One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Thanks Rusty - I just needed to vent. LOL He just called me again to give me an update. So far tests have been good. Her temperature is staying down. They are running a 24 hour culture. Hopefully everything is fine and they can go home tomorrow. C said that he feels awful - everything hurts so it must have been a virus he had. Maybe that is what the baby has???

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Hey Nora, cross post again! Yes, I was thinking the same thing...he had a virus and he gave it to the baby. Poor guy...he couldn't help it. So glad the fever is staying down...such a relief! Vent away!

OOPS...cross post Nora and bird. Sorry!!

Ugh, Nora, it sounds like your brother's friend is kind of an ignorant boob! It's too bad he couldn't have remembered a happy memory....he probably thought it was funny that you got drunk. I don't know what to say about your friend's nonchalant attitude....maybe she is jealous because she knows she would like to quit but can't?

[Glass Half Empty]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Nora it sounds as though you have a lot happening at the moment. Can I make one suggestion in regards to C and J? Don't take anything they do at the moment personally. They're dealing with a massive life change and probably feeling scared, exhausted, a bit inadequate, and totally self-absorbed in their new family unit. They were probably scared ****less with the little one having to go to hospital and knew nobody could do anything, so didn't think twice about who they should tell. Just be proud and glad that they love you enough to let you be one of the first to see and hold the little one and give this new relationship time to develop. (Sorry if I'm sounding bossy). :love::love::love:

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Good Morning!!

Glassie

Nora it sounds as though you have a lot happening at the moment. Can I make one suggestion in regards to C and J? Don't take anything they do at the moment personally. They're dealing with a massive life change and probably feeling scared, exhausted, a bit inadequate, and totally self-absorbed in their new family unit. They were probably scared ****less with the little one having to go to hospital and knew nobody could do anything, so didn't think twice about who they should tell. Just be proud and glad that they love you enough to let you be one of the first to see and hold the little one and give this new relationship time to develop. (Sorry if I'm sounding bossy).

Damn, you're smart, woman! I have just crowned you with the position of Thread Psychologist. :heartbeat: All those in favor, raise your hands!!!!:victorious:

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Glassy, you are NEVER bossy...I am the one who's bossy and I must change that!

It is going to be another gorgeous, sunny day today and I have decided to practice self-care and blow off my work duties so I can walk on the lake path and jump in the lake. Hahahahahh


Happy AF and Self-Caring Monday!

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Morning friends,Nora,try not to take it the wrong way,it's more than likely Rusty's explanation or Glassys or maybe something else,,I'd be pissed too tho,I'm too up my kid's bums as it is so I'd be throwing a bitchfit but that would just make me look selfish especially when it's about the baby and how they want to handle it,not about me if that made any sense haha,I still feel car lagged,went to see family and it all went fine,didn't get to see my dad cuz he told my mom before I came up that he's been super sick with a cold or flu he doesn't know and didn't feel like company,sounds strange to me but I know when I'm sick I hate people around me too,still think I should have just gone over for a quick bueno and hug but didn't want to piss him off either,so we just spent most of our time at my mom's and the pow wow,a short bit at the lake,,,to windy for Romeo,much love to all and wishes for a nice AF Monday!

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Thanks guys. I just needed you all to tell me to chill out. I'm here when they need me.

Have a fantastic day.

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Pauly:love:welcome back...too bad you didn't get to see your dad but great that you could see your mom. Quick Buenos are sometimes the best! ;-)

Nora:hug:You are a wonderful grandma....Savannah is SO lucky! :-)

[NoSugar]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Thanks guys. I just needed you all to tell me to chill out. I'm here when they need me.

You know, Nora, I am kept at a distance in one case and am intimately involved in the other. All I can say is there are definite advantages both ways. I try to appreciate what is good about each and not let the downsides (which both have) bring me down. I figure everyone is doing the best they can given how they see the situation. And --- heads up! -- when things really go off the rails, the "distant" ones come running and we become very involved!! The most important thing is that they know they can count on you. (And you know what is great? While your feelings of being left out are totally understandable, just imagine how awful you would be feeling if you thought it was happening because they couldn't trust you due to drinking??? Thank goodness Savannah will never be part of that business.) xx, NS

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

No Sugar, nicely put and I agree with you. [MENTION=5628]Nora[/MENTION], i am sorry you are feeling left out. I am glad hubby and I took a grand parenting class before Logan came along. they talked a lot about our feelings and I just feel like it helped me deal with my expectations. This is so new to all of you. You are wise to give it time. Just let them know your there regardless. We as parents have to swallow a lot of hurt and I'm sure it wasn't intentional. Is everyone feeling better?

Rusty, your swim in the lake has me so envious. CJs SIL and BIL are moving to MN. He got a job out there and she is very unhappily moving there. So far from family and friends. Apparently not a very culturally diverse place to be?

PAuly, glad you had a good weekend.

CJ is here with me, so I'll check in with you all tomorrow. She is leaving early am.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Thank you all for telling me what I need to hear. I truly appreciate it. Your words really helped - thank you!! I really needed to talk it out.

They are hoping that she can go home tomorrow. She is on IV antibiotics and fluid. They have started cutting back on that to make sure that she is getting enough food from Mommy before they go home.
I went to the the hospital late morning and stayed until about 4:30. I was able to hold Savannah and they were able to lay down and nap. C is still fighting the virus I think because his whole body is aching. J is still really hurting from all she went thru. And my poor little baby has an IV in her hand. :sad: She just wants to be held right now so I'm glad that they were able to have a little break. I brought them breakfast and dinner so they were able to eat.
I told them to let me know tomorrow if they needed me to bring them food or sit with her again. So, I was a helpful Grandma. LOL

I am done with this thread being all about me. I am officially turning the floor over to someone else. :victorious:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

@NoSugar - it was nice to be able to say to them as I left -of course you can call me anytime and I'll come right over.

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

[MENTION=5628]Nora[/MENTION], so glad you were able to stay and help out today. You go grandma! I hope everyone feels better ASAP!
Lol, I don't really want to take over the floor, either. Any takers out there?
CJ was sitting with me in the family room before and we were just talking and laughing. It was a kind of hard evening for me but I put on my happy face. It just hit me like a ton of bricks when I took Lucy out tonight, I'll never hear my dads voice again and Cjs leaving tomorrow. I'm not sure I'm liking the way the world is looking right now.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

(((((((((((Liz))))))))))))) [MENTION=19302]Lizann[/MENTION] - this is so hard right now. It gets easier but even right now as I type this, I'm crying. I want to talk to my Daddy. I understand so much! Please share your feelings when you are sad.......it's a heartbreaking time right now. :heartbeat:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - Dry (And Healthy, Self-Caring) July 2018

Have you listened to Demi Lovato's song, Sober? Wow. :sad:

Sober