March Army 2022

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone

I feel your pain JC, I had two with colic and it was a deciding factor in not having a third. Missed the bit about the storm but did hear that winter was to make an appearance in the next week here too. It has been glorious the past week. We will not know what has hit us. Good idea about staying in a hotel.

Hope all ok chez Satz? Much darker this morning going on my walk but delighted with the longer evenings. Better get back to work, typing this on my coffee break.

[satz123]

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Evening all.
YS is missing.
I've spoken to the local police to keep an eye out & they said yes they will pass the message on to colleagues.
He does not have any real friends to stay with that I know of - so I do not know where he can be.

Anyone reading this that still has romantic recall of drinking - forget it.
The lovely cold beer, the warming glass of red wine, refreshing glass of a fruity white - bullshit. If you went on line looking for help to change your relationship with alcohol - then you've most likely crossed the line and need to quit.

My lovely handsome son is no more. He was back with us for 5 happy months but now .........
He's a drunk who now blocks out shame, guilt, regret with a bottle on a daily basis.
He now wakes up in the morning & needs to escape feelings by getting that first drink.

We are beyond devastated.

[rustop59]

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Oh Satz my heart goes out to you. It is heartbreaking especially having had him back for those 5 months. You must be out of your mind with worry. Please God he will come around and seek help again.

[mollyka]

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Evening all.
YS is missing.
I've spoken to the local police to keep an eye out & they said yes they will pass the message on to colleagues.
He does not have any real friends to stay with that I know of - so I do not know where he can be.

Anyone reading this that still has romantic recall of drinking - forget it.
The lovely cold beer, the warming glass of red wine, refreshing glass of a fruity white - bullshit. If you went on line looking for help to change your relationship with alcohol - then you've most likely crossed the line and need to quit.

My lovely handsome son is no more. He was back with us for 5 happy months but now .........
He's a drunk who now blocks out shame, guilt, regret with a bottle on a daily basis.
He now wakes up in the morning & needs to escape feelings by getting that first drink.

We are beyond devastated.

Oh you poor things...I agree...how anyone could come to a site like this and say or think 'I'm not that bad'? Cop on....that's what can be ahead of each and every one of us...just hope he got a glimpse of what he could have without drink in those 5 months.

Thinking of you xxx

[IamMary]

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Nightmare Satz. Have you called around the hospitals? I wonder if he met someone in a pub and they kept the party going in some house somewhere. Another alco would love company and sounds like YS is good company.
Can you report him as a missing person?
Has he any money or access to cash? Can you see his last whereabouts on google maps/history?

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION].......you must be beside yourself. :hug: Glad you're in touch with police. I can't begin to know how you feel. Like Mers idea of checking the hospitals.

[MENTION=8529]mollyka[/MENTION]...........love the 'cop on'............its amazing how fast an 'innocent' one or two ends up with hiding bottles.

Had a man that can fit bathrooms at 8am and its going to take be over three days......no proper date yet though.........so that's me and Mikey off to a hotel. Did the same with Bess when they put the kit hen in.

[satz123]

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Morning folks !
Still no sign of YS.
He had lost his phone and I have no idea if he has money or not.
My reasoning is that when he runs out he will contact us - not to borrow money but to access his bank account on his laptop which is here.
If he wants to contact us - all he has to do is log on in an internet café & send an email or WhatApp.

But he doesn't want to make contact yet - we need to accept that.
Doesn't want to face his father after the 'altercation' they had.
Not in a I HATE HIM way - just an ashamed way !

And MrS is not innocent in all this. He reacted WAY out of all proportion - it was frightening to see. Not sure I can ever forgive or forget that night.
And any guilt he's feeling now is because of that reaction while drinking himself ....... and knowing he will eventually have to admit to his siblings that YS has relapsed & gone missing.
He's been lying - pretending everything is fine up to now .....

Thanks everyone on here for letting me put down what I'm thinking ..........

[IamMary]

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And MrS is not innocent in all this. He reacted WAY out of all proportion - it was frightening to see. Not sure I can ever forgive or forget that night.
And any guilt he's feeling now is because of that reaction while drinking himself ....... and knowing he will eventually have to admit to his siblings that YS has relapsed & gone missing.
He's been lying - pretending everything is fine up to now .....

Thanks everyone on here for letting me put down what I'm thinking ..........

Do you think the bust up would have made any difference to the outcome right now? Probably not, YS made the decision to drink again and that's the unfortunate truth. Mr S could have reached differently obviously and no excuse.. I guarantee MrM would have had exactly the same reaction (he's never thrown a punch in his life, but I know he wouldn't be able to cope with that much emotion).

Thinking about you xxx

[IamMary]

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Your absolutely right [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION], then you can walk into your beautiful new bathroom with no stress.
My sister has one of those smart loos. It's slightly freaky, lid opens when you walk in, closes when you leave. Heats your bum

[rustop59]

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[QUOTE=satz123

Thanks everyone on here for letting me put down what I'm thinking ..........[/QUOTE]

Afternoon everyone

Glad we are of some help Satz and I think it serves as a reminder to all of us what can happen if we were to have any notions that we are now cured after not drinking for x number of years.

God that’s posh Mary, have loads of new household stuff to look into. The cottage officially became ours today and we are picking up the keys on Saturday. Will be wild camping for the summer and looking into planning etc.

Back to work in a few minutes so will catch up later.

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION]..............thoroughly enjoyed my time away with Bess when we had the kit hen done.I was rather disappointed when they finished a day early. Lydia Languish had to go back to normal. Mr JC used to pop into the house to make sure they were doing their job.................although he knows as much about building kitchens as I know about parachuting.
It'll be a couple of weeks before we know when they start.

[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]............:hug:............we'll always listen. Might not have any answers but it gets it off your chest.

[mollyka]

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Evening all..sorry missing a bit I'm just a bit over-run. Thinking of you Benjy...hope the lad will sort himself out..I'm sure MrS probably didn't do the right thing...but then..is there a right thing in those circumstances? And of course that's not the reason he's gone off drinking...I'm reminded of the mantra from Aiseiri...'why do you drink? Is it because you've got problems? Is it because you're sad? Is it because your Dad gave you a black eye?'.....NO 'it's because you are an alcoholic'...we don't need excuses...we just make them up...

[IamMary]

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Congratulations [MENTION=15758]rustop59[/MENTION], that's fantastic news, at long last. Looking forward to the shopping and design updates!

Thats something to look forward to JC!

Well I caused WW3 in work today, between 2 highly strung women, as i innocently forwarded an mail looking for info. I don't read between the lines and didnt see the innuendo. Apparently.
It took me pictures of babies to calm 1 down.

Great Post Molls.

Wonder if there's any news yet on YS.

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
[MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION]................I look at shoes. If they've taken the huff then its their fault.............you sent it with goodwill.

I'm off to a coffee morning today.................all part and parcel of my therapy.............try new things. Its held in the church up the road needless to say my heart's in my mouth .............its not a religious thing they hire out rooms.

And its snowing.................not a lot but my daffodils now in full bloom in the garden are sulking.

Right off to put my big girl pants on and my big coat and see how it goes. If its crap there's a Marks and Spencer across the road I can spend a few quid in the food section.

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone

Snow JC? did hear something about it but please don’t send it this way. Daffodils are in full bloom and the past few weeks have been heavenly. Enjoy your coffee morning and if you need a quick get away enjoy M&S. As JC just said take no notice Mary it’s their issue not yours, you sent it with goodwill. Don’t work too hard Molly, enjoy the time you have left.

Well it looks as if daughter avoided covid for the time being or at least has no symptoms. It is a week since she came back from UK and a week tomorrow since she had a night out.

Thinking of you Satz and hoping YS has made contact.