January 2019 Army Manoeuvres

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=1214]Rusty[/MENTION].........lovely to see you. Had a look over to the Steppers and see you're having printer problems too. The comments were just conjectures and theories...........but it got us talking. :happy2:

[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]...........not the Easter eggs yet but hot-cross buns in Aldi and those malteser bunny rabbits.

[MENTION=15758]rustop59[/MENTION].........it didn't help that inserted big white envelopes instead of paper in my panic to please the printer gods.

[MENTION=18049]RunningCourage[/MENTION]..........there yer are. Back to school today or are you in Tuesday?

[MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION].........we've always had fake trees because of the dogs we've had over the years......pine needles get in their paws........its cheaper than the vets.

[MENTION=21798]Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)[/MENTION]........hope you're along soon with a midnight tune.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Christ, that was terrifying. Lightening hit a power thingo in our street and we've all been cut off from civilisation all day!!!
Funny thing though. The boy and I had conversation all day. The neighbours all rolled out onto the street and we all had a laugh and teased the power company workers, then spent the day with them too and shared lunch. I actually know more about the whole street than I have learned in almost 20 years. How funny. Serendipity.

So that's my last day of holidays, and I've got to say it could have been worse. As soon as the power came back on I cooked some healthy low carb, no sugar snacks to stock me up for work this week.

Reading back...

[starty]

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Hi guys, yes I am afraid I am a lurker. I worry that I cannot always acknowledge people's posts and therefore feel rude. Anyhoo, this is where I am today. Day 6 no AL and day 3 no codeine. Feeling pretty rough. Hot and cold, headache, weak, negative thinking patterns which I know is the WDs. Scary how low it can get. I have asked to reduce my hours but am worrying about earning less and stepping back but I also think it will help me with my sobriety and to have a more balanced life. I am very worried about being skint though. Mr S is sure we will be OK which is very comforting. He is on the wagon with me. Not sure for how long. My drinking was not as bad as it has been in the past. No more than a couple in an evening however I know that it eats away at mental health and increases the use of codeine so is a no no. Was at work last week which even for the limited time was stressful. Anyhoo that is where I am just now.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Hi guys, yes I am afraid I am a lurker. I worry that I cannot always acknowledge people's posts and therefore feel rude. Anyhoo, this is where I am today. Day 6 no AL and day 3 no codeine. Feeling pretty rough. Hot and cold, headache, weak, negative thinking patterns which I know is the WDs. Scary how low it can get. I have asked to reduce my hours but am worrying about earning less and stepping back but I also think it will help me with my sobriety and to have a more balanced life. I am very worried about being skint though. Mr S is sure we will be OK which is very comforting. He is on the wagon with me. Not sure for how long. My drinking was not as bad as it has been in the past. No more than a couple in an evening however I know that it eats away at mental health and increases the use of codeine so is a no no. Was at work last week which even for the limited time was stressful. Anyhoo that is where I am just now.

Well, that's where you start then, love.
I, for one, am just happy to see you back here.

[starty]

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Well, that's where you start then, love.
I, for one, am just happy to see you back here.

Thanks Bridgey. On a wing and a prayer today

[stirly-girly]

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Good morning Army and a Happy New Year to all of you.

Now what better way to start the new year off for the Army than to have you back here and posting - [MENTION=21798]Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)[/MENTION] [MENTION=18049]RunningCourage[/MENTION] [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION] !! A delight to see all of you and congrats on your sober days.

I, too am guilty of lurking - often have a quick peek in the morning when I get to work but usually no one is around so I feel like I'd be talking to myself. Same thing in the evening. Our hours just don't seem to match. I'm usually off to bed before anyone else has logged in for the evening.

Have to get to work now. Will try to get back for a wee chat later. Wishing you all a productive day!

[RunningCourage]

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Morning troops.

Just read back - so happy new year to you all.
[MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION] - back to school...umm....NOW :egad:

Re lurking - not been a lurker, just not been here . Back now.

Like Starty, drink was around, not in a big way - spent a lot of the hols with my niece and family, so they're not big drinkers (prefer chocolate :yay, so not drinking then. But long story short, letting drink in affected my ability to work on other (ED) aspects of my life. Starty - see what Bridgeypoos said - post, always good to hear from you wherever / however you are
[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION] - sounds a long wedding. But yer 40's-esque dress sounds cool. Not a fan of high heels either :haha: - find it affects how I run.

Tabbers - great to see you!

Right.... alas.... off to school...

[RunningCourage]

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x-post Stirly - waves!

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Thanks Bridgey. On a wing and a prayer today

OK love, well let's start from there then, shall we?

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
[MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION] what she said.

OK love, well let's start from there then, shall we?

What I say.......believe me you'll not starve..........we had to go through an IVA (IVA - Individual Voluntary Arrangement Advice. StepChange) eight years ago due to reckless spending ......lets say it was near 80K.......how did two supposedly intellegent and educated people get into that mess...we were paying one credit card off with another. We're out of it now but it was so shaming and one Hell of a learning curve.
I'll get to the point what is good and what are you willing to pay for your for your mental health and physical health? A bit less money in the bank makes you think and become inventive with food, holidays, Christmas.
If that come across a bit preachy but its not meant to.

[MENTION=18049]RunningCourage[/MENTION]...think I'm about to preach again....:egad:.....give the drink up once and for all. In my humble opinion get some good sober time and then with a clear mind you can tackle the ED. Any amount of alcohol messes with our brain even the one or two here and there. The biggest surprise was how it affect's our hearing. Trouble is my notes are in the loft so if you hold the step-ladders I'll get them out.

[MENTION=11158]stirly-girly[/MENTION]..........always lovely to see you post. I'm doing the MWO hokey cokey all day.......in and out.

I had a hissy fit over nothing yesterday.......3 days off the anti-drepessents and BOOM out of nowhere. Then tears and snot all over.
Will gird my loins and ring Talking Therapies today.
Also on the agenda.......change my volunteering job.

[JackieClaire]

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Rang Talking Therapies and they're taking me on.
Rang Barnado's charity shop. They remembered me from when I applied last year and I start on Friday.

[stirly-girly]

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Jackie dear - good for you on facing your problems head on. I'm wondering if the AD's need time to get out of your system. I took some for a while when going through men-o-paws and they messed me up. Actually, after 2-1/2 years sober, I started drinking again. Go figure! Anyway, it was just a thought. Good for you on the charity shop - I'm sure you'll love the contact with the customers there. Also, don't forget that things have been a little up and down lately - besides the C-diff, you've had your mind on Jenny - no doubt a bit of concern how she'll do, excitement over the coming wedding and I'm sure there's a good deal of thought in the back of your mind about dear Bess. Put all those things together and you're bound to have a hissy fit over what seems like nothing now and then. Actually, they are always about something, we just rarely blow off at the real reason.

Arsey - what Jackie said.

Starty - what Bridge said.

KTAB - how is your dogger? The younger one, I mean. Seems like just yesterday that it was a pup.

Hello from a freezing cold Athens - actually had some snow flurries just a while ago.

Back to the grind..........

[NoSugar]

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I worry that I cannot always acknowledge people's posts and therefore feel rude.

It is great to see you back :hug:!

Your concern is one I've struggled with, also. I would like to be like [MENTION=1214]Rusty[/MENTION] and others in various threads who manage to write the kindest, most inclusive posts. It does feel good to be mentioned or responded to. Early on, I kind of desperately needed people to pay attention and mention NoSugar and felt rejected and unappreciated when no one did. But -- this way MY problem, and part of the whole psychology that probably left me open to addiction in the first place!! That need for external validation and approval is a killer. I continue to work on it.

At some point I became healthy enough to realize how ridiculous I was being and decided that for MWO to help me or anyone else, we needed to use it the way it works for us, which might be entirely different to anyone else, and try not to worry about it. I remain amazed by the people who rarely post but for whom MWO provides what they need to stay sober. But my incredulity is only because that approach was completely unsuccessful for me. I am impressed with the people who have a kind word for everyone who has posted recently in a thread. I realized, though, that if I pressured myself to do that, I would choose not to post at all. Sometimes I was afraid I would forget to mention 2 out of 12 people, assuming (probably incorrectly) that that would hurt them like it did me in the early days. Other times, I just have nothing constructive to add to the conversation.

Especially when we're in the early days or struggling, I think it is important to use MWO however it works for you, especially if it is your main or sole source of support. We're all adults here, like [MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION] has pointed out, and as addicts, need to do the work on ourselves not to need or expect validation from others. I kind of dislike this phrase, but, You do YOU, Starty. We are glad you are here. xx

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=11158]stirly-girly[/MENTION]......Mine wasn't a bad mental-paws, ........thanks to black cohosh. It was an extra bonus that living in the NE of England our heating bills went down due to my hot flushes. T-shirt weather all year round

It really was a shit year 2018........some good but always something ready to knock you sideways. Anyway, this talking therapy offers not only talking but relaxation techniques, group therapy, books to read, self hypnosis that sort of the thing.

As for Bess, the worry is there........but the older she gets the funnier she gets. Its like living with a Grand Duchess (think Downtown Abbey).........what she wants, she gets. Jenny's Buddy at her mercy and behaves very well round her these days like a good footman. Bess doesn't even bark anymore just raises one lip and he shoots behind a chair.

Whoever the........how can I put this politely.......the demons (good enough?) who had her first and treated her badly have no idea the joy a dog can bring even on the worst days of your life.

[starty]

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Morning,
[MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION] what she said.


What I say.......believe me you'll not starve..........we had to go through an IVA (IVA - Individual Voluntary Arrangement Advice. StepChange) eight years ago due to reckless spending ......lets say it was near 80K.......how did two supposedly intellegent and educated people get into that mess...we were paying one credit card off with another. We're out of it now but it was so shaming and one Hell of a learning curve.
I'll get to the point what is good and what are you willing to pay for your for your mental health and physical health? A bit less money in the bank makes you think and become inventive with food, holidays, Christmas.
If that come across a bit preachy but its not meant to.

[MENTION=18049]RunningCourage[/MENTION]...think I'm about to preach again....:egad:.....give the drink up once and for all. In my humble opinion get some good sober time and then with a clear mind you can tackle the ED. Any amount of alcohol messes with our brain even the one or two here and there. The biggest surprise was how it affect's our hearing. Trouble is my notes are in the loft so if you hold the step-ladders I'll get them out.

[MENTION=11158]stirly-girly[/MENTION]..........always lovely to see you post. I'm doing the MWO hokey cokey all day.......in and out.

I had a hissy fit over nothing yesterday.......3 days off the anti-drepessents and BOOM out of nowhere. Then tears and snot all over.
Will gird my loins and ring Talking Therapies today.
Also on the agenda.......change my volunteering job.

Now that must have been terrifying. I am dealing with folk in those sort of issues and repossessing their motors daily. It is horrific. I feel very blessed to be able to have the opportunity to do this and I am grateful for posts like yours to make me stop worrying. Peace of mind is priceless along with proper time to live.

You are right about the drink affecting every thought and every decision. I have always known that but something always comes along and makes me forget

Brilliant about the new volunteering and the talking therapy sessions. Will do you the world of good !