International Army August 2020

[stirly-girly]

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Still no real news. Mr A still very poorly and he is really distressed when he sees me on the iPad . Desperately hard when no visiting is allowed and he is crying.
He is able to talk but with mixed up words although his cognitive function seems fairly ok.

I am having broken sleep but am being well looked after by my three girls.

So sorry to hear that you are not able to be at his side, Mrs. A. I really don't understand that. If you were wearing the proper protective wear then surely there would be no problem. They really should make exceptions in some cases and yours is one of them. Good that your daughters are there. Just so unfair that Mr. A has to be by himself. So very difficult for all of you. Hopefully you will be able to bring him home soon.

[deedoo]

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Hi all,
Just thought I'd drop in and say hello

[mollyka]

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Hi Dee and welcome to the army thread...mostly Irish and British and Ozzies here with the occasional American guest visit ;-) in other words all are more than welcome...tell us a bit about yourself if you want to!

[JackieClaire]

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Just calling into say nighty night.

[MENTION=22839]brit[/MENTION]....:hug:..........can you get your GP involved and lay it on thick that you were a nurse? I can just send as many good vibes as I can muster.

[MENTION=22494]deedoo[/MENTION]..............welcome to you.

No hollingdays for us this year. There's only three in Mr JC's office at the moment and they're all just grabbing a day off here and there. And one of them is off sick with severe bruising as she got blown off her moped in the winds last week. The rest are still home working.
But we have got a nice voucher for £250 and 20% off a country cottage with Sykes to use in the next two years.

[JackieClaire]

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Completely forgot or did I block it. Jenny & Ads had to be tested for the virus. They're self-isolating at the moment until they get their results. Could be a couple of days before their results.

[IamMary]

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Hello hello,
How soon with they get the results [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION]? have they symptoms or is it for work?

My youngest was doing a v funny impression of her teacher approaching desks, obviously exaggerating as she put on 4 masks, a visor, 2 pairs of gloves (marigolds for our entertainment), then announced loudly; 'I am approaching your desk'
Well I hope she was exaggerating!
[MENTION=22839]brit[/MENTION], how soon will Mr A be in hospital? Its so cruel not to be able to visit. Hoping he'll be back with you all again soon. Keep us posted.

Hi all,
Just thought I'd drop in and say hello

Welcome Dee. Come back for a chat and tell us how your doing.

We have lit the fire :egad: (its lovely).

[deedoo]

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Hi Mollyka and Jackie,
I used to be around here previously under different names, due to noesy fr****'s. Checking here and chatting helped massively especially in the early days. But that little demon on my shoulder told me i was grand now on me own. Foolish, foolish woman, but im back now so onwards and upwards.

[satz123]

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Still no real news. Mr A still very poorly and he is really distressed when he sees me on the iPad . Desperately hard when no visiting is allowed and he is crying.
He is able to talk but with mixed up words although his cognitive function seems fairly ok.

Ms A that is totally wrong and cruel.
I would now be insisting on gowning up to see your husband who is as you say , is very poorly. Tell them you are not a threat and that your husband is distressed and this isolation will hinder his recovery. And you will hold them responsible.
I am hopping - this blanket application of rules drives me f*cking MAD. It's lazy. Each case should be considered separately.

[satz123]

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Hey [MENTION=22494]deedoo[/MENTION]

Foolish, foolish woman, but im back now so onwards and upwards.

How long were you sober before you lapsed ?
Do you know what caused it .... have you learned from it ?

I honestly think relapse can be a good thing ........ as long as we learn something from it.

[byebyebridgetjones]

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Morning all,
Welcome [MENTION=22494]deedoo[/MENTION] Nice to have a new person around! We start again as many times as we have to deedoo. The other option is not worth thinking about.

I had a couple of days away from the computer. Working on it up to 14 hours per day I just couldn't stand the sight of it any more. We are heading right into glorious Spring weather ahead of time so it was off to Bunnings with the Mother Ship.
I'll drop in tonight for a proper look through. I'm off into the sun with a wheelbarrow full of fertiliser and a song in my heart....

[mollyka]

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Morning -- and join a group of foolish foolish people (hopefully in the past!!!) Dee -- doubt if anyone got it first time - or second? Relapse a good thing... mmm -- well I look at that in two ways - if when I was still somewhat struggling to maintain sobriety - first year or two maybe - if someone told me relapse was a good thing - in any weak moment I was quite capable of thinking that having a drink could be a 'good thing' -- I was an absolute brain stormer of stupid decisions back then -- however from a distance.. IF we learn -- IF we realise that it has set us back to square one and the hard work has to be partaken of yet again - yes - I can see that it's a good thing - but I do say - and always will - that the 3 years that I was on-off drinking (and that was 90% OFF) were FAR worse than when I was just out and out drinking.. both for me and my nearest and dearest -- horrible time

Glorious morning here - let Joe off on the bike on his own and now regretting it - it's wasp season and am reluctant to sit in garden cos I'm allergic to almost all stings.. was weeding yesterday and had a lump the size of an apple on my hand last night - and it went all black inside - no idea what got me - but it isn't pretty!

Howdy all - it's a rare day I get without some computer work Bridge so you're dead right - stick to the garden!!!!

[JackieClaire]

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Waves etc haven't a clue what time its is.
Both their tests were negative.............so they'll now be able to go to Keilder and get pneumonia.
Don't think I've seen a wasp or a bee all our 'summer'. Think they've stayed in hibernation.

The question for me is how many relapses can you have or your body can cope with.
How many have us have sworn never again on a Monday and by Wednesday thought a couple won't hurt? How many of us thought that just drinking in a bar til we're legless wasn't really alcoholism? How many of us have said 'we've never drank in the morning'? How many have lied through our teeth about how much we drink?
How many of us have died before they got help? How many of us have blamed other people for our drinking? How many of us have had friends who have drifted off because of our antics.

My last relapse was a beautifully planned relapse.................I'd been sober a while but decided to get absolutely rat-arsed at Mr JC's 50th birthday and boom I was off...............just eight days later there I am planning my suicide.

You know, it was a few years ago that Mr JC admitted he used to have a knot of anxiety everytime he drove home from work............it was about two years into my sobriety this time round that he no longer 'feared' coming home wondering whether @) I'd be alive or b) I'd be shitfaced and mouthy.

[JackieClaire]

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Interesting article.

The Five Rules of Recovery and Relapse Prevention

[mollyka]

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2 years seems to be the period when #1 I began to believe a drink wouldn't just pour itself down my throat and #2 when my family really believed in me.
I think if everyone had such a startling decli e as you describe there Jackie in a matter of days ..it would be much easier to accept addiction for what it is. I've had the 'back to same quantities previous' within a week..but I've also had the 'normal' drinking just drifting upwards over a period of months ...and there tge dangerous ones 'YAY IM FIXED'

Going up to Simon's for a bbq...looking forward to it...see the wee boys before they back to school!

[deedoo]

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Hi all,
I think this time i want to go back to the beginning and speak with the alcohol councellors rather than just, I was stressed, i was angry, i was whatever....couple of days drinking here or there and then dusting meself off and getting back on the wagon. Unfortunately as we all know the days drinking get longer and the time period between them gets shorter. So fresh start, back to the dr on Tuesday and hopefully the alcohol councellor will get in touch very soon.