April Army 2020

[rustop59]

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Afternoon everyone

Hope Jilly has many years of happiness in her new home Molly. Fresh starts all around. Hope the little fella continues to improve.

Glad you are feeling a bit better Brit. Hang in there.

Madness at 98 stressing your poor ma in law JC, probably ticking boxes. If you wanted them to refer you they wouldn’t.

Dreadful showers here today but I got my walk done this morning. On my lunch break so better get back to work,

[mollyka]

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Evening all...just in from madly busy day so just saying nighty night nd talk tomorrow xxxx

[IamMary]

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Evening. Kids off this week so I'm in bed first. The girls were baking all day.. ill be a stone heavier before they go back to school.
98 [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION], can they just leave her alone!
And almost a century apart, delighed to hear the good news about your grandson Molly :love:
And somewhere in the middle, I bet your over the hump now [MENTION=22839]brit[/MENTION].

Those were my thoughts too Rustop, hopping out of bed without a worry in the world getting behind the wheel.

Heard a good interview on the radio this afternoon.. daughter of an alcoholic and spiriled herself after his suicide. She wrote a book called Trouble.

https://www.rte.ie/radio/podcasts/22084620-marise-gaughan/

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
Could have knocked me down with a feather when I was having a rant to Mr. JC about MIL................she wants to go.:egad: I still think the doctor's wrong but you can't argue with 98 year old who's still got all her buttons you can't say no to her.

And you're all invited to my birthday party on Sunday...........I become an official old age pensioner. My family near and far are coming and as I class you as my lovely friends you're all included too.

Just a little gallivant today ...................meeting an old friend for coffee.

[mollyka]

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Morning all..you really havin a party Jacks??!! If I live to be 150 I never want a party!! Off to work I go....

[satz123]

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YS update :
7 days sober today thanks to his Mammy & pharmaceuticals.
Secondary care don't want to know - which is fair enough. It would send the wrong message to those already down there & new residents.
This is the biggest wake-up call he's ever had. He was well settled down there & in a good community of ex residents who had settled in Waterford.
ONE DRINK - THAT IS WHAT TOOK IT ALL AWAY !!!
So he needs to make some decisions soon.
Starting this week with virtual meetings of Aishiri Continuum of Care & AA meetings.

I don't think I can take the stress of him living here if I'm honest. Always on edge ...... because the last time he was left in the house alone ended in a 2 week binge.
MrS & I are walking on eggshells & to be honest it's unfair - we're too old for this and at each other's throats.

I'll get the Army bus organised @JackieClaire for the party

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@mollyka .... Delighted for Jilly & the new baba Molls :heart:

[satz123]

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Morning all..you really havin a party Jacks??!! If I live to be 150 I never want a party!! Off to work I go....

Oh me too Molls. Unless it was a slap-up meal in a nice restaurant, lots of pressies & NO ALCOHOL FOR ANYONE :haha:
[MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION]
Are they all coming to you ? So you do all the work ??? :egad: FECK THAT!!!

[rustop59]

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YS update :
7 days sober today thanks to his Mammy & pharmaceuticals.
Secondary care don't want to know - which is fair enough. It would send the wrong message to those already down there & new residents.
This is the biggest wake-up call he's ever had. He was well settled down there & in a good community of ex residents who had settled in Waterford.
ONE DRINK - THAT IS WHAT TOOK IT ALL AWAY !!!
So he needs to make some decisions soon.
Starting this week with virtual meetings of Aishiri Continuum of Care & AA meetings.

I don't think I can take the stress of him living here if I'm honest. Always on edge ...... because the last time he was left in the house alone ended in a 2 week binge.
MrS & I are walking on eggshells & to be honest it's unfair - we're too old for this and at each other's throats.

I'll get the Army bus organised @JackieClaire for the party

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Evening everyone

Thanks for the invite JC. Get the bus to pick me up too Satz. Delighted YS sober but feel for you and Mr S. Maybe in another few weeks he might be stable enough to stay in your Moms? After so many months sober before the relapse it will take a while before you feel that you can trust again.

I too would never want a party, narrowly avoided it for 50th, 60th in the middle of the lockdown and goodness knows where I will be at 70. Would not say no to a slap up meal though.

[JackieClaire]

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I'm doing none of the work............Mr. JC has taken it all on and he's loving it. My quiche making days are over............I get them at Tesco now. I might put the table cloth on.
Its just family and a few good mates...............we're not having a rave.

The woman I had coffee with was the sister of a very good mate of mine. He was so proud of me getting and staying sober but he picked up again and was dead within 6 months. He was just 52 and I've kept in touch with the family. Pancreatitis killed him in the end. I know many who think its just their liver they're worried about but is also a big carcinogenic.
Does alcohol cause cancer? | Cancer Research UK

On that happy note sleep tight and mind the bugs don't bite :eeks:

[IamMary]

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Good for you [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION], you'll have a great day with everyone around you!

My big birthdays were all celebrated with lots of booze so dreaded my 50th last year. Thank god for covid!
Sister still did a meal for me but it was just family.. I still hated the happy birthday bit and the attention for about 8 minutes.

Good work on dragging YS through week 1 [MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]. What are his thoughts on the future? Can he trust himself? How long can he stay on antibuse?
Can u ship him down to that mad SIL of yours, she'd be delighted until you tell her she has to abstain too
What are his options now?
Just wondering what he does all day in yours? It has to amplify things if your head has too much time to think..about drink.
Friend (he's a year or 2 younger than YS, single bloke) went over to Poland 2 weeks ago to help out on the border, just took a weeks holiday and jumped on a plane.
Not saying YS should take on some like that, but they must be screaming out for volunteers here too.. a focus could be good right now. We all do best when we are needed or doing something meaningful - a reason to get up in the morning.

[brit]

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Good news on YS being sober for a week at least it is another start he is so lucky to have you Satz!

Belated 75th Birthday treat happening for me tomorrow my daughters taking me to a hotel in Wales for the night with a nice meal etc. I am still Covid positive but tomorrow 8 days in, so should be safe.

[rustop59]

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Good news on YS being sober for a week at least it is another start he is so lucky to have you Satz!

Belated 75th Birthday treat happening for me tomorrow my daughters taking me to a hotel in Wales for the night with a nice meal etc. I am still Covid positive but tomorrow 8 days in, so should be safe.

Good morning everyone and belated happy birthday Brit. What a lovely treat. Glad you are well enough to enjoy it. Have had a few of those nights away last few months. For Easter we are renting a cottage on Lough Corrib in Galway. Himself fishing and I am making the most of doing nothing as all my next visits west will involve work. I am starting the clean out of the cottage first week of May and staying in an Airbnb. Will be a long time before any work is done on it. I’ve rung two architects and neither have called me back! Figure if I can clean/paint it enough we can camp there for the summer.

Waves to everyone. Off out shopping, need to plan what to bring with me.

[mollyka]

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YS update :
7 days sober today thanks to his Mammy & pharmaceuticals.
Secondary care don't want to know - which is fair enough. It would send the wrong message to those already down there & new residents.
This is the biggest wake-up call he's ever had. He was well settled down there & in a good community of ex residents who had settled in Waterford.
ONE DRINK - THAT IS WHAT TOOK IT ALL AWAY !!!
So he needs to make some decisions soon.
Starting this week with virtual meetings of Aishiri Continuum of Care & AA meetings.

I don't think I can take the stress of him living here if I'm honest. Always on edge ...... because the last time he was left in the house alone ended in a 2 week binge.
MrS & I are walking on eggshells & to be honest it's unfair - we're too old for this and at each other's throats.

I'll get the Army bus organised @JackieClaire for the party

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@mollyka .... Delighted for Jilly & the new baba Molls :heart:

Well great he has a few sober days behind him --- yes he needs to make decisions -- but -- a dry drunk can make no decisions because they are obsessed with the thought of alcohol.. I rarely if ever suggest AA to someone -- to me it HAS to be a decision that someone makes themselves or it's just ticking boxes -- but his situation right now is screaming to me that he needs the kind of support a good AA meeting could give hime (and believe me there are good ones and not so good ones!) -- to this day a few regulars from a meeting I used to go to come in and out of the library -- and it may be just a little eye contact and 'hi' -- no more than that - - and it's a sense of belonging -- cos for a long time in early sobriety I didn't feel I belonged anywhere except at that particular meeting.. I used to sink into the chair on a Sunday morning and feel 'yeah -- I'm home' --- anyway -- it's just a thought -- but he needs more than something online.

Good news on YS being sober for a week at least it is another start he is so lucky to have you Satz!

Belated 75th Birthday treat happening for me tomorrow my daughters taking me to a hotel in Wales for the night with a nice meal etc. I am still Covid positive but tomorrow 8 days in, so should be safe.

He is indeed lucky to have Satz --- would I or could I do all that -- I dunno -- maybe I'd have to...
I think you can stay Covid positive in a test for months after a dose MrsA - very confusing - but yeah -- quite sure after 8 days you must be grand.. enjoy your night -- sounds lovely!

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
I'm so tired I put gallivanting on hold. I'm beyond tired.

[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION].... apologies to you. I didn't get back to you about my pal who is now over 6 months sober. He been in and out of re-hab umpteen times and it never stuck. So he thought he'd give AA another chance. He's got a sponsor, does what he was told and is thoroughly enjoying being sober and making friends. Apart from the meetings he's got a diary full of things to do..........I think its this weekend he's going surfing. Mind you I think someone who wants to go surfing in the north sea needs their head read.
You've done a fantastic job with him now the ball is in his court.

I'll get Mr JC to put our car on next door's drive so you can park the bus on ours.

[mollyka]

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Evening....at work and very busy so just checking in...talk later when home