March Army 2022

[mollyka]

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Let's all go & get pissed at the Parade in town ........ :harhar:

Oh and I spoke too soon ................ YS due back to Waterford House today .... wasn't feeling great and just tested positive for COVID virus :egad:
He's been here since Sunday ........ so we'll see how our immune systems hold up ...........

Oh bummer! Hopefully you'll escape...jilly practically lives in our house and we didn't get it and neither did Tilly so fingers crossed xx

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone

Fingers crossed that you don’t come down with it Satz. It is everywhere so hard to avoid but like Molly I have heard of a lot of people who have had it in the house and did not get I t.

Just back from walk over the waterfall, lovely morning. Think I had better go buy food as the next two days are bank holidays and the cupboards are bare.

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
St. Paddy's day is my mum's birthday although she's no longer with us.

Love having a utility room. The fridge/freezer and the washing machine are all in there and it makes our kitchen always look tidy. Although I've just found out that I've been cleaning the kitchen tops with window cleaner.......hasn't done any harm over the last three years we've had it.

Another new one for me...............I went into town all by myself (gawd you'd think I was six).............found it rather depressing.It used to be heaving any day of the week. Awfully quiet for a Tuesday and a good few shops gone. Did get my handbag for 'the wedding of the century'. £20 in the market.

Had a long phone call with the bride to be and it was confirmed that her and four of her bridesmaids are getting ready at our house. I'll just get some wet wipes and get ready in the shed. My idea of once a bridesmaid is ready they're going to sit next door has gone from 'don't be ridiculous' to 'what a good idea'. Luckily he's Mr JC's best friend and he's coming to the whole carry on.
He'll be like a pig in muck being surrounded by lovely ladies.
The flower girl from Ads first relationship (or whatever you call the little bridesmaid) is getting ready with her Gran in her hotel.

[mollyka]

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Morning Army --- all sounds very organised Jackie -- sounds like you can sit back and enjoy the action -- oh and maybe throw a bit of food and drink their way.

Now -- got a shocker this morning - I was truly rocked by it and don't know what to do -- so need my lovely good friends here to talk me down off the ledge (joking obviously -- but rocked!) As you all probably know I fell out with my sisters (2) after my mum died in 2008 -- things had been horrible for years before that but we mostly kept it hidden from mum until the truly nutty one (the one in Wexford) let rip..... anyway -- my other sister -- she lives in Skerries now -- she's very much older than me so I didn't know her terribly well growing up - she always irritated me to the Nth degree -- she used to hang out of my mum - free childminding - bed and board for her and her children every time she fell out with her husband etc etc etc... but she's --- well -- okay-ish -- not a nut --- anyway -- to cut a long story short I got a letter from her today by snail mail -- saying she would like bygones be bygones... I don't know WHAT to do.... I cannot have the other one in my life and I'm not sure if the letter refers to them both or just D -- there is SO much hurt there -- it wasn't just a silly row -- it was vile -- I could say none of it was my fault -- there's always two sides tho and I'm sure I didn't handle things perfectly -- AND I was drinking at the time so may not be as clear as I should be -- I certainly did feel in the 'right' at the time.... do I open a can of worms and tell her 'yeah- we could meet for coffee' sort of thing or will all that hurt come flooding back?



Really need advice on this -- Joe thinks I should meet her -- he thinks it's sad that I have no family - but it doesn't make me sad -- in fact it doesn't give me a thought --- until today...


HELP!!!!!

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=8529]mollyka[/MENTION]................holy crap. I bet you are. That's one big think you've got to do.

Might sound odd but is she dying and wants to make amends before she shuffles off or has she fallen out with the other sister so got no-one else to pester?

Three things that came to mind.................meet her but take Joe with you or snail mail her back asking 'why now' and you have such a lovely family do you need her stressing you out again.

First thing first put the letter to one side until you feel ready to read it when you're calmer..............it must be whirling at the moment.

[rustop59]

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Morning Army --- all sounds very organised Jackie -- sounds like you can sit back and enjoy the action -- oh and maybe throw a bit of food and drink their way.

Now -- got a shocker this morning - I was truly rocked by it and don't know what to do -- so need my lovely good friends here to talk me down off the ledge (joking obviously -- but rocked!) As you all probably know I fell out with my sisters (2) after my mum died in 2008 -- things had been horrible for years before that but we mostly kept it hidden from mum until the truly nutty one (the one in Wexford) let rip..... anyway -- my other sister -- she lives in Skerries now -- she's very much older than me so I didn't know her terribly well growing up - she always irritated me to the Nth degree -- she used to hang out of my mum - free childminding - bed and board for her and her children every time she fell out with her husband etc etc etc... but she's --- well -- okay-ish -- not a nut --- anyway -- to cut a long story short I got a letter from her today by snail mail -- saying she would like bygones be bygones... I don't know WHAT to do.... I cannot have the other one in my life and I'm not sure if the letter refers to them both or just D -- there is SO much hurt there -- it wasn't just a silly row -- it was vile -- I could say none of it was my fault -- there's always two sides tho and I'm sure I didn't handle things perfectly -- AND I was drinking at the time so may not be as clear as I should be -- I certainly did feel in the 'right' at the time.... do I open a can of worms and tell her 'yeah- we could meet for coffee' sort of thing or will all that hurt come flooding back?



Really need advice on this -- Joe thinks I should meet her -- he thinks it's sad that I have no family - but it doesn't make me sad -- in fact it doesn't give me a thought --- until today...


HELP!!!!!

Oh that is a bummer. Funny my first thought was the same as JC, is she ill? I echo what JC said, take your time. Funnily enough my cousin who just committed suicide was estranged from all of us and it is very sad, his kids are now missing out so there is part of me feeling life is too short. Meet but on your terms.

My hubby has an ideal relationship with some of his odd siblings. Really has nothing to do with them, gets on with living his own life but if he meets them speaks, very pleasant, no agro. That’s easy when he doesn’t see them though and it never got to the stage of a bust up so it’s not the same. Maybe meet and then have that type of relationship? I’m an only child so probably not the best one to understand the sibling stuff. Just thought I’d throw that in.

[mollyka]

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oh wow - thanks so much for such quick replies --- and I thought all those thoughts that ye mention -- well except the one where she's dying -- and of course that IS a possibility -- but I think the more likely one is that she has fallen out with the other one -- E fights with everyone --she has fallen out with business partners - friends -- in-laws - other relations --- she used to even have awful rows with my mum which if you knew my mum that was almost impossible -- so it would be easy to imagine that she has fallen out with D -- I will leave it for a few days I think and write back to her - she put her address on it so probably what she wants me to do - I think I will agree to move on -- but stress that it would be nice if just the two of us met -- I don't want to face a family load of them!!! They still have the power to sort of scare me -- not sure if that's the right word -- but I feel intimidated just hearing from her... but I'm in control -- and yes -- on my terms I may meet her -- weird tho!! Joe has a similar sort of relationship with his brother and sister as you describe your hubbies Rusters... it's all quite pleasant but not very personal -- easy for sure


yup - you've made me see it a bit clearer -- thanks again both of you x

[satz123]

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ok

1) You DO have family Molls - a loving husband , 5 kids + offspring so that's not true.
2) 'Blood thicker than water' is bollox. If they cause us hurt - cut them off.
However :
3) There was drink involved - so there would have been heightened emotions, overreaction or something said could have been taken up as more than it was. We all know the communication issues drinking causes. Recall would be fuzzy & possibly inaccurate.

So taking all that into consideration - my advice is the same as Jacks "snail mail her back asking 'why now'-" ? Give her your email address & see what she has to say.
You can be pen pals for a while ? Tell her if you ever do meet .........'the other wan' is not welcome.

[mollyka]

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ok

1) You DO have family Molls - a loving husband , 5 kids + offspring so that's not true.
2) 'Blood thicker than water' is bollox. If they cause us hurt - cut them off.
However :
3) There was drink involved - so there would have been heightened emotions, overreaction or something said could have been taken up as more than it was. We all know the communication issues drinking causes. Recall would be fuzzy & possibly inaccurate.

So taking all that into consideration - my advice is the same as Jacks "snail mail her back asking 'why now'-" ? Give her your email address & see what she has to say.
You can be pen pals for a while ? Tell her if you ever do meet .........'the other wan' is not welcome.

Well I've only 4 kids but I get your drift ;-)
Yes there was drink involved but....Joe and my kids were present for most of the horrible things and they all say that the lunacy and pure nastiness came from E....with the tacit support of the other one...so whereas I cannot absolve myself neither will I take blame purely on the strength of that...anyway..yes I agree...I'll find out D's motives (hopefully she does have email...hand writing is exhausting!!!) And work on it from there!

[IamMary]

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Oh Molly, thats certainly out of the blue, and weird, given that we were just chatting about the other one recently.
Sound advice given here. Like the idea of a few letters/emails for a while, clear up some questions. Be honest and tell her how you feel.

I know when i was drinking, i could get bitter in my head and blow things way out of proportion, leading to a few nasty fights. (Now, im so grateful not be feel like that, i can let a comment slide or come back with a smart 1 liner and the situation is resolved).

Thats interesting Rustop, mr M has similar relationships with his siblings. The get on fine, just not remotely close.

[MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION], well done on the trip, massive progress. Youll be in New York by May!
[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION], why doesnt Mr S work? And think of ‘the covid’ as a big booster. Youll be bullet proof for a many months

[satz123]

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From Ireland to all the Irish & wanna-be Irish today:

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone

Happy St Patricks day to anyone who celebrates. Out at 8 am this morning and had lovely walk over the waterfall. Himself had a hare chase, thought it was a small deer it was so big. Car park full when we got back, glad we went out early. Cooking nice dinner with desert so that’s my only plan for the day.

How are you feeling Satz? Hopefully no symptoms. Well done JC, you are doing brilliantly.

That’s gas Mary, wonder is it a male thing. Certainly makes for a calmer life. Lots of good advice Molly. Remember all on your terms, she’s the one who wants contact, you have lived happily without her for years. Take your time. Also you will be living other side of country so that will make it a lot easier.

[satz123]

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[MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION]

I know when i was drinking, i could get bitter in my head and blow things way out of proportion, leading to a few nasty fights.

Completely out of all proportion.
I'm not naturally a nasty person but anything stupid I've ever said or done was fueled by alcohol.
Inhibitions disappear and we say things we know will never be forgotten but we don't think of the consequences.

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
Happy St Patrick's Day..............putting sulky head on as we don't get a day off for St George's Day. We just polish our bowler hats.
Have the best day wish I was with you................perhaps next year.............gawd listen to me five weeks ago I couldn't go to the paper shop on my own and now I'm planning a trip to Ireland.

Hope our Whizzy checks in.

Got a photo of Jenny and Ads wedding invites last night. Very simple...............hope we get one.

My poor pregnant DIL is finding it hard going. She can't sleep as the little beggar comes alive in the night............she says it feels like he's having a disco inside. Have to bite my tongue and not say you think you're tired now just wait until he's born.

[mollyka]

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Evening all...finally sitting down with feet up..busy day ..little lads birthday and parades and met a couple of workmates at the parade and we had a catch up before I go back on Monday...all sounds the same...