March 2019 Army Thread

[Guitarista]

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A big @ electronic hello to y'all from here.

And as it's March 8 down here - Happy international Womens day!

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Thanks, Mr G.
Wow, that is a great relief for you MIL JC. I do wish GPs wouldn't wind people up like that until all diagnostics are back in.

Also looking for Netflix recs. I like Bodyguard and Divorce, Rustop. I've seen Dirty John, but I can't take Eric Bana seriously in dramas as he was a rolled gold comedian before going overseas. It makes me giggle when I see him doing sex scenes and the like.

Re the drinking habits, I was a full on drunk form the first drink at 15. Outdrank all of them then vomited copiously from the first time. Very few nights ever that I went out and 'just had a few'. I'm sure it was very obvious to all of the local club goers that I was different. In my late 20's I bought a townhouse and began living alone, and off I went - progressing rapidly from one to two bottles of wine a night and I had an established habit by the time I left there. It was never going to end well. I switched to vodka while I was raising kids because I imagined that nobody could smell it. Horse shit. I will always struggle with it, just have to accept that.

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone. Interesting topic. With me it was very habitual and progressive. Wine o’clock became the norm and one bottle became two. Could drink normally socially, often the designated driver but it was the drinking alone and the lack of a stop button that proved that I had a problem. Just sorry that it took me until my mid 50’s before I knocked it on the head.

Anyway good to wake up clear headed this morning. Have a busy day ahead so going to get a nice walk in the woods with the doggies first.

[JackieClaire]

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Morning and evening to Bridgeeeeeeeee and Mr G.

reminds me.. its old and silly

Two nuns are ordered to paint a room in the convent, with a warning from the Mother Superior not to get even a drop of paint on their habits, which are costly to replace.
After conferring about this, the two nuns decide to lock the door of the room, strip off their habits, and paint naked.
In the middle of the project, there's a knock at the door."Who is it?" calls one of the nuns.
"Blind man," replies a voice from the other side of the door.
The two nuns look at each other and shrug, both deciding that no harm can come from letting a blind man into the room. They open the door.
"Nice boobs," says the man. "Where do you want the blinds?"

Brought a wee happy tear to my eye. That was my Dad's favourite joke. He couldn't even tell it all the way through without laughing.

[JackieClaire]

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Two in a row.
Very honest posts bringing back many memories.
I'd be around 15 with my pal stood outside an off-licence asking an adult to buy us a big bottle of cheap cider.
The local pub down the road turned a blind eye to us underage drinkers.......but to be honest none of us had enough money to go wild. Half a lager would last all night and as long as we didn't get rowdy we were tolerated.
Once I started work there was a kind of bravado the morning after a work's night out about who drank the most and who had the worst hangover. But how many went home wanting more? I never drank alone, I never took the morning drink but I never sipped a drink. Down in one and then fingers drumming on the table waiting for people to catch up.

It is hard to work out when the line was crossed. I always drank to get a drunk but just mentioning my Dad there it was around the time he was diagnosed with bowel cancer..........survived for a good 6 years then died in 1999. I was filled with anxiety and found that the first couple of drinks settled that anxiety..........so with the typical alcoholics reasoning if a couple of drinks were good then a bottle would be fantastic. And it took more and more and more to settle the anxiety..........which I later found out wasn't anxiety but withdrawal..........then I'd have a wee shot of vodka just to get me out the door. Of course working in a wine merchants everything smelt of booze easy to blend in with the constant aroma of alcohol around me.

Then the real problems started when I tried to control it...........that's when the hiding started

There'll be more later as things come to me.

[satz123]

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And we're off again...
YS went to Dublin yesterday at 11 am for small errand ..... we were in bed when he finally came home.
Same scenario every time. I told him yesterday morning to take Antabuse as town is a big trigger- he didn't. If fact looked positively irked I should even say it...... gggrrrr.
It was a planned relapse as far as I'm concerned - so there is no sympathy coming from me this time.
It is too hurtful & I do not want him to speak to me.
We brought Rosie to the groomer and when we came home he was gone again - too chicken to face us and probably gone for another drink.

He was talking about a job up north in Donegal - as far as I'm concerned he can go and see how he fares on his own for a while.
It's time he got real - he lives in some kind of parallel universe where he can live life drunk every day & not face consequences. The fact he has lost everything to alcohol : no money , no job, no car, no partner no place to live, doesn't seem to register..
Well let him off for a dose of reality - were no-one gives a shit about him!!

[NoSugar]

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Oh, man, [MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]. He is on that dang rollercoaster for sure, but there are more downs than ups now. I hope for your all of your sakes he gets a job, moves out, and like all of us, either figures his way out or figures out how to live an addicted life. You've taught and modeled what you can. xx

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION].........yep, tell him to leave his keys on the hall stand as he leaves. You know, love, that sounds so harsh and easy for me to say as I'm not his Mum. But you'll have my support.

[IamMary]

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Brought a wee happy tear to my eye. That was my Dad's favourite joke. He couldn't even tell it all the way through without laughing.

Its obviously a Dad joke, mine loves this one too!

Could drink normally socially, often the designated driver but it was the drinking alone and the lack of a stop button that proved that I had a problem. .

I keep reading everyones posts and thinking, same, same.. but this was definitely the same. Which is why no-one would believe me if I said I had a 'smal'l issue with the drink!
[MENTION=9170]byebyebridgetjones[/MENTION] and MrG, the year I was in Australia cemented my wine addiction, cheap, in a box, sure you couldn't tell if you had drunk 1 or 3 bottles. Lethal.
[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION], I really hope he takes himself off to Donegal. For you and him. I know youve lost all hope, but theres still a spark there, he's planning a future.

Did you choose a car Rustop??

[starty]

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Morning all. Interesting all the stories on drinking becoming problematic with lots of similarities. Basically addiction manifestation which goes across all divides and is regardless of your drug of choice.

Satz I feel so angry with your son. I know how hard it is as being a repeat offender myself. I just feel that if my addiction had affected others they way his affects you guys I would be doing absolutely everything in my power to change things. Shame would be the clincher for me I think.

Went to see Steve Harley last night. Was like an old codgers convention.... until I realised I too was one of the old codgers :haha: Was good but such a looooong evening with much travel and delays. Not sure I am keen to see any more bands for a while as too bloody knackering. Today off to meet some friends for a walk and get me barnet fixed. Even with all the free time I have I have not yet managed to run the hoover round

[byebyebridgetjones]

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I read an article one time, Satz. I think it was called 'loving detachment'. It'll help when he's gone and you couldn't give it energy if you wanted to. At least he won't be dragging you through the muck with him.
Just read back a bit re your idea rustop and Mary about the interlopers paying rent. They pay very little. One doesn't work and the other is a low wage earner.
I can't seem to get out of my own way this weekend. Funny mood I'm in.

[Guitarista]

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[MENTION=13614]electron[/MENTION]ic hello to Bridget Jones.

I play for you now. Sending some notes from my heart to yours on the wind.......

[JackieClaire]

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Morning from a horrible dog owner.............left Bess in the garden for ages in the miserable weather.........while I was watching Crufts. :egad: Kept wondering where the barking was from. Just how many biscuits will it take to get her forgiveness.
And talking of Crufts............I sat watching breeds like an Anatolian Ladybug Herder or a Short-eared matted coat Swizzler (a breed known for protecting and collecting ancient runes)........where's the Labradors, Bulldogs, Yorkshire Terriers???
In fact why do I watch Crufts when dog shows aren't very nice to start with?

[MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION]........when I went to see Paul Rodgers........looking around at all the bald-headed old men and realising that back in the days of Free they'd have had waist length locks and be headbanging like loons made me smile.

[MENTION=9170]byebyebridgetjones[/MENTION]...come here a minute :hug: hope the mood passes.

In other news I've got a stinker of a cold but there's blossom on the cherry tree (that sounds like a spy's code phrase)

[rustop59]

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Afternoon all. Crufts crazy but love watching it. Spoil Bess for the afternoon, great the way they don’t hold a grudge.
Spring is trying to come here too but we have another weather alert, rain, sleet, snow, wind, ugh. Going hill walking with himself, badly need a hike, just hope I am not blown away. Young Satz moving out and Bridgets idea of detachment very good ideas. Think I am going to get a Renault Cleo Mary, bit more space than Kia, Micra etc and more reasonable than VW Polo. Now better get ready for this hike.

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=15758]rustop59[/MENTION]..........what about a nice little e-type Jag...red, of course. Do they still make them?
I did watch Crufts again tonight......Supervet :heartbeat: was one the guest people ....so far I'd like an Irish Wolfhound, a Pharoah hound and a long-haired Dachshund.
Bess has forgiven me..two digestive biscuits and a bit of cheese work wonders.