One Step at a Time - June 2018

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Hi guys. We all survived. :yay:
It was lovely. Everyone had a wonderful time. They received so many nice gifts. No major drama happened here. My niece is not really speaking to her dad after what happened at her house. She is furious with him. I don't know the details but on Friday and on Saturday there were incidents where he acted inappropriately. My DIL was telling me this evening that my brother walked in with a tall beer. He heard my niece's voice and he went and put the beer in the fridge and didn't drink it. So, yep - there was definitely tension. But, my brother got up and helped clean up. He helped fold chairs and he picked up food and carried into the house. He has NEVER done that before. My BIL had been hopping up over & over helping out - so whether my brother noticed that or if he has turned over a new leaf? I don't know.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

You all are my tribe (and Glassie, notice how neat & tidy this one is )

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Good Early Morning, Afternoon and Evening, Everyone!:happy2:

Nora-so glad you survived the shower and there was just a little tension and not a big blow-up. I think your brother was probably on his best behavior and didn't want to look bad, as in helping your BIL fold chairs and put things away afterward. I'm glad he put his beer back in the fridge. What was the winning number for the M%Ms contest? I love our new, elegant blankie fort that is so clean it will exceed the future Dr. Glassie's expectations.:heartbeat:

Liz-I saw the pictures of the shower on FB. Lovely! As far as flowers, I get geraniums and wave petunias of pink, red, white and red. They love the sun, and they are on all 3 decks. I wanted to mention...I saw the previews of the special on David Cassidy. Oh, I used to have such a crush on him. Really sad...so young. Before my aunt got sober, about a year before she went to rehab, she said she had the onset of dementia, and that's why her behavior was so erratic. Like David Cassidy, it was all AL...she never had dementia. Ugh, the lies we tell ourselves and others. Sickening.

Glassie-I would love to hear about little HRH when you have the time. I know your illness probably set you back workwise. I know you got some good news last week so Congratulations to you!:goodjob:

Today I am at home but busy with work and then the contractor is coming again to give me the quote on my bathroom. I am so excited. My guest/office bathroom currently has that original seafoam blue sink, bathtub, and floor, from 1970! UGH! It has to go, NOW! My sweet sister's bathrooms are all in Carrera marble, and she had an extra slab of marble that she has no use for, so she is giving me a slab of marble that will become my vanity top, and a new sink....just because she loves me. That's what she said anyway. I love her more than anyone (besides my mom) in the world. She always has time for me and she has been giving great advice on negotiating with this contractor. Alcohol almost destroyed our relationship, and sometimes when those drinking thoughts come out of nowhere, I think about my sister and what we would both lose if I started drinking again.
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-what are you up to today? Did your weekend turn out as planned?

Regarding hiding bottles and sneaking drinks...I never did that. A former MWO member who has been sober a number of years told me the reason I didn't do that was because I lived alone. That's not entirely accurate. Many times, I would be working near my mom and I would spend several nights with her and I didn't sneak drinks. I don't know why. Oh well.

A shoutout to [MENTION=9396]DriftyAlison0[/MENTION] and [MENTION=24196]Rava[/MENTION]...come and join us! A shoutout also to the MIA Pauly. Pauly, come back...I miss your sweet posts!


Happy AF Monday to all! :-)

[bird]

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Hi all,
So went over to the house yesterday. A guy came to pick something up he had bought. He said he might be interested in buying the house if it was priced right. Wow, wouldn"t that be too easy? Then another guy came to buy a heater I had advertised on fb. He ended up buying much more stuff, and carting off stuff I had tagged for the trash or thrift. Said he would haul it all off if I wanted. Also he knows someone who will probably buy my old van. So then I worked in the yard some and never made it to the park or anywhere. Well it is 3 hours to the beach here, so I go about twice a year.....Nora, glad all went well with the shower. And good of him to put the beer back. Nice fort btw.....Lizann, the shower sound like you had a good time. ....Rusty, I love flowers. Your bathroom plans sound exciting. Good you have a nice relationship with sister....b

[DriftyAlison0]

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Today is good so far. Had a couple of errands to go to and now at home resting until my evening shift. Training for the day shift went well. I won't work days too often, but they wanted someone else trained during the day.

I want to take a nap but I am focusing on going to bed early and waking up early so I can still be in the habit of it. So I know that if I were to take a nap, I would not be able to go to bed early tonight.

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Good job on having a plan in place, [MENTION=9396]DriftyAlison0[/MENTION]...you know what to do to keep the AL beast away. What kind of shift work do you do? If it's too personal to answer here, I totally understand.
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-I hope you can sell your house and get the price you want. :-)

Took a work break but now I have to get back to it.

[NoraC]

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Happy Monday. One more hour of work and then I'm out of here nthego:

[NoraC]

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Hello everyone.

Way to go Drifty.
Your bathroom sounds gorgeous Rusty.
Liz - how is your Dad?
Pauly - I need to go look for you.
Bird - so glad that so much got done
Glassie - where are you? I wanted you to notice the tidy fort. LOL

[Lizann]

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Rusty, how exciting, a new bathroom! How sweet your sister is sharing her marble with you. I hear bathrooms are a messy job. Mine could use to be redone, but we'll see. I would love to see an after picture, I am assuming it will be all white? How is work going?

Nora, I saw some pics on line of the shower. I'm so glad it went well and everyone had a good time. Did she get a lot of cute baby girl outfits? It's getting close now, whatever the reason, I'm glad your brother helped out. I love the blankie fort and I'm glad I'm part of the tribe!

Bird, yay on some forward progress. I'm sure it feels good to be getting rid of things. Wouldn't that be great if that guy did buy it.

Drifty you are sounding much better today. How are you managing staying sober? Some days are just harder than others. We are here for you. I'm glad your here.

Pauly, I hope your ok? Did see the picture of Romeo and he is just too cute!

Nora, dad is the same, thanks for asking. Ts was frazzled when I got there last night. Dad was trying to get outta the bed and was scrunched sideways. She couldn't find anyone to help her straighten him out. We did it together. He seems to be uncomfortable but it's hard to get anything out of him. PT said he has made a tiny bit of progress. I was happy. I am working again tomorrow so I will be there for his dinner. I snuck in lasagna last night and he ate it all! I will bring him some leftover stuffed shells tomorrow. He loves pasta! It is apparently going to be a long recovery process.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Liz - how is your mom holding up?

[paulywogg]

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Hey all,Nora,glad the shower went well Liz,like Nora asked how is your mom doing with all this? I imagine it would be rough Rusty,thank you for the email,that was really sweet of you,Bird,sounds like things are going well for you,yay! Hi Drifty and Glassy getting hot here and my driver's side window decided to stay open making the a/c useless,oh well,much love to all and wishes for a great af day!

[DriftyAlison0]

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Today is day 4 and although the urges are there, I am putting my foot down. I know if I drink, it will still be there and the only way to quench the demon is by not listening to them. Eventually it go will way down to barley and then be so weak. I just need to hang in there. I will never let my guard down again.

[paulywogg]

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Drifty,I'm on day 5 and still feel rough that's what I get tho for hitting it so hard,we'll get through

[DriftyAlison0]

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Yeah just got to remember that it will get easier. If I did this once, I can do it again.

[Lizann]

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Pauly and drifts, glad those days are adding up for both of you.

Thanks for asking about my mom, she's holding up ok. She said it hurts her heart to see him this way. She left the other day while he had therapy because it was just too difficult to watch. I went to give him dinner tonight and he was so tired, I could barely keep him awake to feed him. I'm feeding my daddy, sigh. . . My mom has always been one tough cookie, but this has really brought her to her knees. We're just coping one day at a time.

I had a horrible drinking dream last night. I was so upset when I woke up, really shook me up. I don't even remember the dream.
Hope everyone had a good Tuesday. I'm headed to the blankie fort.