One Step at a Time - November 2018

[paulywogg]

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Glassy,hi to you,,I have foggy brain haha

[NoraC]

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Thank you all for being here & keeping me grounded. Just had the most random, crazy thought!!! Buy a couple bottles and get a hotel room and go crazy. Where the hell did that thought come from? So glad that I can come here and you all understand.
I am so grateful that I don't drink anymore and that I can let that thought go. Whew.

Do you know that I probably check in here 10 times a day and don't type. I'm going to type something each time I check in today. :rotlf: Watch out!

[Rusty]

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Aww...Nora, no, it's not weird! I had those thoughts all weekend...Ugghhhh….I do the same thing...check in 10-15 times a day, lurk, and then only type every other day or so. Good to see you, hon. So glad C and J want to start trying for another baby. Love you.

[NoraC]

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[MENTION=1214]Rusty[/MENTION] - big hugs . What happened this weekend? Jerry Springer type drama??

[NoraC]

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What's happening folks!?! :happy2:

[paulywogg]

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Kell's landlord is putting the house she's renting up for sale! Im pissed cuz now she's gonna hafta move and rent is going up here in Vegas,luckily she has til July but still,Nora,that is a strange,random thought after all these years! Figure all those B.S thoughts would hit the road by now,guess it's never ending,glad you don't drink

[NoraC]

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What a drag about Kell's house. That happened to us once and then they didn't sell so we moved back.
The rent is horrible here too.

I guess the difference on my thoughts after all these years us it's not a craving. It's a random thought or wish that leaves as quickly as it comes. But it's weird for sure.
One more hour of work!!!

[NoraC]

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Well - I guess I didn't check in that much today. But, here I am checking in again.

Well - I have nothing interesting to say. So, I wish everyone happy thoughts.

[NoraC]

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Oh - Savannah had her first taste of cereal yesterday. My DIL sent me a video. It's so cute. She is growing up alright.

[NoraC]

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Isn't Techie due home soon? I'm anxious to hear how he's doing. He said he was having very hard times. :sad:

Rusty - I'm still waiting for the story!!!!!!

[NoraC]

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Heading to bed soon...........................

[Lizann]

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HI guys! Sorry for the late check in. Worked all day, went food shopping, had to go through a ton of mail, ordered some gifts from Amazon and started working on the Christmas cards! Wow, I moved mountains!

Rusty, can't wait to hear about your trip! The suspense is killing me! Didn't realize jerry springer was still on! Thanx for the compliment on my picture. I don't really look that good in real life, it's just a really good picture::congratulatory: My TS was looking at my cruise pics on my phone. There was one of me with my hair up in a bun, cuz it was so windy on sea days. I NEVER do that, but I did. My sister was like, who is this a picture of? Lol, she didn't even realize it was me.

Nora, I'm glad you came here to talk about your thoughts. I guess they will always be there, it's just how we deal with them now. Just think how sick you would be if you did that. These days I think it would be better to go to a hotel room with a pizza and some great movies! How cute Savannah is eating already. Does she like it?

Pauly, that really sucks about Kelly's apartment. That seems like a long time off, I hope they find something, though. Always something to worry about. I hope you feel better. FYI! I'd be eating that turkey too! Do you guys get free turkeys from the grocery store too? If we purchase $400 dollars worth of groceries in a 3 week period we get one. Just wondering if that's just a Jersey thing.

Hubby has a doctors appt tomorrow for a check up and I am worried about him. He's got high blood pressure and is over weight. Really, you do this after getting off a cruise ship, jeez! Anyway would appreciate some positive thoughts and prayers.

Bird and GLassie waves and hope you're doing ok!

[Rusty]

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Good Morning, Dear Friends,

Let me first say Hello to Glassie and bird, whom I did not mention yesterday.

Glassy-I am delighted that you are going to have another grandchild! How exciting! I am happy for you.

[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-you do so many interesting things...you take classes, you like cultural events...I really admire that in you...you are always on the go! :-) How was Romeo and Juliet. I bet you would make beautiful jewelry. Please post pictures!!

Pauly-so sorry to hear that Kell has to move. :-( Did you come down with a cold? UGH!

[MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION]-how cute that you got to see Savannah eating cereal. She is such a cutie. My mom is doing really well, thanks for asking, hon. :-)

OK...the weekend. I have been trying to narrow it down and give you the Reader's Digest Condensed version because it's a long story:
My great-nephew, Anthony, made his first Communion on Saturday. His parents are devout Catholics but they are divorced and my nephew, C, has remarried. C's ex-wife, M, is extremely bitter and hurt as she wrongly believes C and his new wife were having an affair for years before they got divorced. Well, C's ex-wife showed up at the Communion Mass unexpectedly. Additionally, C's mother, who left my brother in 2011, was there as well and was staying with my nephew and his new wife and his kids. C's mom despised my dad, and really never liked any of us except my mom. Most of the day Saturday, my ex-SIL kept firing insults about my dad, me and the rest of the family while we were at dinner. During the church service, I had to physically keep my nephew's ex-wife away from his new wife and my ex-SIL because she hates them both. During the service, she kept whispering threats that she was going to kill his new wife, etc. She kept threatening to attack her and so I played bodyguard...and although I don't watch Jerry Springer, I have seen clips where bodyguards are on the set to keep people from punching each other. Oh yeah, it was lots of fun.

I recapped the weekend to my sister, who is wise beyond words. She told me that people think that old wounds and resentments fade with time, but it is not true.....it's just the opposite. Those old wounds, hurts, resentments just get stronger as we get older. My nephew felt that my dad never treated him well and he still has a huge chip on his shoulder. He kept bringing up this particular situation from 20 years ago and he won't let go. He also made snide remarks about my family and I blew up at him. Finally, he shut up and didn't mention it again.

My point of this verbose story is that I think my sister was right and that's why many of us keep drinking for as long as we do. We think we can drown those thoughts with booze. Even though we can't change those traumatic events or wounds from our childhoods, because those resentments keep getting stronger as we age, we keep trying to numb with booze those wounds that have become gaping holes when we are in our 40s, 50s, and 60s. We try so hard to move on, but for many of us, we can't! I thought of you, [MENTION=17650]paulywogg[/MENTION], and you, [MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION], because you both have had weekends where you had to deal with relatives who have made your lives uncomfortable or even miserable and how you've really had to use all the tools you had to not break down and drink or let it affect your emotions. All those bad memories just flood right back and that's how it was for me this weekend. I was shocked by my SIL's behavior...especially since my Mom really liked her and Mom had told me to tell her she loved her and missed her when I saw her last weekend. I delivered the message to my ex-SIL and she didn't even inquire about my mom!!! My ex-SIL had 4 kids with my brother and they have really done well in their lives, but 2 of them every now and then snidely bring up my wine habit of long ago. Even though I have been sober for quite a while, this weekend's events made me wonder if they look down on me because of my drinking.

I know many people here at MWO have had to deal with nasty exes and relatives at family events, and for me, this was the first time I had to endure the aftermath of my brother's divorce and my nephew's as well. The weekend ended well, though. I took my nephew and his family out to breakfast before I left for the airport and he kept thanking me profusely for coming to his son's First Communion. It really meant a lot to him and I know I made the right decision to go, even though the weekend turned out vastly different from what I had expected.

I know my condensed version was long so thanks for listening and reading.:heartbeat:

[bird]

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Hi all,
Boy did I get behind on the posts!. So Sunday went to the last performance of Romeo and Juliet. It was also the last performance for dd1s roommate who is graduating. She comes over to the house with dd1 all the time. Anyway she was crying so much and then I cried some and thinking well dd1 graduates in May. Plus the play itself was very sad. I am ready to start decorating for xmas. I got the stuff out of the shed yest. I usually do it on t-giving but might do it today...........Nora, glad those thoughts are just thoughts. It scares me to see people with many years af fall off. Our brain is so weird. How cute with Savannah and the cereal I bet. I love to watch those vids of babies trying foods for the 1st time.......Lizann, glad your mom is getting out and doing some things..I too hate crowds. Going shopping is not my thing, especially around the holidays. I really hate shopping malls. They have one here that is all outside, so that is a bit better. Hope hubs doc appt goes well.....Pauly, sorry you are sick. Hope it gets better before t day. That sucks about Kells losing the house. One reason I have stayed in GA so long is the rent is low..I have taken my pine needle basket apart twice. It looks easy on youtube but...I made on once before and it was so misshapen. Dd1 laughed at it:happy2:....Rusty, was Jerry s in Houston or did you see a crazy fight?...waves to Glassie....later

[bird]

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xpost rusty