April Army 2020

[satz123]

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Afternoon all !
Worked all weekend.
YS is here, still drinking and we are losing patience with it to be honest.
I came home from work yesterday & he was gone out - but he came home later. He's had drink but wasn't drunk & started that shite deep meaningful conversation. I told him no - I have no tolerance of talking to drunk or half-drunk people - including him.
That we could talk today.
He hasn't surfaced yet !!

If I'm honest I'm tired of him messing with all our lives for the past 10 years.
The moment he had that first drink 2 weeks go it affected not just him but ....... his counsellor, the rest of the 'inmates' in Waterford, me, MrS, his sister, the lady in the park & her daughter ............. it's staggering when you think about it ?

[rustop59]

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Morning,
Quiet little band we've got at the moment.

[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]..............keeping everything crossed that you get YS to the doctors today.

Same here Satz. Afternoon everyone. It is indeed a quiet little band we have here. There is 8 or 9 acres with the cottage Mary, nearly all woodland and lake frontage. Lots of cutting back to give a better view but I’m happy to leave most of it to nature.

Very wintery today. Got my walk done so was happy with that. Just on lunch and better get back to work.

[rustop59]

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Afternoon all !
Worked all weekend.
YS is here, still drinking and we are losing patience with it to be honest.
I came home from work yesterday & he was gone out - but he came home later. He's had drink but wasn't drunk & started that shite deep meaningful conversation. I told him no - I have no tolerance of talking to drunk or half-drunk people - including him.
That we could talk today.
He hasn't surfaced yet !!

If I'm honest I'm tired of him messing with all our lives for the past 10 years.
The moment he had that first drink 2 weeks go it affected not just him but ....... his counsellor, the rest of the 'inmates' in Waterford, me, MrS, his sister, the lady in the park & her daughter ............. it's staggering when you think about it ?

Cross posted there Satz. Maybe say all that to him? No harm having it out in the open. Addicts are brilliant in deluding themselves.

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION] :hug:
I know you and Mr. S are on the same page. I'm on the same page as Rustop..............tell him exactly what he's done. This 'disease' or whatever you want to call is a killer.
And you're right absolutely no point in talking to him while he's half cut. Its time he took the cotton wool out of his ears and put it in his mouth and listened.
There are billions of people in the world for one reason or another don't drink and tick along nicely. He is not special................he's an out and out drunk and if he carries on he'll either be one of those people laugh or look on with pity or die.
This is the time in yours and Mr. Satz's time to be able to put your feet up and relax not running after a 40 year old child.
You may have already had that 'chat' with him so ignore above.

[IamMary]

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Very well said [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION] and [MENTION=15758]rustop59[/MENTION].. the thing that is so frustrating is that he was there, living his best life and now hes screwed it all up for everyone . Leaving him out to dry just isnt an option, i couldnt do it.
Talk is cheap, drunk or sober. He needs to be putting his own plan into action.
You must be worn out Satz.

Rustop, the cottage sounds so idyllic! Will you move there permanently eventually or keep it as your retreat?

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
Its also a reminder of how quickly anyone of us can relapse. That innocent 'just the one' goes at warp speed to back to where you started.

I've got to nip up to Tesco anyone want anything?

[rustop59]

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Afternoon everyone

It certainly does JC and it is the main reason I stay connected with this site. The minute I get any notion that I am alright, one won’t hurt I am in trouble.

Cottage will be used for fishing when he retires Mary so we will probably spend 6 months of the year down there. Not thinking of getting rid of the home base yet.

Hope you had nice trip to Tesco JC. Thinking of you Satz, you too Molly, hope all ok

[satz123]

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It certainly does JC and it is the main reason I stay connected with this site. The minute I get any notion that I am alright, one won’t hurt I am in trouble.

Me too @rustop59 - the only place I can discuss the ongoing saga that is YS : age 40 years: Bachelor of the Parish:back living with parents but seems to prefer sleeping on a park bench : jobless: friendless: talks shite when drunk.

I hope this is a warning to those who think they can moderate alcohol again once they've cross that line. You can't.

So his father thought he had nothing to do but bring him home & all would be sorted by me. All could think of over the weekend was just let him drink which he did till yesterday.
Dad decided to deposit him with me on Monday when I didn't have to go to work ...... "we need to get him to a doctor"

MrS had to go & get him alcohol last night as he was in tattters after staying in bed trying to ride it out.
After that it was "we have to bring him to doctor" again
I put on my big girl pants & aid to him "YOU brought him home so bring him to doctor."

So they've gone. MrS is sitting in the carpark in case he drinks again on way home.
If he gets Librium I'll have to monitor the dose - last time he got them he took them all in one day .....
I wonder is there really any point ?

[mollyka]

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Hi folks..sorry haven't been around..joeys wee baby is very Ill so I can't really concentrate on anything else.i am so very sorry about your young fellow Benjy...and all else.
Talk soon xx

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]...................about time he pulled his finger out.
I've only ever had diazepam (valium) de-toxes.
Are they home yet?

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=8529]mollyka[/MENTION]......cross post. No need to apologise.............poor wee one.

[satz123]

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@satz123...................about time he pulled his finger out.
I've only ever had diazepam (valium) de-toxes.
Are they home yet?

Same deal @JackieClaire. Both benzodiazepines useful for detox from Alcohol.
Did you do the detox at home Jacks ? With MrJC on duty or did you go to hospital ?

Yes they are home and the doctor gave him a good talking to I think.
Calmed down within minutes of talking the Librium and seems happy enough to sit & watch the football. Thanks God for pharmaceuticals.

[satz123]

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Hi folks..sorry haven't been around..joeys wee baby is very Ill so I can't really concentrate on anything else.i am so very sorry about your young fellow Benjy...and all else.
Talk soon xx

Ah Molls I'm so so sorry about the little one :hug:
I'll say Mammy prayers that he/she will be ok & fight whatever it is. :heart:

[rustop59]

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Hi folks..sorry haven't been around..joeys wee baby is very Ill so I can't really concentrate on anything else.i am so very sorry about your young fellow Benjy...and all else.
Talk soon xx

Good morning everyone

So sorry to hear about the baby, is this the newborn? Keeping everything crossed that all is ok. Same for you Satz. Hopefully the pharmaceuticals will work. It truly is a horrible situation. Bloody alcohol, they should show the other side when advertising.

Rainy morning here but hope to get out walking. Thinking of going curtain/material shopping later if my friend is up for it. She might not be as she went aunt of the groom shopping yesterday in Gorey and brought home half a wardrobe of clothes.

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
Got to be quick as I'm going to a craft thingy at the church.

[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]..............I did 4 de-toxes at a daily clinic in town.................we had to be breathalyzed every morning. Then I'd get a few months under my belt and think I was cured so one or two now and again wouldn't do any harm. In fact after one of the de-tox finished I walked straight out and bought a bottle of wine.
I've done a few at home as well.

Happy that the doc gave him the librium but did he give you an agenda on how and when to take them.

More later but I've got to get gone.

Thinking of you and yours Molls. :hug: