December 2019: International Army

[IamMary]

Re: December 2019: International Army

Evening,
Tree up but no decorations yet due to a teenage pre xmas melt down. If I was still drinking, Id be finishing up the 2nd bottle now, eyeing something else, emotional and exhausted.. Id wake up drowning in guilt and pain.
I am planning to be fresh as a daisy :happy2:
Pearls sound gorgeous JC..

[NoraC]

Re: December 2019: International Army

Hello everyone. Lots going on here. I hope you were able to get some sleep Mary. Nothing like a teenage meltdown is there?

We haven't got our tree yet. Haven't done any shopping. Have a very few decorations up. Wow - if I blink, Christmas will be past.

I hope that everyone is having a great weekend.

[mollyka]

Re: December 2019: International Army

Morning all! and great to see you Nora.. the only reason I have my tree up etc. is because Joe was going away - I knew if it wasn't done (it's his job!!!) I'd have felt guilted into doing it while he was gone so I encouraged him to get going - but normally I'd only be beginning to think about anything.. so don't sweat the small stuff!!!

Oh Mary Mary Mary -- I doubt if there's one of us here that hasn't dealt with teenage horror's -- and I know that's no consolation to you.. but you do come through the other end... and a lot of how you handle those years imo is the basis for your adult relationship with them down the road... so being in recovery is such a big big biggy… they have SUCH a rod to beat you with if you're still drinking so you are streets ahead of about 90% of the population of teenager parents!! you don't even have to be a 'problem' drinker for them to throw drinking in your face! and it does end - believe it or not - under all that shouting and bluster - -- they KNOW when they are out of turn - they are only pushing the boundaries.. and more than ever this is the time to remember - we are not here to be their 'friends' and to pander to every demand -- we are their parents - and they actually quite like boundaries!
Off to work shortly and heading out tonight with my special friends at work - we only get together a couple of times a year cos we've all been scattered a bit.. but it'll be great - going to a Nepalese (I THINK It's Nepalese -- one of those cuisines anyway!) place in Malahide - so no travelling nor nothing.. talk later folks!

[JackieClaire]

Re: December 2019: International Army

Morning,
[MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION].......like Molls said you've got the huge advantage of sobriety on your side. Did you try..............'do you speak to your friends with a mouth like that?'
Jenny rolled in at 3am..........smelling of booze and a garlic & cheese fries. Tbh not sure what smelled worse. And no phone charger.
She's got to be up and dressed in half an hour if she wants a lift to the station.
We're popping into the sober cafe I used to volunteer at. They're having another New Year's Eve party so going to get some tickets.

[byebyebridgetjones]

Re: December 2019: International Army

Evening all,
No Satzy, I have been to a few and organised even more of the bloody things. I doubt there are many conferences that people actually find useful the whole time. Maybe one or two things and the rest is a junket for them.

Teenagers-God help us. I remember feeling so entitled to feel the way I did. Completely egocentric. I also remember feeling calmer and back in control when someone put me back in my place. In later years I just nodded and agreed-and did exactly what I wanted to behind their backs. That was the beginning of the binge drinking. Worked out so well....

The state is still burning. 680 homes lost. I don't want to think too much about how many animals. That really does my head in.

[byebyebridgetjones]

Re: December 2019: International Army

Ahh cross -posted missus.
Doesn't booze smell repulsive on people?

[JackieClaire]

Re: December 2019: International Army

[MENTION=9170]byebyebridgetjones[/MENTION]............just watching the news. Tragic doesn't begin to describe it.

Oh yes, it honks to high heaven. I just stand at arm's length. And the long-held belief that vodka doesn't smell is a myth.

Better get dressed myself.

[satz123]

Re: December 2019: International Army

Ahh cross -posted missus.
Doesn't booze smell repulsive on people?

God yes - worse than anything is that sour smell in the morning. Makes me retch uke: when YS stays over.
That smell that reminds me of the taste in my mouth ........ oh God !!

[satz123]

Re: December 2019: International Army

An alcoholic seizure is one of the scariest things I've ever seen.
Can't stop long as Mr. JC's got his pals round watching a match.

[MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION] what would I do if that happened to YS. What are the signs ?

[Pavati]

Re: December 2019: International Army

Hi,

I stopped in at the right time! I had a teenaged meltdown in my house last night also, Mary. What a giant pain in the a$$. I work with teenagers, too, so I always get a double whammy. As I said in the nest, I am so glad that I am sober. I can set those boundaries and be firm and confident in what I am doing. I can stay calm and steady during the unpleasant interchanges (although I did lose my cool a bit last night). I love teenagers and I'll be glad when this one pushes through this rough patch and is onward...

Hope all is well in the army. I am ready for December to be over. Bah humbug.

Pav

[JackieClaire]

Re: December 2019: International Army

[MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION] what would I do if that happened to YS. What are the signs ?

Easiest read I could find.................Alcohol Withdrawal Delirium: Causes, Symptoms, and Treatment

I just saw the white face with a sort of sheen of sweat, shaky hands and agitation. If you've ever seen an epileptic fit its like that. Horrible and frightening for the patient and the onlooker.
A hangover is withdrawal. How many of us have had a hair of the dog the following day just to take the edge off?

[satz123]

Re: December 2019: International Army

I am ready for December to be over. Bah humbug.

Pav

Pav you won't believe this but I thought the EXACT same thing just before I read your post :egad:
I want normality restored.

I say it every year but I find the whole 'let's be jolly' thing very tiresome.

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[mollyka]

Re: December 2019: International Army

Pav you won't believe this but I thought the EXACT same thing just before I read your post :egad:
I want normality restored.

I say it every year but I find the whole 'let's be jolly' thing very tiresome.

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I usually do too (in latter years anyway - ) - but for some reason I'm quite looking forward to it this year - even enjoying the preparation..
Just back from lovely night out for a good nosh and a great laugh - haven't laughed like that for a long time - really miss my old pals in the library - so many 'ambitious young things' - (some of these so called 'ambitious young things' are as old as 50!) there's not much fun and black humour going around - they are too afraid to take a step out of line... anyway - great night was had.. feel guilty cos I was asked to babysit tomorrow - but I'm really shagging tired - shopping all day Friday and working today and out tonight - only really have tomorrow off.. so made my excuses.. do feel mean tho.. feck it.. I deserve a day off!!
Watching celeb jungle -

[mollyka]

Re: December 2019: International Army

Hi,

I stopped in at the right time! I had a teenaged meltdown in my house last night also, Mary. What a giant pain in the a$$. I work with teenagers, too, so I always get a double whammy. As I said in the nest, I am so glad that I am sober. I can set those boundaries and be firm and confident in what I am doing. I can stay calm and steady during the unpleasant interchanges (although I did lose my cool a bit last night). I love teenagers and I'll be glad when this one pushes through this rough patch and is onward...

Hope all is well in the army. I am ready for December to be over. Bah humbug.

Pav

I truly believed I had replied to this - mustn't have sent.. fair dues to you teenagers home AND away - not easy Pav -- respect!!!

[rustop59]

Re: December 2019: International Army

I truly believed I had replied to this - mustn't have sent.. fair dues to you teenagers home AND away - not easy Pav -- respect!!!

Good morning. Totally agree with Molly, it is not easy but you will get through it Mary and Pav and having a clear head makes all the difference. I was out chauffeuring last night. Daughter had her Xmas party in the city. She was going to pre book taxi but I wasn’t crazy about her coming out to the boonies with a stranger so I volunteered. Harcourt Street is some experience at 3 am! In fairness she got up to the puppy early fed him etc. It is like having a baby in the house. Horrible morning here. Going to help hubby put up some of the Xmas lights.