August Army Manoevres

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Hmmm. How strange it is that most of us are ''the one'' in each of our families that has to mop up after everyone else. I can't help but wonder if there's some sort of connection there.....
I have a flex day tomorrow and I'm going to take Rustop here's lead and declutter and garden like a mentaller. And I can't wait. I love that stuff.

[JackieClaire]

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Good morning Our Whizzy, Arsey, Mollymoo, Rustley, evening to Bridgeeeee.

Lully Jacks - what colour ?

Black...........they're short of stock do I had to get the regular size and I'll have to take them up but that's not a bother. The burgundy ones are gorgeous too but they didn't have my size.

I'll bring a bottle cap stick to play along.

What's that?

Mr JC loves the candle.........he reckons you should have a look see to if its worth a shilling or two. He'd grab it out of your hands.

One of those wee prescious moments......himself went next door for the second half of the footie match and there as large as life a hedgehog sitting on the front doorstep. Have not seen one in a squillion years........Bess's face was a picture.

[JackieClaire]

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Hmmm. How strange it is that most of us are ''the one'' in each of our families that has to mop up after everyone else. I can't help but wonder if there's some sort of connection there.....
I have a flex day tomorrow and I'm going to take Rustop here's lead and declutter and garden like a mentaller. And I can't wait. I love that stuff.

Oooh a discussion........mebbees because we were addicts and feel we were awful people we run around like a blue arsed fly trying to do the right thing at the detriment of our own sanity.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Good morning Our Whizzy, Arsey, Mollymoo, Rustley, evening to Bridgeeeee.








Mr JC loves the candle.........he reckons you should have a look see to if its worth a shilling or two. He'd grab it out of your hands.

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Right, that's it. PM me your address. I'm posting it back to you. Fucking hilarious.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Oooh a discussion........mebbees because we were addicts and feel we were awful people we run around like a blue arsed fly trying to do the right thing at the detriment of our own sanity.

Absolutely agree. Over-compensation. Completely believing that we have something to make up for by virtue of our existence - because we must certainly be in the way of the ''legitimate'' people. Amazing. Intellectually I know I have no more or less right to be here than anyone else on this planet, but behaviourally???

[JackieClaire]

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Right, that's it. PM me your address. I'm posting it back to you. Fucking hilarious.

Please noooooooooo, I've only got him to start decluttering after 35 years. I don't want to have to do it all again when I'm in my nineties. Honestly, he's got receipts in the garage from when he was treasurer of the student's law society...he's held onto them for nigh on 40 years.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Please noooooooooo, I've only got him to start decluttering after 35 years. I don't want to have to do it all again when I'm in my nineties. Honestly, he's got receipts in the garage from when he was treasurer of the student's law society...he's held onto them for nigh on 40 years.

PMSL but he needs a Durham City candle to see them all in the garage....

[mollyka]

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Hmmm. How strange it is that most of us are ''the one'' in each of our families that has to mop up after everyone else. I can't help but wonder if there's some sort of connection there.....
I have a flex day tomorrow and I'm going to take Rustop here's lead and declutter and garden like a mentaller. And I can't wait. I love that stuff.

okay - well tbh I was quite the reverse - I was backed into a corner by much older 'know it all' sisters - both in the medical profession - and they were perfectly happy to 'treat' mum medically - but there seemed to be no thoughts for her feelings - I tried and I tried and I tried - I truly did - the little apartment that Jilly is now living in I wanted my mum to come and live in beside me - I was ignored on every count -- each and every suggestion was put down by them -- imo she was neglected emotionally by the 'live in' sister - who was perfectly happy to live in as long as mum was capable and active and Dee could play golf 5 days a week - when she needed more care I was TOLD I should quit my job.. my kids were often told not to visit granny cos she was too tired - I'd whiz over to see what had her so tired only to find them drinking and partying down in her kitchen while she was up in the bed on her own --- I could go on...………. but bottom line was obviously a permanent rift with the two - they truly did awful things - so I gave up - I obviously kept visiting mum - but it was horrendous - I used to have to run the gauntlet of their horribleness - my drinking did escalate dramatically round that time - I truly examined my conscience as in - was my behaviour bad because I was drinking or -- well you know - chicken and egg -- I feel my conscience is clear - but it was a terrible time - so yeah - very long winded way of saying I was FAR from 'the one' --

[satz123]

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Interesting reading on this site for Alcholics - Fridge riding and keeping RCs willy warm
[MENTION=18312]sweetpea29[/MENTION], Satz is right about the home help, time to put a plan in place before things escalate even more. Make a few calls and figure out the financials if necessary, then tell your brothers. Dont know where your dad is, but heard about this initiative on the radio last year - out there, but interesting.

What a fecking BRILLIANT idea Mers :welldone:

[byebyebridgetjones]

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okay - well tbh I was quite the reverse - I was backed into a corner by much older 'know it all' sisters - both in the medical profession - and they were perfectly happy to 'treat' mum medically - but there seemed to be no thoughts for her feelings - I tried and I tried and I tried - I truly did - the little apartment that Jilly is now living in I wanted my mum to come and live in beside me - I was ignored on every count -- each and every suggestion was put down by them -- imo she was neglected emotionally by the 'live in' sister - who was perfectly happy to live in as long as mum was capable and active and Dee could play golf 5 days a week - when she needed more care I was TOLD I should quit my job.. my kids were often told not to visit granny cos she was too tired - I'd whiz over to see what had her so tired only to find them drinking and partying down in her kitchen while she was up in the bed on her own --- I could go on...………. but bottom line was obviously a permanent rift with the two - they truly did awful things - so I gave up - I obviously kept visiting mum - but it was horrendous - I used to have to run the gauntlet of their horribleness - my drinking did escalate dramatically round that time - I truly examined my conscience as in - was my behaviour bad because I was drinking or -- well you know - chicken and egg -- I feel my conscience is clear - but it was a terrible time - so yeah - very long winded way of saying I was FAR from 'the one' --

Sounds like you might have been ''the one'' if you'd had half a chance!

[satz123]

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okay - well tbh I was quite the reverse - I was backed into a corner by much older 'know it all' sisters - both in the medical profession - and they were perfectly happy to 'treat' mum medically - but there seemed to be no thoughts for her feelings - I tried and I tried and I tried - I truly did - the little apartment that Jilly is now living in I wanted my mum to come and live in beside me - I was ignored on every count -- each and every suggestion was put down by them -- imo she was neglected emotionally by the 'live in' sister - who was perfectly happy to live in as long as mum was capable and active and Dee could play golf 5 days a week - when she needed more care I was TOLD I should quit my job.. my kids were often told not to visit granny cos she was too tired - I'd whiz over to see what had her so tired only to find them drinking and partying down in her kitchen while she was up in the bed on her own --- I could go on...………. but bottom line was obviously a permanent rift with the two - they truly did awful things - so I gave up - I obviously kept visiting mum - but it was horrendous - I used to have to run the gauntlet of their horribleness - my drinking did escalate dramatically round that time - I truly examined my conscience as in - was my behaviour bad because I was drinking or -- well you know - chicken and egg -- I feel my conscience is clear - but it was a terrible time - so yeah - very long winded way of saying I was FAR from 'the one' --

:hug::hug:
Certainly the 2 ugly sisters Molls.
Has hindsight changed any of your feelings ?

I think when a parent needs care families that only meet occasionally are thrown together and the 'flaws' surface.
I know that's what's happening in my family.

[mollyka]

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Sounds like you might have been ''the one'' if you'd had half a chance!

You're very kind..... but I don't know -- I truly don't know - maybe if I'd REALLY faced them down... they sort of scared me tho - anyway - it's all past history - I adored my mum and she knew that -

do wish all that time could have been different tho……..
now have Joe moaning in my ear about a lawnmower...…………………………… a LAWNMOWER?? Like SERIOUSLY?? I cannot think of ANYTHING in the world I'm less interested in than a lawnmower???

[byebyebridgetjones]

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I think when a parent needs care families that only meet occasionally are thrown together and the 'flaws' surface.
I know that's what's happening in my family.

And isn't that the truth...

[mollyka]

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:hug::hug:
Certainly the 2 ugly sisters Molls.
Has hindsight changed any of your feelings ?

I think when a parent needs care families that only meet occasionally are thrown together and the 'flaws' surface.
I know that's what's happening in my family.

Hindsight.. mmm - well like I said to Bridge - I wish it had been different - and it was only going to be different in one of two ways - #1 if I HAD given up my job and been the prime minder or #2 If I HAD faced them down...tbh I think that would have been WW111 - Enda was very unbalanced.. and any time I did confront them about something she was perfectly happy to shout and abuse me in mum's room -- I couldn't have that so I used to run away... I regret it all but don't see how I could have changed things.. my job was my sanity -- literally..

[mollyka]

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Enough about me!!!! AMUSE ME!! (just don't mention lawnmowers!!!)