July Army Manoeuvres

[RunningCourage]

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Morning troopers,

Great chat. Am just winding myself up for another 7-8 hr stint with me heid in the laptop working.

Will be back when I've got summit interesting to say!

[mollyka]

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Know the feeling Arsey - I'm boring as shit at the moment!!! Best get ready for work - be back xx

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Always interested to understand relapses, especially the long terms ones. Bridge, before you got the bad news in January, any changes in your mindset creeping back in??

Not. One. Thing. I was perfectly happy in my little bubble.
It was all about this 'thing'' .....but then it's not , is it? Because people go through hideous 'things'' all the time and don't drink. That's just my way or the way I chose.
Enjoy your trip [MENTION=2977]Cinders[/MENTION] You are doing so well since I was last here. You got it this time, I see.
JC this is why I knew moderation would never be a choice for me. Some people can do it. I can't.
You are exactly right Satzy. Alcohol should be as important as Christmas - only happens once a year and most people can't be bothered even then anyway. We are the ones who give it all it's power. Remember that stupid bloody thing The Secret? What was it? 'Power flows where attention goes' or some crap? It is true though.
Anyway, enough rubbish. This is night 5 and Friday night. Just about broke my neck at the intersection where I usually turn off to get my booze enroute the seat of learning to home. So I jetted through the round about at Mach 3, donned Pj's, made cuppa, removed my slap and put as many barriers between myself and going out to buy the goods. All's calm on the farm.
Now, where the hell is Tabbers???
And Oney? Has she ever re-emerged?

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
Its peeping through your fingers time when the news comes on. Hopefully, he'll get buried in a sand bunker when he's playing golf today.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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I actually think that in order to keep our mental balance that we need to desensitize ourselves to and distance ourselves from a lot of things. Otherwise we get bogged down in other people's problems. That may sound cold, but I need to be sure I'm okay and then worry about others.

God that's it EXACTLY. I have never been able to put my family in their correct hierarchy . They all go out there and live wild and free until there's a massive problem, then that problem somehow becomes mine! You've just struck on it. Were you always this wise?:happy2: [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION] they are my biggest problem and the only thing that could completely derail me beyond very minor lapses in all that time.

So what are plans for the weekend folks?

[JackieClaire]

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Morning Bridgeeeeeeeee,
Here's a question.............do we take on the problems of our families because we were drunks and just about tie ourselves in knots trying to make amends.
I know I did expecially with Jenny and finally exploded last weekend and the S&H the weekend before.........A few home truths were told, lots of tears were shed on both sides. The air was cleared........until the next time. One of my favourite lines from me was.............I didn't actually choose this as a career path....put that at 200 decibels.

Right I'm off to get my hair cut.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Morning Bridgeeeeeeeee,
Here's a question.............do we take on the problems of our families because we were drunks and just about tie ourselves in knots trying to make amends.
I know I did expecially with Jenny and finally exploded last weekend and the S&H the weekend before.........A few home truths were told, lots of tears were shed on both sides. The air was cleared........until the next time. One of my favourite lines from me was.............I didn't actually choose this as a career path....put that at 200 decibels.
Right I'm off to get my hair cut.

I think that's well possible nay probable, but I can tell you my family have nothing to feel superior about. Actually that was what one of the bigger stoushes was about. They either forgive us or not. We might forgive them too. Guilt is not a great commodity to be trading in though. I think that if they smell guilt they go in for the kill, maybe even subconsciously, just human nature.
I think my stance will be more - let's put our energy into building ourselves up rather than bashing each other down in this bizarre circular behavioural pattern.
Anyway, enjoy that haircut, lady. It's nice to go to the salon.

[starty]

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Hi all, lovely 9k wander round the country park and a swim for the doggers. Bliss. Few irritating peeps about getting fractious with their pooches which pisses me off. Tried to give a lady some tips for her dog but she wasnt listening. Just wanted the dog to do what she wanted with little effort on her part I suppose.

This weekend I have my nordic walking lesson (yes really) and a barbie at a blokes house who was my boyfriend when I was 16. He introduced me to Mr Starts. So he probably was trying to get rid :haha: then Monday and Tuesday off work so pleasing myself. Whats everyone else up to?

[starty]

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Many congrats on day 5 Bridge, that is wonderful. How long have you been drinking this time do you think you will get WDs?

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Many congrats on day 5 Bridge, that is wonderful. How long have you been drinking this time do you think you will get WDs?

Since 25th January. I have never had Wds luckily. Just the hangover and the cravings.

Now, Mr Starts getting on OK?
And do I detect part time work happening instead of full time? Good for you! I would love that.

[satz123]

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Yeah Bridge I wondered about WD's too.
I see Young Satz and he is in 'bits' with shakes and anxiety when he decides to stop.
I wasted 2 lovely Zanex I was saving for the plane trip on him - 'cos he drank anyway. grrrr

On the plus side he' s been sober 2 weeks now - says he has a plan.
Got a job and I hope the plan is to earn money & move the feck out :haha:

Like Stirls says I am looking after number one these days first - let them all solve their own shit out -ask for help but DO NOT expect me to fix it..
This REALLY sounds hard but that includes my mother - and the knock-on shit that family are at at the moment - hospital visiting 'schedule' etc. FFS !!

I NEED to keep my head straight ... then deal with their stuff if I have time. :llama:
I have saved my own life by getting sober and I am not about to give it away to anyone....

[starty]

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Since 25th January. I have never had Wds luckily. Just the hangover and the cravings.

Now, Mr Starts getting on OK?
And do I detect part time work happening instead of full time? Good for you! I would love that.

Yes, he is fine thanks.
No part time just yet. Full on, full stress pound of flesh type work. I was going to leave or go part time and then they promoted me so that is on the back burner for a bit. Wont be too long till I ask for reduced hours though. I do not want to be doing this when I am 60! How about you? Full time?

[starty]

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Yeah Bridge I wondered about WD's too.
I see Young Satz and he is in 'bits' with shakes and anxiety when he decides to stop.
I wasted 2 lovely Zanex I was saving for the plane trip on him - 'cos he drank anyway. grrrr

On the plus side he' s been sober 2 weeks now - says he has a plan.
Got a job and I hope the plan is to earn money & move the feck out :haha:

Like Stirls says I am looking after number one these days first - let them all solve their own shit out -ask for help but DO NOT expect me to fix it..
This REALLY sounds hard but that includes my mother - and the knock-on shit that family are at at the moment - hospital visiting 'schedule' etc. FFS !!

I NEED to keep my head straight ... then deal with their stuff if I have time. :llama:
I have saved my own life by getting sober and I am not about to give it away to anyone....

2 weeks is a great start. Looks like you and yours distancing yourselves gave him a wake up call? How come you got Xanax? We cant get it over here for love nor money.

Trouble I found was even if I didnt have to deal with others shit it worried me enough to derail me. Mind you I dont have kids so that must help

[starty]

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Shhiiiiit the bin men are empyting the recycling. Just heard what sounds like a huge bin full of bottles being tipped in. Wonder whose that is :haha:

[satz123]

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Here's a question.............do we take on the problems of our families because we were drunks and just about tie ourselves in knots trying to make amends.
I know I did expecially with Jenny and finally exploded last weekend and the S&H the weekend before.........

Yes JC I do believe that we overcompensated for years - and family do not like it when the worm turns.
I have had so many arguments with MrS when he wants me to go somewhere ..... usually a pub or party. I would have gone when drinking and used alcohol to dull the pain.
Now I say NO and he can't accept that.

I then point out that when he did 'Dry January' this year - he never set foot in a pub .... didn't see the point :hung: