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    2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

    I don't mean to put the fear of God into anybody, but i have recently had news that 2 friends of mine have been diagnosed with different forms of cancer. One of them is actually an ex-partner, which is really heart-breaking.

    They are both fairly heavy drinkers, one being a full-blown alcy (2 litres of wine per day) and the other being a fairly constant nightly drinker...

    They are both in their early 40s. Heartbreaking.

    (it's not about me though, i just though i'd tell you. the ex-partner bit is heart-breaking though seeing as though her mother died of cancer).

    Change
    One day at a time.. Sometimes it's one minute or one second at a time.. Most important thing is to look ahead and don't look back!
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    2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

    Thanks Change, I think we need to hear things like that so it will sink in how dangerous it is for us to over do. I am a real hard head so I need to hear this sort of stuff. Thanks, sorry about your X...it is sad to have friends get sick, Buffy

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      #3
      2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

      thats very sad. sorry to hear this.
      Gabby :flower:

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        2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

        gabby;151763 wrote: thats very sad. sorry to hear this.
        Yeah it is, but on the other hand, it was their decision. I am more sympathetic with the ex as i don't think she saw the consequences of her actions. I think the real tragedy is when we know better and keep going.
        One day at a time.. Sometimes it's one minute or one second at a time.. Most important thing is to look ahead and don't look back!

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          #5
          2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

          what kind of cancer?
          Sunny days, sweeping the, clouds away. On my way, to where the air is sweeeet!!! Can you tell me how to get, how to get to......LOL

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            2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

            yeh, I'm wondering what kind of cancers are alkies more vulnerable to.

            And also, I am really sorry to hear about your friends, but when you said that about seeing the consequences of your actions, I felt a little miffed. I know there are lots of us that are big into health and know a lot about what is good and what isn't good for us, and even have had very healthy lifestyles with the exception of our addiction. It's not like you can just say, oh this is really bad for me so I will stop now-- I mean, that's why we're all here right? We WANT to stop and have tried, many of us for years, and it just isn't that simple (if only it were). So I think we should remember that when judging other people who get sick as a result of thier addiction. At the same time, it is good to be reminded about the consequences of drinking to strengthen our resolve to be AF or cut down.

            I really am sorry about your friends, Change, and hope you don't take this the wrong way. I think we are all hard heads like Buffy, and do need to hear this stuff for it to sink in. Let us know how your friends do.
            Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life... And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

            Steve Jobs, Stanford Commencement Adress, 2005

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              2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

              Hi all. the health thing has been onmy mind this week. channel 4 did that documentary on drinking yourself to death last night.
              i feel so sorry for your friends and hope they get good treatment and peace in their lives!!

              Cassy

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                2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

                Ouch... that's sad. I'm grateful to you for posting this. I don't think there's enough information out there about the real dangers of alcohol abuse.

                Scoobs
                :heart: Sobriety - Keep it simple :heart:

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                  2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

                  Change, am very sorry to hear your sad news.
                  Us drinkers are accutely aware of liver damage, but very ignorant of many other life-threatening risks. Perhaps that`s because we are too afraid to research this subject, but seriously, I think it`s time we did........

                  Starlight Impress

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                    #10
                    2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

                    See, like I said, here lots of us are "health nuts" and exercise, etc., but drink too much poison daily...its very counterproductive...as a 3 yr. cancer survivor, I KNOW better, I had ob/gyn cancer, big time, and I want to quit this "habit" so as not to tempt fate in the health dept. in any way, shape or form! Thanks for sharing...if you think being hungover is depressing, dealing with cancer is worse!!!!
                    "Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending"

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                      2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

                      Beatle,

                      Just re-read my post and realised i said "the real tragedy is when we know better and keep on going"... Well, it is a tragedy if we know better and we keep going with it. Myself included. But, i must say, there is an intellectual understanding and there is a point where we really "get it"... I think i am at the i "really get it" point.

                      Hey, i have been in the situation where i continued to drink even when i knew it was giving me hangovers etc., and really changing my moods, yet i kept on drinking... and why? Because, i didn't care.

                      Now, i care. I don't want to justify myself, just explaining things to you.

                      I also believe it is tragic that some people are completely oblivious to alcohol and the detrimental effects of it. For example, 2 people i know are sucked in by it and don't even realise there is a big marketing machine behind it. They just follow the crowd and keep doing it. Anyway, maybe one day i can talk to them about it.

                      And by seeing the consequences of her actions, i hope my friend can stop, because i don't think she's ever made the connection. She just went along with the crowd, believing she was having a good time.

                      I am really starting to sound like a reformed addict... :cupajoe:
                      One day at a time.. Sometimes it's one minute or one second at a time.. Most important thing is to look ahead and don't look back!

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                        2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

                        Wow, toughintexas, that must have been tough, i can not possibly imagine what it would be like...
                        One day at a time.. Sometimes it's one minute or one second at a time.. Most important thing is to look ahead and don't look back!

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                          2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

                          Happycamper68,

                          One is testicular cancer and the other is reported skin cancer.

                          I hope they get better.
                          One day at a time.. Sometimes it's one minute or one second at a time.. Most important thing is to look ahead and don't look back!

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                            #14
                            2 friends with cancer - both heavy drinkers

                            In relation to what i was saying about the "real tragedy" and i hope "she can see the consquences of her actions", well, i meant that it is a tragedy and no apologies for having that belief. I am not being judgemental, just presenting my point of view.

                            Also, i hope my friend, in particular (as well as anybody else reading these boards) can see the connection between their drinking and what it may be doing to their health. It is not a guilt trip, but a simple statement.

                            Anyhow, i am hungry and have to get something to eat. I hope that clears it up for you. I was not being judgemental.
                            One day at a time.. Sometimes it's one minute or one second at a time.. Most important thing is to look ahead and don't look back!

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