International Army Mayl 2020

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone. I definitely want a Karen, specialising in pet hair sold it to me, thanks Mary. Off to google them now. Just had long walk with friend I had not seen in two months and now enjoying a nice coffee. Tomorrow is another night JC so you will catch up. I find that’s what I do. Take it easy today. Another beautiful one here so will be spending as much time as I can outside.

[mollyka]

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Morning all --- a man down the road died and it was his funeral this morning - I HATE funerals - think they are pagan and just.... wrong --- but -- because no one can have a funeral at the moment - only 10 people or something - the hearse went up our lane past our house and we just went up to the gate to say our farewells -- and EVERYONE on the lane was out at their gates -- and I thought it was lovely - so respectful... I think that's one thing that should stay - really liked it -- poor old divil - he was the first to welcome us here all those years ago and he was a grand fella - his wife died a couple of months ago - and he'd just had enough I think.

another dream of a day here so heading out to the garden.. I find now that I'm not working - it doesn't seem to matter to me whether I sleep or not - but when I'm working - I do get a bit fussed... but as my doc told me many years ago -- it won't kill me!!!

[fickle]

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Satz I loved loved loved that article about the French Girl and I’m going to try it.
[MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION] I want a robot that cuts the grass! Amazing! but I don't have grass any more due to drought so I guess I don't need it. My Rosie Robot only cost me $350AUD and is pretty basic but it’s wonderful! I think the ones for dog hairs are a fair bit more expensive. You can even get ones that map your house and remember where they’ve been and empty themselves.
[MENTION=9170]byebyebridgetjones[/MENTION] that is really interesting that your inner critic is worse since you became AF because it’s totally the opposite for me. There are a lot of books on the subject. The one I read was on complex PTSD recovery but there are lots of less hardcore books. I just found this one on audible which is highly rated on goodreads: How to Be Yourself (Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety) by Ellen Hendriksen. I choose audiobooks so I can listen while I garden or do housework. I know ‘self help’ books are seen as self-indulgent by some, but I honestly owe my sanity to such books as I’ve never found a counsellor that was any good (possibly because I’ve never had the money to afford other than the cheap bulk billed health centre kind and the good ones always leave quickly for better pay elsewhere). Books are a way to access the latest thinking and neuroscience. I have learned to do the RAIN technique popularised by Tara Brach and it is incredibly powerful. Here is an article in Huffpost about it: https://www.huffingtonpost.com.au/20...in_a_22078892/ Most of the time my internal critic was someone else’s voice I had internalised. I have become very good at listening to it and identifying where it has come from. Much like if someone else is abusing me, I ask myself ‘would I treat someone I loved that way?’ or even if I’m at work and someone speaks to me without respect I think ‘would I speak to anyone that way?’ as a gage of whether my inner voice is reasonable or not. Once you realise the inner critic is someone you don’t respect, it loses a lot of its power. It’s like when I learned to picture the part of my brain urging me to drink as Dory (in Finding Nemo) and instead of trying to resist it, I just pat it on the head condescendingly and chuckle. I’m getting better at doing that with my inner critic but it takes practice.

[JackieClaire]

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Weather report..........its what my Nana would call a lovely drying day.................14C, cloudy and blowing a gale.

[MENTION=8529]mollyka[/MENTION]..........you know, what you did was lovely. And I understand completely about yer man .............we have a feeling it'll be the same with Mr. JC's Ma & Pa..........they've been married 63 years and courted 4 years before that. One will go and the other won't be far behind.

Just typing 'courted' made me think what a lovely old fashioned word.

[NoSugar]

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Bridget, coming to understand the (awkwardly named) 3 Principles has almost silenced that critical voice that used to rage in my head and when it tries to pipe up now (like it did last night when I got into a bit of a kerfuffle with some friends who wanted me to join them at a supposedly 'socially distant' event), it was easy to turn it off.
I hope you can find a way to talk to yourself like you deserve, like someone you love very much. It seems like we accept the flaws that come with being human in others so much more quickly than in ourselves - but we can turn that around :hug:

[satz123]

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Morning all --- a man down the road died and it was his funeral this morning - I HATE funerals - think they are pagan and just.... wrong --- but -- because no one can have a funeral at the moment - only 10 people or something - the hearse went up our lane past our house and we just went up to the gate to say our farewells -- and EVERYONE on the lane was out at their gates -- and I thought it was lovely - so respectful... I think that's one thing that should stay - really liked it -- poor old divil - he was the first to welcome us here all those years ago and he was a grand fella - his wife died a couple of months ago - and he'd just had enough I think.

Thats sad Molls - but I agree passing his house & a wave goodbye from neighbours is a really nice touch. They used to do that in Dublin years ago - seems to have stopped.
The church bit I can take or leave - but I suppose in normal times when everyone is out being busy it's a focal point where people can gather.

[satz123]

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Bridget, coming to understand the (awkwardly named) 3 Principles has almost silenced that critical voice that used to rage in my head and when it tries to pipe up now (like it did last night when I got into a bit of a kerfuffle with some friends who wanted me to join them at a supposedly 'socially distant' event), it was easy to turn it off.
I hope you can find a way to talk to yourself like you deserve, like someone you love very much. It seems like we accept the flaws that come with being human in others so much more quickly than in ourselves - but we can turn that around :hug:

Thanks [MENTION=18725]NoSugar[/MENTION] ...... it's only when I go back & read it - it makes so much sense again.
Ha ha remember Kuya ? - hilarious charactar - so passionate about things - always getting herself in trouble across the boards........ I miss those 'discussions'.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Bridget, coming to understand the (awkwardly named) 3 Principles has almost silenced that critical voice that used to rage in my head and when it tries to pipe up now (like it did last night when I got into a bit of a kerfuffle with some friends who wanted me to join them at a supposedly 'socially distant' event), it was easy to turn it off.
I hope you can find a way to talk to yourself like you deserve, like someone you love very much. It seems like we accept the flaws that come with being human in others so much more quickly than in ourselves - but we can turn that around :hug:

You are such a kind and eloquent person NS. Thank you.

[IamMary]

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I'd love to know what your Karen is there Mers?? (I think)

My new wife (robotic hoover). I love her.

Thanks [MENTION=18725]NoSugar[/MENTION]
Ha ha remember Kuya ? - hilarious charactar - so passionate about things - always getting herself in trouble across the boards........ I miss those 'discussions'.

No they scared me :egad: She was a character..

Bridge, I wasnt full of regret, but had lost my mojo for sure. Well, I suspect I lost that a long time before, I just didnt feel all that good about myself. It came back bit by bit. Now I rock :harhar:
I jest.. I'll never be super confident (and get in the middle of Kuya and Satz for example!), but Im happy in my skin. Isn't that all any of us want? contentment.
I really took to the 3 Ps when NS started those threads. Its all about changing our mindsets. We all did it when we gave the booze the middle finger, so this is the next step.

Funeral in Skerries today too Molly, he was a very popular man and the streets were littered with people. It was lovely to see.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Morning all. @byebyebridgetjones 'Karen', I've discovered, is a robot vacuum cleaner and I want one :rant:

This is what I think I'll do during June. Biddie you can join me: it's basically 'I'll do as I please with no guilt' lifestyle

I Tried Living Like A Stereotypical “French Girl” & It Changed My Life

I'd love to join you Satzy but I already live like that. That's how I got myself into this pickle (again)

I love the idea of two Karens - one in, one out. But can you imagine what she'd run herself through? A friend of mine bought one then the dog had an accident inside and the Karen went through it -over and over again- while she was at work. I think she had to throw the Karen out. Possibly burn the house down and move.

I notice the UK police use their helicopters with heat sensing devices JC. To chase down little buggers I believe. I suppose all countries do these days but I saw it on Crime and Investigation channel. So it must be true.

Very sad about old mate Molly. And they've died while in isolation as well the poor old things. I bet a lot of our elders have worried about that and not seeing everyone that they want to before they go.
I've been thinking I won't waste time any more.

Thanks for the recommendations Fickle. I didn't even realise there was an Huffington Post Australia - so there ya go. I'll definitely pick up a copy of the Hendriksen book. It's just the next step in refining the new me. Unfortunately, even through all of my previous sober years I still had this oik in my ear. The only time I copped a break was when I started taking A-Ds and that didn't last. Doesn't help that I am shit at controlling my impulses but we'll get there.

It is so good having a few newbys and returners around the site. Sort of turns the soil for us and starts us thinking about things a bit differently.

Well the bomb was dropped last night at work. A complete restructure of the entire joint. There were a flurry of emergency Zooms and mad Webexing. I may well be OK for work in the new structure but not sure its a structure I would want to work in. I suppose any job is a good job these days

[Guitarista]

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Hola friends

Love the inner critic con...com....ce cu c conundrum. I have one of the best. But who's the boss up there in my head? Used to be the critic. A combo of core beliefs ingrained at an early age and regular self destructive action that reinforced such critical thoughts and feelings. During the search for truth and meaning i found many before me swear by developing self awareness via repetitive self care action. Contentment and the quieting of the committee of inner critics began with an acknowledgement and understanding that some of my core beliefs are incorrect, inaccurate, no evidence to support, but unfortunately are deeply ingrained. I look at such core belief/s and acknowledge them, but do not accept them. I know what they are and work around them, leaving them alone, acknowledging but not allowing them much of my time. Because those thoughts are incorrect and make me feel bad. No time for that stuff.

How can we change the mental program? I found 2 daily common habits in too many of those that found inner quiet, peace, contentment for it to be coincidence. So i adopted them.

A simple gratitude list every morning of one thing i'm thankful for, ensures i turn up for myself by checking in. Meditation/breathing. Daily is the key they say. Re programming myself is the idea. Daily reprogramming combined with looking at my self critic in the eye and acknowledging it with compassion has greatly reduced/almost eliminated inner conflict.

Good luck Jonesy. You're the boss. X

[satz123]

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My new wife (robotic hoover). I love her.



No they scared me :egad: She was a character..

Bridge, I wasnt full of regret, but had lost my mojo for sure. Well, I suspect I lost that a long time before, I just didnt feel all that good about myself. It came back bit by bit. Now I rock :harhar:
I jest.. I'll never be super confident (and get in the middle of Kuya and Satz for example!), but Im happy in my skin. Isn't that all any of us want? contentment.
I really took to the 3 Ps when NS started those threads. Its all about changing our mindsets. We all did it when we gave the booze the middle finger, so this is the next step.

Funeral in Skerries today too Molly, he was a very popular man and the streets were littered with people. It was lovely to see.

Are you MAD Mers ? She'd eat me up & spit me out .
An ME super confident ?? :haha: - I'm not .....
I know to many it seems I'm obsessed with weight - but it has ruled my life since I was 11 years old. So my mood & my weight sync most days. So I suppose that is my inner critic mostly ?
It will never go - my mother is 90 this year and still goes on about her 'big belly.'

I suppose we all have some bodily obsession that can determine how we feel when we look in the mirror ?
We noticed a pretty severe dementia patient the other day. Every time she looked in the mirror she lost her temper and went on a rampage. She was seeing something she didn't like - maybe the MAD hair needing cutting - but couldn't verbalise it.
She did this numerous times during the day

[JackieClaire]

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Morning and waves to the world,
My bushes have been done and I've apologised to them for their loss of bushyness. The men that can were here at 8am and gone by nine with a £100 in their pocket.
And the man that can is coming to see about the doors.
I shall be doing my roots later on.

[satz123]

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I'd love to join you Satzy but I already live like that. That's how I got myself into this pickle (again)

:haha: [MENTION=9170]byebyebridgetjones[/MENTION] - I think it's when we feel guilty about what we're doing. That cake - NO BAD - deprive ourselves. Then a few days later go on a rampage of eating.
Alcohol was the same. It was something we were not allowed until age 18 - then bang - binge drinking in our teens & 20s.
Which in our cases led to the pickle ( literally ) we were in.

Just some musings on this Thursday morning...... maybe I'm not ready either to test that logic of eating & drinking what & when you like :egad:

[satz123]

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Laters :llama: