh, are you home?” . And he said “No”, and then went into the room and put his arms around her and said “Now I am”.

That is a beautiful story. Made me cry. Thank you for sharing. :hug:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Liz - how are things going today? Did your dad get to leave the hospital?

Bird - I saw that you went by your job. Did you tell everyone goodbye?

Rusty - guess you must be busy, busy.

[Lizann]

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Glassie, please take care of yourself! That was such a sweet story about your parents. Mine have been married 63 years also. I totally agree with you comment about drinking. There is no "answer". We each just need to figure out what works for us. Everyone is different. There was a story on the news today about David Cassidy. He admitted that he had never stopped drinking, was a closet drinker and lied about it. I kinda figured that and didn't buy it when he said he had dementia. I feel bad for him, I understand how he got to where he did and that's scary.

Daddy went to rehab late this afternoon. I was at work so my twin (ts) took mom to the hospital. She was pretty upset after physical therapy. Watching him like that was difficult for her. He walked 5 steps, though with a walker. I went to see him after work tonight and big sister (bs). Was there feeding him. He was so confused. He kept calling for mom. Bs left and I stayed until visiting hours were over, hubby stopped in too. Dad kept trying to get out of the bed. The nurses out an alarm on his bed when we left. I will go at 8 and help him with breakfast, the rehab is literally 1 mile from my house.

Pauly, happy anniversary! You picture was so cute!

Nora, how is your mom doing?

Rusty and bird, you must both be working very hard. Hope everything's ok!

[NoraC]

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(((((((((((((liz))))))))))))))))

[bird]

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Hi all,
So my job wanted me to come in a couple hours a day and help a kid they hired. I said ok, but changed my mind, so went in to tell the kid and there are 2 old welders working there so they can help him. Too much going on to deal with that place.....so dd1 takes her driving test again tomorrow. Saturday is the yard sale. Been moving some stuff into storage....there is a farm down the road and they are picking corn today. Every few minutes a truck full of it drives by. I hope some of it falls off. It always does. When they pick cabbages they fall off a lot and you can get plenty.:yay:....Nora, glad you got some peace and quiet. I have to get up early for it when the kids are home....Lizann, glad the rehab is so close. And that you met some new folks. That is something I need. Hopefully when I move I will make friends.....Glassie, I never hide booze either. Lovely story about your parents. Glad you are doing better....Pauly, happy 28 years! Sorry you got a bit sad....I got a bit sad too...the kids went to the V.A. man. They have been trying to get help with college since their dad was a vet. They say his heart condition could have been from agent orange...anyway, they brought his medical records home. Alot of crazy stuff in there. And then I was just thinking so many people in my life have died. Then I was kinda blah for a bit. But not long. I am usually a happy type...anyway, off to the clean up......b

[NoraC]

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Hi all. Another stressful day here. I'm just deep breathing.
Liz - thinking of you.

Pauly - Happy anniversary late. Hope it was a wonderful day. Is Brady thinking of moving?

[Glass Half Empty]

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Nora is the stress just your Mom, or work, or something else? Can we help other than sending virtual hugs?

Bird you made me laugh. I live in an apartment about 3 miles from the center of the city, so no free vegetables here! I'd probably freak out a bit if I randomly found some cabbage or corn outside my apartment building.

I just had a major win at work. The tribunal handed down a decision in our favour on a case I've been working on for some time. Kind of makes it worth it!

Hugs to Liz and Pauly and anyone else who needs them.

:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[NoraC]

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Hello again - just work being work that's all. It is what it is. I'll just take it as it goes.

Glassie - congratulations on a favorable decision!!! :love:

I laughed when you talked about freaking out if you found random cabbages. I probably would too.
But, seriously Bird - that is so cool. Hope you get some corn.

Pauly - how is it going? You feeling better now?

Liz - how did it go today?

Rusty - hope you get the weekend off.

[Lizann]

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Yes thank you Glassie, I definitely need those hugs. I'm happy they passed a decision in your favor. We know how hard and how much time you put in! Hope you're feeling better everyday.

Bird, I love corn! I'd be following behind those trucks, not so much for the cabbage though. Our church is having a yard sale this weekend too. Hope you get rid of a lot of stuff and make some money to boot.

Nora, sorry you had a stressful day. I really wish we could all just get together and get away from it all. You know just disappear somewhere in a quiet mountain retreat/spa or something.

Rusty, Pauly hope you're doing ok.

Went by daddy for meals today. He was still extremely confused. He wanted to get up and paint the wall! He perked up a bit at lunch time, but he is worse than we have ever seen him.

Cuddling with Lucy right now and just watching tv, need a little normal. Wishing you all a peaceful AF night.

[Lizann]

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Cross post Nora, you sound a lot better now:happy2:

[NoraC]

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Oh Liz - I'm sorry. :sad: I imagine that the confusion will be worse for awhile. Strange environment and so much pain. I know how hard it is and I am so very sorry. :hug:

I agree with the getting away from it all. Oh well - I'll just put the blankie fort for us instead.

[NoraC]

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[NoraC]

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