January 2019 Army Manoeuvres

[JackieClaire]

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Okayish.
Just the week and the anniversary of my Mum's death.
The horror of the day the police had to break into my Mum's house to find her dead on the floor will never leave me. Some years I'm good this year I went to pieces........sometime early hours Wednesday. Had to creep downstairs as I was sobbing so hard I was rocking with pain. Held it together for a while there Wednesday morning and just kept going to pieces.
Yes, we didn't get along so the irony of it all was that I was the one who had to deal with everything. Luckily it was a young policeman that had to knock the door down and found her. Luckily her carer was there to identify her and between them they covered her with a blanket. We had to wait two hours for a medic to pronounce death so we could move her from the floor in the hall to the settee and call undertakers etc. This once beautiful, clever woman adored by many. I'll never forget that young policeman's face and the kindness him and his sergeant showed.
Coming out of it now.

Bess is back at the vets tomorrow as her ear has swelled up again She's nowhere near ill with it but at her grand age it would be very dodgy to put her under an anaesthetic to give it a proper clean out.

[IamMary]

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THat's very sad [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION] :hug: how did she pass, was it unexpected?
Glad your feeling a bit better. You and Starts wont be sorry to see the back of January. Nearly there, the daffodils are on the way :flower:

How hot it is today Bridge???

[starty]

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Sorry to hear you are having a tough time Jax. Hopefully the talking therapies will help with trauma?

My old boy had a cauli ear haematoma. Looked unsightly but didnt really bother him thankfully.

Mary you are right, January can do one. Mat girl coming in Monday for another meeting. Wonder what they are going to say......

Currently looking at some courses I can do when I have more time. Interesting ones about dog training that are ticking boxes for me just now. Maybe even a new career. Exciting times are on my horizon

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone
Glad you are over the worst JC. It was a week for anniversaries. My Mom was dead 40 years on Monday. Again it was a sudden death and I was only 17. Very much to the forefront of my mind this year, thought it was the 40 year mark but maybe full moon. Hope Bess is ok, itÂ’s hard getting old. Heard lady on radio recently Starty. Had very pressurized career and gave it up and now has her own dog grooming business which she loves. Nothing much planned for today, book club in afternoon and doggy walk, that is about it.

[starty]

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Good morning everyone
Glad you are over the worst JC. It was a week for anniversaries. My Mom was dead 40 years on Monday. Again it was a sudden death and I was only 17. Very much to the forefront of my mind this year, thought it was the 40 year mark but maybe full moon. Hope Bess is ok, itÂ’s hard getting old. Heard lady on radio recently Starty. Had very pressurized career and gave it up and now has her own dog grooming business which she loves. Nothing much planned for today, book club in afternoon and doggy walk, that is about it.

Hi Rustop, the full moon did all sorts of mischief to me. Not surprised everyone is feeling the fall out. Love the story of the career change. It never fails to inspire me. Thank you

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
[MENTION=15758]rustop59[/MENTION] .......come here a minute :hug:

[MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION].....got the official letter yesterday to say I'm on the waiting list. I've got to get out of this funk.......I went the extra mile to get a drink and then the determination to get and stay sober.......so I'm using that determination. Going to up my VitD and remember to take the folic acid.
Jenny's dog-walker earns a small fortune......... she also does dog training. Although our wee Buddy seems to bamboozle her.

[MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION].....heart attack brought on by severe alcohol abuse. Although its not said that simply on the death certificate.

Just went through my mind if they held a referendum to leave January, there'd be a 100% turn out to leave and no fighting in Parliament. Only 5 days to go.......lets get a treat on the first of February.

Off in a minute to get Bess's ear seen to again. By the time we've finished with vet fees we might be getting a new kitchen but we won't be able to afford food. Beans on toast for a year.........but she's worth it.

Shout out to our Stirly.

[abcowboy]

Death anniversaries are always tough [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION]. My mom passed 6 years ago under very similar circumstances, it was a hard time for all of us. Now, when I think back on my Dad, Mom, and 2 brothers, it's not usually on the good times we shared but on the things I wish I would have said and done while they were still with me. But I really believe that they are all watching down on me, proud of what I finally did and the man I've become. And I know they are listening when I say all the things that I say when I'm talking to them now...better late than never right?

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=21602]abcowboy[/MENTION]....I'm sorry for your losses. :hug: I like your thinking though.
I've often thought I may have a guardian angel from some of the scrapes I've had (including electrocuting myself when I was 9 ) and it is my Grandad who died the year before I was born. In fact more or less a year to the day I was born.
I'm going to bookmark this thread so I'm prepared for next January.

Bess survived another vet's visit and had to have ear drained again. We have to massage it for the next week..........now tell me what dog doesn't like their ears rubbed? She's in no pain but Mr. JC's wallet is.

Back shortly to do Shouty stuff.

[IamMary]

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Ah guys, sorry to hear about all the anniversaries this month [MENTION=21602]abcowboy[/MENTION] [MENTION=15758]rustop59[/MENTION] [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION].. You are absolutely right Cowboy, they would all be so proud.
JC, muster up all that determination to get yourself out of this blue. Youve been through the wars, you can do this. :hug:

Its so windy out, Im expecting to be a few feet up the road in the morning.

[satz123]

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Quick pop in before work .....
FFS I did the post below last night with one eye open.
Blew away like [MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION] s house :haha:


:hug::hug::hug: to all on here who are remembering family.

Young Satz has gone off the rails. Went out at 1pm yesterday and hasn't been seen since.
Mr S had told him the day before that he was a disgrace and and looked a wreck. YS took umbrage to this. FFS !! - Drinking every day - cheap beer or vodka.

I got a text from his ex girlfriend to say he'd turned up there last night - driving.

She wouldn't let him drive home here- but made him stay over. She is a fool to herself to have ever let him know where she lives. So I'm afraid she needs to deal with it now. I'm not going after him.
He hasn't come home yet - but I'm done worrying .....

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone. So sorry Satz, it is never ending, don’t know how you put up with it. Good example to the rest of us what we would be like if we continued drinking. Glad you have your job and Rosie. Blown away here too. Hopefully I will get a short walk in.

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION].....:hug:...you are doing the right thing in looking after your own sanity and sobriety first and foremost.

YS's backside is so stuck on his pity pot he's going to use any excuse to drink. I know I've been there.........I could take any slight remark as a reason to drink and my drinks got into bargain basement prices. When I think about the cheap shit I gargled I'm surprised I've still got a stomach.
Report him again to the police.......I don't know....I've wondered if it was the S&H and not sure I could do it but I know Mr. JC would. But there again he'd be back to nobody loves me and straight to the bottle. A conundrum indeed.

[starty]

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Morning all. Just been for 2 wonderful walks and nearly took off with both of them. The wind is raging here too! Loved it though. So looking forward to the work sitch being sorted so I can do this whenever I like ie almost daily! Mr S wants to add another little pooch to our pack which is exciting. I want to settle into semi retirement first and make sure we are all ok with funds etc.

Yes, the anniversaries of passings are so tough. My mum;s is 04/10. I loathed it. It 2013 we were in the process of adopting a pup so asked if I could pick him up on the 4th (was a few days early) so that I could change the day from sad to happy. My mum would have loved that. We were allowed and it has helped over the years to remember the day we brought Casey home each 4/10 so he always shares a special day with my mum even though she never knew him.

Sorry about YS Satz, he really is milking this isnt he? We all love to find a reason to do what we do and blame others for our misfortunes. Hope the time comes soon that he realises the buck stops with him.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Hello lovely ones.
JC I'm so sorry to hear about your poor Mum. That must have been an ugly thing to go through. Life just has a habit of smacking us fair in the face some times, doesn't it?
I remember the day (night here) that your Mum died Starty. Horrible for you. But if I remember correctly, you sat by her the whole time like the lovely, loyal person that you are.

This heatwave is doing my head in here. We are going on to 11pm and it's still almost 30 degrees. No chance of sleep. We practically laid in front of the air conditioner all day today. Exhausting. Humidity almost 90% which, believe me, is worse than the heat itself. In some ways it was easier to just pass out and miss it - until the next morning of course.

Ok - may as well watch some tele. Thank God it's the public hol tomorrow.

[satz123]

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Thanks Jacks, Rustyhead & Starts or your supportive posts.
Found an unpaid fine for e100 : 'drunk in a public place' in his room yesterday and an income tax bill for 4k.
I sometimes start to get stupid thinking - like I'll pay his debts and he'll be happy and stop drinking ....... but NOTHING we have done has worked. Good Cop / Bad Cop : Bad cop / Bad cop
I come on here & [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION] says it as it is :hug: .... it is up to him to get off his shaggin' pity pot ....... but will that ever happen? Is there people who will never stop - and just commit suicide or die from health problems.

He will come home soon - go to bed - promise the earth : stay sober for a week then it will all start again.
We're waiting for him to cop on and I'm tired of it all......

Lovely story about you doggie and Mam [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION] .
Everything crossed you will get the part-time hours & that they work out for you.
You honestly won't know yourself

[MENTION=9170]byebyebridgetjones[/MENTION]
That heat sounds horrendous - how do people work in that ? we get nothing close to that up here - temps to drop to -5 this week .......
probably -15 in JackieLand and she'll have to put on a cardigan