One Step at a Time - June 2018

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Thanks Bird - I was going to delete my post but you already replied. I was just feeling just down this morning. I just need to take a step back, take a breath and let it go. I talked to my boss today and she obviously doesn't think I do my job. Never anything specific and when I try to pin it down, she changes the subject. She talks over me. No direction on what she wants me to do or what my job duties are. Same issue that my friend is having. She is my age and she's about ready to move to Washington where her daughter just moved. I think that it's just me but then I realize that she talks and treats everyone this way. Nobody does anything the right way.
Anyway, thank you for letting me vent. Think I'll do some yoga tonight and try to relax. I need to keep my head in a good place. And to be honest, I feel quite ridiculous complaining about my petty problems when there is so much sadness in the world.

How is everyone else doing?

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Good Morning, Friends!

I have been away from home working all week in northern Wisconsin. I have a 4-hour drive this morning and it cannot come soon enough! I am at work and on a break so my apologies for not addressing everyone.

[MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION]:heartbeat:I am praying the treatments will enable you to stay with us forever.

Nora:hug: I can feel your pain regarding your job situation. I have had SO many jobs where I was miserable. I have been in my current field for 20 years and there are days I am so bored I think I am going to lose my mind. Your boss sounds like one of my old bosses. UGH! I get along so much better with men.
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-I love reading your Sobriety Quest thread. I hope the AF days start adding back up.
[MENTION=16384]drifty[/MENTION]-it looks like you have been active in Chat. Good for you. :-)

Liz-how sweet that your dad told you he loves you. How is your Mom holding up?

Pauly-is everyone at your house well again? I saw your post about your job. I bet your clients love you, though.

Glassie-how re you feeling, love?

Well, back to work. Happy AF Thursday to all.

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Hi all,
Nora, I don't think its petty Our jobs are a big part of our life, and when management is piss poor it makes life hard. Trying to leave that stuff after you leave work just never worked for me. I would brood over the unfairness of it all. For years. Hopefully you will get a break soon......so I had a really bad night. Didnt drink but thought about it. Drove DD1 to Macon and back, as apartment she had been wanting for fall semester came available, and the landlady doesn't take phone payments. I was very excited for her, and she was excited about it. That is the good part, but when we got home she told dd2 not to eat HER pickles, which dd1 was not eating HER pickles. Then could not find HER yogurt bars. This is stuff I bought, but she had picked out for herself while grocery shopping with me. Anyway dd2 had eaten all the yogurt bars while we were gone, and did not know they were HERS. DD2 got very angry and through her drumsticks and they had a few words and dd2 went outside and threw her phone and keys and cried a lot while dd1 went in her room and had a meltdown.....went to talk with dd2, who has been angry with dd1 for a long time, for not helping us with the house much and a lot of other things over the years. It has just all been building up and this summer has been hard, and dd1 going on about ice cream and pickles....well.....anyway, had a long talk with dd2. She cried a lot and very upset with dd1 for a long time. Stuff that has been going on for a long time because we never say anything to her, because of fear of her depression and suicidal tendancies. Really messed up I know this, but am at a loss as to how to fix it. So then I went to dd1 to talk, and told her a few things of the problems of talking to her. It turned into something horrible, with her crying a lot and saying I was saying she was useless, and that dd2 hated her and on and on. Then she wanted to go to the hospital as she wanted to die. So we got ready but she really did not want to go there, as they lock her up for a week or 2. She has been 3 times before. We rode around for awhile and talked things out, and I hope she can see now that nobody is hating her, but only trying to repair problems.....so all seems a bit more clear to her now, as to how dd2 is feeling, and myself as well...I just want to run away....where is that blankie fort? I surely need it. I may drive down to the beach and leave them a note on the fridge. Do not text or call. Do not kill each other or self. Be home later. Love mom....b

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

xpost rusty

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Oh Bird. I'm so sorry.

Rusty- you have been missed while you have been working

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Morning friends,Bird:hug:I'm sorry about all the chaos with your girls I know how hard that situation can be,does your daughter see someone for her depression?keep your head up Nora,same to you big hugs,yep the state of the country/world is unsettling,,I knew it would be like this but nothing I can do except keep my own area peaceful,Rusty,there you are! Yes the customers I have are more like friends at this point haha,it works for me Liz,hello to you and Gladys,much love to all and wishes for a wonderful AF Thursday!

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

*Glassy!! Spellcheck changes it to Gladys every time!

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

I wondered why ok Gladys was. :victorious:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

I wondered why ok Gladys was. :victorious:

Talk about spell check. :rotlf: I meant to say that I wondered who Gladys was. :harhar:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Ok guys - I'm off my doom & gloom mentality. Thank you for bearing with me. It's time to put on a happy face and be positive.

And, I will do that as soon as I pay some bills.........be right back nthego:

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Wow bird! That is so hard! I think you handled it well, but I get how overwhelmed you must be. Maybe since there was a blow up, things will be calm for awhile.

Nora, I am sorry about your job. I hope venting here helps. Somethings just aren't going to change. How long have you worked there?

Rusty, four hours in the car by myself sounds pretty awesome to me right now, lol. I guess it gets old, though. Hope you have some fun plans for the weekend.

Pauly, the new girl at work asked me to color and highlight her hair, because she likes mine so much. No thank you! I hate doing it too, I know what you mean.

Dad has made some progress as far as family is concerned. The rehab doesn't necessarily agree, but we see improvement in his confusion. Mom is ok, She told me today she promised him she would never put him in a nursing home. It breaks my heart at night when I leave him and say goodbye. Trying to find the good in each day inspite of all of this.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Oh Liz - I am sure it is heartbreaking to leave your Dad. Also heartbreaking watching your Mom go thru this. :sad: My heart just hurts for you. :hug: I used to love to get in the car and just drive. Alone. Ah, those were the days. LOL
Thanks for asking. I have worked at my job for 41 years. I loved my job. Things have changed. I had a talk with my boss yesterday(she is the owner's daughter and is running the company now). She is on such a different mentality and whatever she has stuck in her head is not going to change. I am just going to put my head down and do what I need to so that I can last for another 2-1/2 years.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Bird - how are things going with your daughters today? Were you able to sneak away and have some alone time.
I can only imagine how scary it is for you when your daughter is suicidal. Not wanting to confront dd1 but also not wanting to hurt dd2. :sad:
I hope that you were able to have some time for YOU today. :hug:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Rusty - are you home now? That is a long drive. How long did you stay there? All week?

Pauly - how are you feeling? You are sounding better. I think it's cool that your clients are more like family.

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - June 2018

Wow Nora 41 years?!? I went to lunch with my former coworkers Tuesday and we all agreed, we loved our jobs but things have changed and not for the better. I told them I loved the job when I started there, but not when I left. I know it's hard to believe now, but the time will go quickly. Better things are coming. How much vacation time do you get?