December Army 2022

[satz123]

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)...he's making me 2 hardwood raised beds for my tunnel...I'm beyond excited.. so tomorrow will be finishing them off and then I'll fill them with compost etc...yay!!!

Dear Molls
I am assuming these flower beds are gold plated ? studded with diamonds ?
No? :egad:
oh how you've changed since you moved from the big smoke and became a culchie ........

[mollyka]

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Now that’s my kind of present. Exactly what you want. Two of ours don’t need do’s, himself probably could do with one but we don’t take him, he just sheds all over the place. I asked for new hiking boots, wear them 7 days a week and it’s what I need. Shout out to JC, she has not been here in a day or two. Hope pa-in-law ok.

Ahhhh...you 'get it' Rusters...achully hiking boots would be up my list as well!!

Dear Molls
I am assuming these flower beds are gold plated ? studded with diamonds ?
No? :egad:
oh how you've changed since you moved from the big smoke and became a culchie ........

D'ya know...I have lived in Dublin all my life but my dad was a proper country man and I think its been in me all along...taken to this life like a duck to water! My eldest was advising us to go rent somewhere warm for the winter...got onto me again today...he's gobsmacked that we are loving rural Ireland in winter!!!
Yes Jackie..let us know about your FIL...I'm sure it's a busy time with hospital visits and everything..it can be hard on the supporting partner too

[satz123]

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Yes Jackie..let us know about your FIL...I'm sure it's a busy time with hospital visits and everything..it can be hard on the supporting partner too

Shout out [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION].
Yes it can be very hard on the supporting partner. I remember when both MrS parents were sick & eventually died.
It was like I didn't exist. ALL his spare time was spent with them - especially his father.

Luckily I am not a needy person, quite happy to be in the background. But this was another level.
I remember preparing for the father's funeral I asked a question - it was like he didn't even see me - and kinda moved me aside. and went to his sister That even though we'd been married yonks - I was not a REAL PART of the family ye'know ?

I know he was grieving in his MrS way - I know - but it hurt.

Just sharing in case you are feeling the same at this time :hug:

[mollyka]

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Shout out [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION].
Yes it can be very hard on the supporting partner. I remember when both MrS parents were sick & eventually died.
It was like I didn't exist. ALL his spare time was spent with them - especially his father.

Luckily I am not a needy person, quite happy to be in the background. But this was another level.
I remember preparing for the father's funeral I asked a question - it was like he didn't even see me - and kinda moved me aside. and went to his sister That even though we'd been married yonks - I was not a REAL PART of the family ye'know ?

I know he was grieving in his MrS way - I know - but it hurt.

Just sharing in case you are feeling the same at this time :hug:

Oh wow! Joe did exactly the same and yeah like you I'm not clingy but it sort of hurt alright...very strange way to behave I thought cos he never got on with his mum...weird

[rustop59]

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Afternoon everyone

Yea that happened to me too when MIL died. Thought it might have been because I had a very strained relationship with her the previous few years and he was holding that against me. Very hurtful at the time. Changed when her will was read. She really went off with a sting in her tail, left everything to two out of the seven children and did not acknowledge that she even had grandchildren. Some of them tried to make excuses for her, memory loss etc but will was made years before she died.

Had a lovely morning. Went to the Christmas market in Wicklow town, followed by lunch on the way home. It was with my crochet group. SIL on her way here with my two guests for the month. Should be here any minute.

[mollyka]

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That's amazing that 3 of us had the same experience - I was hurt but kept it to myself until recently -- but no way was I going to make it all about me -- I shared here before about my SIL doing hysterics in Beaumont hospital and nurses making tea for her and everything when her nephew died -- his parents (my BIL and his wife) left standing in a corner ignored cos yer wan was needing all the attention -- never gonna be that person!!!

your morning sounds lovely Rusters -- we had a busy one - the raised beds are made -- and the 2nd electric bike arrived so it's assembled and all - AND we got the weekly shopping done -- KNACKERED I am!!!!

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION].......did you have to shout that loud..............you woke me from my nana nap

FIL is still dying but he isn't half taking his time taking his time. I'm keeping the home fires burning and fending off phone calls. Had a weeping and wailing daughter last night saying she was going to come up. Had to point out the trains are sporadic at the least because they're working to rule (whatever the feck that means) and they wouldn't let her in to see him anyway.

When Mr JC comes back I just sit and pat his hand and baldy head as him and his sister are the only ones allowed in the room apart from the docs and nurses. I've had a stinker of a cold and offered to go and sneeze around him.

[mollyka]

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[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION].......did you have to shout that loud..............you woke me from my nana nap

FIL is still dying but he isn't half taking his time taking his time. I'm keeping the home fires burning and fending off phone calls. Had a weeping and wailing daughter last night saying she was going to come up. Had to point out the trains are sporadic at the least because they're working to rule (whatever the feck that means) and they wouldn't let her in to see him anyway.

When Mr JC comes back I just sit and pat his hand and baldy head as him and his sister are the only ones allowed in the room apart from the docs and nurses. I've had a stinker of a cold and offered to go and sneeze around him.

oh thank god for the cold -- you can't visit!!! Hospital visits are AWFUL at the best of times -- leave it to himself and the sister I'd say -- errmmm -- dunno how to tell you this but my poor little mammy was 'dying' for 3 years............................................. .................................................. .........(runs away and hides:welldone

[JackieClaire]

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oh thank god for the cold -- you can't visit!!! Hospital visits are AWFUL at the best of times -- leave it to himself and the sister I'd say -- errmmm -- dunno how to tell you this but my poor little mammy was 'dying' for 3 years............................................. .................................................. .........(runs away and hides:welldone

Just as well there's the sea between us or I'd strangle you

The only thing that hacked me off is he took my crossword book

[mollyka]

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Just as well there's the sea between us or I'd strangle you

The only thing that hacked me off is he took my crossword book

:beast::hugesmile:

[satz123]

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oh thank god for the cold -- you can't visit!!! Hospital visits are AWFUL at the best of times -- leave it to himself and the sister I'd say -- errmmm -- dunno how to tell you this but my poor little mammy was 'dying' for 3 years............................................. .................................................. .........(runs away and hides:welldone

Agree on hospital visits.
But I somehow managed to be in the room when his Mother died. You all know I'm weird - but I have to say I found it fascinating to witness it - there one minute then like that ... gone.
I watched it all from a corner while she hung on until her favourite daughter came back from having a coffee. One of the others ran to get her and once she got to the bed she said "go on Mammy" & she just passed away.
Really touching moment tbh.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Good morning ladies. Just thinking to myself how easy it would be to start to become complacent especially around this time of the year. How our minds tend to block out the worst days of our drinking experiences and we maybe tell ourselves it wasn’t all that bad. I suppose part of this is a kind of self preservation mode in our brains, we tend to block out old pain and bad memories and look through rose tinted glasses. I could have a glass of mulled wine, why should I miss out, sure I have stopped before so I can do it again sort of nonsense. For me this couldn’t be further for where I am at, for when we finally learn the truth about alcohol and how it robs us of our precious time, indeed of our actual lives then there is no way that poison is coming anywhere near me ever again. Still it is always good to be aware as well as grateful for the joy sobriety brings, loving a life that is so much better in color and without my turning on a dimmer switch on every single day.

[rustop59]

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[QUOTE=Tabbers grateful for the joy sobriety brings, loving a life that is so much better in color and without my turning on a dimmer switch on every single day.[/QUOTE]




Amen to that. Love your insightful posts of a Sunday morning Tabs. How is life with you?

Woke up to a winter wonderland. Was chauffeuring from Luas last night and was Baltic but must have snowed after I went to bed. Don’t have to drive in it and hopefully it will have cleared by tomorrow morning. Meant to be going for pizza with some of the neighbours this evening. Will see how the roads are.

Have a lovely Sunday everyone.

[mollyka]

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Morning from stunning Mayo...the mist is sitting on the fields with the winter sun shining through branches and icicles hanging from trees...its amazing...don't have snow like you Rusters but the ice and frost is beautiful.....Hope you get yer pizza in ..I'm not budging from the fire!
Nice post Tabs..Good to see you!

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Life is good thanks for asking Rustop. I do believe personally that in finally kicking the poison it leaves some of us with years of stunted emotional growth. Not facing up to life problems and hiding in the bottom of a bottle is a cop out and such a waste of time. It's not always easy being an adult with having to learn to cope with the slings and arrows that life throws at us but that's what we must. Facing up to the bad crap days without the crutch makes the good ones taste all the sweeter. I am learning.
BTW I was also down at Wicklow town Christmas extravaganza, thought it lovely despite the freezing winds coming off of the sea and the occasional downpour. Fair play to the organisers they have obviously put a lot of effort in and its lovely and Christmassy. Did I mention I love :heartbeat: love Chrimbo?

P.S. Waves to Molly, cross post there. Off out to bring in some logs myself.