June Army Thread 2019

[4theboyz]

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And there we have it. Nobody would have known....but you...and that is the person who needs to be convinced more than anyone else. At the end of the day we are stuck with ourselves, so we may as well like and trust the person we are stuck with.

Good on you for pushing past this. It can only strengthen your resolve.

Yes indeed! I failed to resist justifying just one or two drinks given these opportunities 14 times before and simply too determined not to fall down that rabbit hole ever again. I have been here now over 10 years and by this time I thought I had maybe 4 or 5 day ones. I re-read my diary here and was stunned to read 14 Day One stories. 14 too many...no more.

[IamMary]

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Delighted [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION]!!

X posts [MENTION=5134]4theboyz[/MENTION]

[JackieClaire]

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Just a quick fly by as I'm jiggered and need a proper night's sleep. Again a thank you and again I took you all with me.:heartbeat:
I'm going to @@@@@ you all tomorrow.

[starty]

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Fantastic news Jax. Delighted for you from a fellow grizzler x

[rustop59]

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Delighted with the news, I’m another grizzler, we could form our own girl band ����

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
Shall we call ourselves the Grizzle Sisters? We could take over the Spice Girls tour. The few people I know that have seen on them the comeback concerts were less than impressed. That's putting it politely.
Weather reportage........its dismal although its a good for a pyjama day. I've got the heating on...........its the 12th June FFS.
[MENTION=5134]4theboyz[/MENTION].........thankyou for sharing. I've got a similar situation the beginning of July. Mr. JC is away in Spain on my son's stag weekend in Spain. It'll be just me, the dog and my conscious.
We've got various bottles of booze kept in the garage and some specialised whisky in the house. None of which I am remotely interested in.
a) do I want yet another day one
b) do I want yet another de-tox
c) could I look into Mr JC's eyes full of sadness yet again.
d)do I want to be racing round trying to replace said bottles
A resounding big NO!!!!
If my not drinking makes other people uncomfortable its their problem not mine. I'll be blowed if I'm going to start people pleasing again.
BTW a cabin in woods sounds like Heaven.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Morning All,
Jeez JC, how does that feel? Bet you had a great night's sleep without all the worry.
[MENTION=5134]4theboyz[/MENTION] I've also just started a journal myself for the first time in ages. They come in very handy for debunking some of those funny little falsehoods that we let grow in our heads to suit ourselves... if this process is about anything, it is certainly about learning to tell the truth again. Mainly to ourselves.

[IamMary]

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hi-de-ho Grizzlers and co..
Visitors in work have departed (yay).
Finished watching Chernobyl (yay - very grim but excellent)

Journal is a great idea. I jotted down a list of feelings on my phone before I quit and it was nice to be able to mentally cross them off as time went on. Id forgotten about it, might check it out and see if I can cross out a few more :happy2:

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone. Like winter here the last few days. Doubt if I will get a walk in this morning, it’s lashing. Off on a long weekend with hubby so have been trying to get stuff ready. Leaving later today.

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
[MENTION=9170]byebyebridgetjones[/MENTION]...........considering I've just had heard from Mr. JC. He's just had a phone call from his secretary.......... her brother in law died of testicular cancer last night aged 34..........I'm feeling very, very grateful and lucky.
I'll add its a teeny tiny firm run on legal aid and a shoestring and they're like family.

[MENTION=15758]rustop59[/MENTION]....weather is abysmal. Wish I could find last year's diary to see when the heatwave started. Think I'll be grateful if it just stops raining. We won't have tans this summer just rust.

[Jude58]

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Great news JC! One more thing to be grateful for! :heartbeat:

[satz123]

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We're in crisis mode again with YS.
Drinking heavily / letters from courts / A&E / Banks arriving daily.
Not sure what's been going on - not sure I want to know any more.

He's living in his grandmother's house. He was asked to pay a measly 50e a week for full TV, Gas, Electricity & Broadband and has not been paying it.
We went up the other day to tidy garden & move mother's clothes to back roo, The bin was full to the brim of cans & bottles.
The fridge had food in that was growing hair.
The bread bin had bread that was green & turned to dust.
Not sure what's to become of him.

There is an offer of counselling or in-house rehab again from his sister on the table again. But he has to 'consider' it .... discuss it .....
If this is a disease why would he not want to do what it takes to get better ?
To my mind if I REALLY wanted to be sober - was desperate for it - I'd GRAB it.
Wouldn't we all ?

[IamMary]

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If this is a disease why would he not want to do what it takes to get better ?
To my mind if I REALLY wanted to be sober - was desperate for it - I'd GRAB it.
Wouldn't we all ?

Yes of course WE would - we are all here, we were all desperate enough. Not what you want to hear Satz, but it doesnt sound like he wants it enough YET. I don't know what its going to take, but he sounds like he's spiraling downwards.. maybe his rock bottom is close.
Having said that, my teenage son needs a kick up his arse to do anything, then he'll go along with it. My girls seem to be more proactive. I know its a generalisation and not comparable, but some people do need coaxing.

[IamMary]

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Morning,
[MENTION=9170]byebyebridgetjones[/MENTION]...........considering I've just had heard from Mr. JC. He's just had a phone call from his secretary.......... her brother in law died of testicular cancer last night aged 34..........I'm feeling very, very grateful and lucky.

34 is ridiculously young.

Weather is rubbish, but it IS going to get better..

[starty]

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We're in crisis mode again with YS.
Drinking heavily / letters from courts / A&E / Banks arriving daily.
Not sure what's been going on - not sure I want to know any more.

He's living in his grandmother's house. He was asked to pay a measly 50e a week for full TV, Gas, Electricity & Broadband and has not been paying it.
We went up the other day to tidy garden & move mother's clothes to back roo, The bin was full to the brim of cans & bottles.
The fridge had food in that was growing hair.
The bread bin had bread that was green & turned to dust.
Not sure what's to become of him.

There is an offer of counselling or in-house rehab again from his sister on the table again. But he has to 'consider' it .... discuss it .....
If this is a disease why would he not want to do what it takes to get better ?
To my mind if I REALLY wanted to be sober - was desperate for it - I'd GRAB it.
Wouldn't we all ?

What were the letters from courts? Is it a possibility he will end up in prison?
Has he had to go to hospital also?
It sounds like rock bottom is approaching fast.
I wonder if its a case of his mental health is so far removed from his reality that he doesnt even register that there is an alternative lifestyle. I think my dad was like that. All sorts of possibilities were put to him but he didnt take them. When we are on the other side it is incomprehensible that someone wouldnt jump to accept the help offered. But maybe in YS world it does not even register now.

I am sorry that this is happening again Satz, such a worry for you and Mr S