August Army Manoevres

[satz123]

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On the other hand a boss that enables him???

Oh Molls I doubt he even has a boss any more .....
It's so hard sitting back & watching his life slip further & further down the tubes. But it must be done.
He has nothing left.

[mollyka]

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Oh Molls I doubt he even has a boss any more .....
It's so hard sitting back & watching his life slip further & further down the tubes. But it must be done.
He has nothing left.

I know - and putting on my addict hat trying to put myself back in those shoes - I spose that's what he feels - he has nothing except drink not taking any responsibility for putting himself in that situation - there IS no rhyme nor reason to addicts thinking - no consolation to you I know but you have to hope he will wake up some day and scream 'enough!'?
How on God's earth can he drink alcoholically on the scratcher???

[sweetpea29]

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Evening folks

Thanks for the input re dementia x

I hear you Satz re getting him assessed for help but that's a def no-no at present. He would still have full capacity and would downright refuse anything including the assessment. He is only 66 and quite well physically, still can look after himself, wash, dress, cook sorta clean maybe not to my standard that's my prob! but working in the system I know he wouldn't be entitled to any help yet even if he wanted it!
I hear you also re being selfish, not being a martyr, so many do say it to me. When I try take a step back it only lasts few days max then the guilt and worry get me. Just can't do it.
Am learning tho that more shit is gonna happen, he forget to pay for fuel the other week ffs, had police at the door (I found this out secondhand btw he still hasn't told me) I'm trying to let go of the worry and realise I can't control everything he does / doesn't do!

Funny, in work I absolutely love looking after those with dementia, I actually love them but I feckin hate the disease and what it takes from those we love. Such a cruel horrible thing and still like a social taboo really.

Molls the change of job might not be any the less stressful tbh, least I'll be getting stressed in a different environment tho! Many of the new colleagues talk non-stop about can't wait to get home and have a drink. They make it sound soooo good. Gin seems to be the big thing now... think I was taken aback at the start thinking ummmmm 'a gin'? Maybe that would be good! Who the feck was I kiddin?! Had a few not so pleasant 'experiences' with gin in my day
Need to build up the mental arsenal of ways to unwind and de-stress again, it's very easy to let the guard down, ain't it?

Your travels sound amaze btw! Love the west coast, Donegal has special place in my heart tho.

Satz how's YS tonight? Is he on probation at work? gawd it must be so difficult to watch x

Jacks lucky Jenny getting away. Have you anything planned yourself? Think you deserve a nice break after all you've been through x

Hiya to all else

Gotta go blow dry the mane x

[IamMary]

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Hi all,
Just made 2 huge dinners, so thats me done until Friday at least. Mr M is a hopeless cook, so I need to know they are all eating 1 decent meal while Im at work..

Many of the new colleagues talk non-stop about can't wait to get home and have a drink. They make it sound soooo good. Gin seems to be the big thing now... think I was taken aback at the start thinking ummmmm 'a gin'? Maybe that would be good! Who the feck was I kiddin?! Had a few not so pleasant 'experiences' with gin in my day
Need to build up the mental arsenal of ways to unwind and de-stress again, it's very easy to let the guard down, ain't it?

I get this in work too a lot. In fact everywhere, even the running club ffs.. the big prize for making it through the day, blah de blah.
The race we are doing on Sunday is sponsored by Erdinger! Alcohol free I know, but its still a beer!
Rise above it SweetP. We are the lucky ones that escaped the AL clutches- let them enjoy their gin hangovers, hairy tongues, bloated tummy and haggard face's.
So sorry to hear about your dad. Great advise there from Satz..

[IamMary]

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This house is an absolute tip.......... .

If it makes you feel better, mine looks like we emptied the skip inside. We could try wearing dark glasses.

[satz123]

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If it makes you feel better, mine looks like we emptied the skip inside. We could try wearing dark glasses.

Mers I wear glasses for driving. Worst thing I can do is keep them on inside the house.
FFS every speck of dirt can be seen - I'm better off in my ignorance - just going around half-blind

Sweetiepie - you've done the right thing coming back to us with all that shite you are dealing with. :hug:


Morning all - off to work - 10 hour stint - laters :horse:

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Going to have to get myself into a routine here. The days are just slipping by.
@sweetpea29 the penny dropped! I remember you! Sorry to heart about your Dad though. God but its an evil disease.
Satzy, if I clip YS fair across the ear, will you do the same for the boy and we'll call it even?
This new job I've had for the last three years is all administration. I've never really appreciated administrators and all the horseshit they tolerate. Just making things happen for other people, we are. Some numpty PhD student approached me three times today looking for 'his key' as if I'd know where that was. I told my colleague if he came back I was going to bend over, pull my pants down and say 'Oh look I found it'

I think a lot of us here are in the same life stage actually. We were kidding ourselves that we were going to cop a break after the sprogs left home. But of course that's when nature conspires to start our parents on the way to doolally and then the kids boomerang back to their old room and bring all their shit with them.
Do we ever actually get our own life back? (That sounds like yer Sex and the City quote for middle-aged women with sensible shoes instead of yer Manolo Blah-niks)
Anyway I'm just musing.
So Sweety are you struggling or just back for a grease and oil change or for fun love?
My brother also turned up with the marital issues last Thurs. Can't remember if I told yers. House looks like a shit heap because his dog was tossed out too. It was fun to have him for a bit but I sent him packing yesterday because he wanted to drink and carry on.
Anyway I'll read back and have some fun.

[mollyka]

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Ah hey Bridgy! Good to hear some of the background helps get to know folks - administrator- yeah the invisible link that keeps places running!
I find it funny in my job the young'uns (40-50) impressing on us 2nd time round in the workplace how important they are and how frankly we don't give a rats arse- been there,done that!!!!

66 Tweety??!! That's terrible hard - same age as Joe and Joe could pass for a 40 year old (maybe not the belly) I do see your problem - crikey - yes just have to impress on him the need for double checking etc

Home today - had breakfast with the all-Ireland Galway hurling finalists!! They are gorgeous !!!!
Right best go get packing dirty clothes- did NOT pack very well! Laters xxx

[byebyebridgetjones]

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I find it funny in my job the young'uns (40-50) impressing on us 2nd time round in the workplace how important they are and how frankly we don't give a rats arse- been there,done that!!!!

Funny you should say that. We had one of those in the office recently. Couldn't stop telling us how the casual job that we offered her was so far beneath her. God it was tiresome. Especially since her actual output was pretty ordinary.

[JackieClaire]

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Arfternoon,
Interweb a bit sparse.......or is it the lappy.......or is it just every electrical appliance in the houses hates me.

Anyway did make some headway in the little bedroom or as we call it..........the throw shite in it & close the door room and the rest of the house looks vaguely tidy.

[MENTION=18312]sweetpea29[/MENTION].........I'm having a wee jaunt over to Dublin first weekend in October........6th is when I fly in......... Then we're going off to.............Loch Awe accommodation bed and breakfast

Going to break another piggy bank open and buy a new/used car and a new back door and a new front door and a new fridge freezer and some fripperies. We'll be eating Tesco value sausages until the next millenium

[mollyka]

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Funny you should say that. We had one of those in the office recently. Couldn't stop telling us how the casual job that we offered her was so far beneath her. God it was tiresome. Especially since her actual output was pretty ordinary.

Cocky feckers:congratulatory:
Seriously tho - it baffles me how up their own arses some of these ones are - and bless them - there are feck all promotional opportunities where I work - we had a promotion embargo for 8 years during the recession so now everyone with the qualifications are queueing up for poxy little bits of improvement - so they are all self important with nothing to show for it - I just leave them at it - what annoys me tho is that myself and others that have been around a fair while end up picking up the pieces when they cock up!

Arfternoon,
Interweb a bit sparse.......or is it the lappy.......or is it just every electrical appliance in the houses hates me.

Anyway did make some headway in the little bedroom or as we call it..........the throw shite in it & close the door room and the rest of the house looks vaguely tidy.

[MENTION=18312]sweetpea29[/MENTION].........I'm having a wee jaunt over to Dublin first weekend in October........6th is when I fly in......... Then we're going off to.............Loch Awe accommodation bed and breakfast

Going to break another piggy bank open and buy a new/used car and a new back door and a new front door and a new fridge freezer and some fripperies. We'll be eating Tesco value sausages until the next millenium

Looks lovely Jacks - I loved Scotland - will deffo go back there - didn't know himself was coming to Ireland too - that's brilliant cos I was just looking up my calendar there and I'll be working that Saturday.. - anyway I'm sure you'll have plenty around keen on a meet-up - if you're free on the Sun I could meet ye for lunch or something?

[JackieClaire]

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Looks lovely Jacks - I loved Scotland - will deffo go back there - didn't know himself was coming to Ireland too - that's brilliant cos I was just looking up my calendar there and I'll be working that Saturday.. - anyway I'm sure you'll have plenty around keen on a meet-up - if you're free on the Sun I could meet ye for lunch or something?

No its just myself.........he had his weekend up the road to see the Rory Gallagher thingy. That cost a fortune...........this is my treat. I can find something to amuse myself on the Saturday.

[JackieClaire]

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I haven't booked anywhere to stay yet and the flight is so cheap I can afford to cancel.

[JackieClaire]

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Going for three in a row...........don't know how many of you remember the teeny weeny Boston babes weighing under 3llbs at birth.................they're 8 years old today..........with no lasting problem. :heartbeat:

[mollyka]

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8 imagine !!! I'll keep that sunday free so - I'm sure there'll be plenty will love to hang out on Saturday -

Home and feet up - nice