2023!!! Jan Army thread

[mollyka]

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Evening all...
Right ---- first things first -- hate bummer days Inchy and I hate visitors Jackie -- so sympathies with both of you -- other than that

I have a cream coloured couch came from my last house - looked tiny up in the big room now it's quite big in my little room so that's good -- the reason I mention all this is -- I took all the covers off it today to wash them -- I've done it before so I know they come out sparkly clean and don't shrink nor nothing --- but as I've no covers for a couple of days till they dry I raided my hotpress and dug out about half a dozen various rugs and covered the couch in them -- they are all different colours - sizes - shapes --- and omg it looks brilliant -- I keep standing back and looking at it -- think I'm going to leave it like this --- I never have had much of an eye for out of the ordinary style but it's absolutely amazing -- so proud of myself!!

Car saga continues -- have to wait till May for the car we want -- jaysus -- what's the world become? Some lad ACTUALLY mentioned the Suez Canal --- I mean REALLY??? A poxy boat going sideways in a canal however long ago and the whole world comes to a standstill????

Feet up now watching Silent Witness and picking out hairstyles -- getting it cut etc Friday -- first time I've had it cut since I grew out the colour

[starty]

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Ditto what Molls said about bummer days and visitors. Loathe both !

Your plans sound so exciting Rustop! I have to say I am well jel about you and Molls. Hopefully our time will come at some point before I am too old to enjoy it!

Whatever car are you buying that needs to wait until May? A Tesla??? At least your couch sounds lovely!

I am going to get in bed and watch silent witness. Too bloody cold to sit up and watch.

This week and next week is just about solid hospital appts. Friday CT scan, Tuesday blood test, Wednesday Ditto (for me this time) Thursday Ditto and Friday procedure at hospital. I am really hoping that February is a little calmer on that front.

Life changes in the blink of an eye sometimes

[mollyka]

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Oh Rusters --- so self absorbed I was with my couch I missed the news of the plans in for the cottage -- that truly is really exciting and what a lovely time of year to be starting - the whole of spring summer and autumn to get things done ---- well done you!

Ditto what Molls said about bummer days and visitors. Loathe both !

Your plans sound so exciting Rustop! I have to say I am well jel about you and Molls. Hopefully our time will come at some point before I am too old to enjoy it!

Whatever car are you buying that needs to wait until May? A Tesla??? At least your couch sounds lovely!

I am going to get in bed and watch silent witness. Too bloody cold to sit up and watch.

This week and next week is just about solid hospital appts. Friday CT scan, Tuesday blood test, Wednesday Ditto (for me this time) Thursday Ditto and Friday procedure at hospital. I am really hopitng that February is a little calmer on that front.

Life changes in the blink of an eye sometimes

It's nothing very exotic Starty -- certainly not a Tesla --- I WISH!!! Its a Toyota but the delay is the plug in hybrid element apparently.... anyway our own car is grand (touch wood!) so just a bit of patience and all will be good.

We were like that with the hospital appts couple of years back -- it seemed endless and exhausting -- but it does end -- how and ever -- what you say is SO true 'Life changes in the blink of an eye sometimes' -- oh yes it does... When Joe was lying on our kitchen floor 2 years ago waiting for the ambulance and I thought he was dying -- our whole life changed.... but it also made us very conscious that no matter what -- time is limited -- so shouldn't be wasted -- hence this move I think -- would have gone much further afield except for family ties obviously..... it's like we've been rewarded with this second life together and by god we're going to enjoy it!

Hopefully MrS will get the treatment he needs -- I spose be thankful that it is being dealt with - if you think how many folk don't know they are ill till it's too late.... but it will be done - and then grab the rest of your lives by the horn and run with it!!!

[starty]

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Yes what you went through with Joe must've been horrendous. It does sometimes take something drastic to change ones mindset a bit. I know in the last couple of months I have been more appreciative of the small stuff and become better at putting the big stuff into perspective. If you asked me a year ago how I would cope if Mr S was diagnosed with cancer, I think my response would be badly. But like everything, we get on with it and look for the positives that come along. Right now, I have the best cup of coffee ever and I have the heating on. Life's good

[mollyka]

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Yes what you went through with Joe must've been horrendous. It does sometimes take something drastic to change ones mindset a bit. I know in the last couple of months I have been more appreciative of the small stuff and become better at putting the big stuff into perspective. If you asked me a year ago how I would cope if Mr S was diagnosed with cancer, I think my response would be badly. But like everything, we get on with it and look for the positives that come along. Right now, I have the best cup of coffee ever and I have the heating on. Life's good

I can be very bad at gratitude...I forget and wallow...and truly it IS the small things...as a general rule the big things are taken out of our hands...as in with MrS's cancer....the medics must and will deal with that...its really back to the the Serenity prayer really...its so right!

[starty]

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I LOVE the serenity prayer Molls! I have a little laminated card with it on. Ya know when I think of some others issues, I really do realise how fortunate I am. I keep meaning to start a gratitude journal. Chill does one every day apparently and says it helps her. I have done it for a few weeks in the past but found it got repetitive. I dont think it hurts to count our blessings from time to time though. Today, I am so grateful I went out in the dark and freezing cold and watched the sunrise. I have done over half my step count for the day and today is my Friday. It really is the small things Molls :haha:

[mollyka]

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You shame me....I'm only getting up!!!!....but....I've a warm cosy bed...and can walk downstairs and look out at the horses at the end of the garden while eating my brekkie....nothing wrong there either ;-)
However...just reading your post....think I'm going to open a little folder and do the gratitude thing...deffo...it completely flips your mindset doesn't it!!

[rustop59]

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Good morning ladies

What lovely posts to wake up to. I am up a while and like you Starty have been out in Baltic temperatures walking. No harm to be reminded that it is indeed the small things. Molly is living the dream but my God last few years she did go through the ringer. Think that’s why it is important to post, might only be about our everyday stuff but for someone like Starty who is in the throes of all the medical stuff, there is the example of someone who came out the other side. I’m like you with the gratitude journal Starty, start it but it seems repetitive and I give up. Note to self start again.

Firm believer that everything happens for a reason. As you say Molly the illness led to you moving and living the life you now have. Only the plans have started for the cottage, building won’t begin for another year at least but happy to have started.

[mollyka]

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Evening folks..the day sort of ran by me..think I went into a daydream or something!! Heading up to Jill's and Tilly in the morning for a few days so getting myself organised...Joe staying home with the dog so sort of looking forward to a bit of 'me' time.. Will pop around and see all the boys as well..Joey just back from Disney in Paris so dying to hear the kids stories!
The ball is rolling Rusters...that's the main thing...and in the meantime it's habitable as a bolthole....sounds alright to me!!!!

[IamMary]

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Evening all. I'm so sorry, caught up in work and had to be in the office all week for a workshop. I wasn't delivering it, but driving it and a lot of interested people, including the big boss that paid for it.
Totally knackered now.

I'm caught up and will have loads of questions.. like how's YS doing so far [MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]?
And when do you think you'll get results [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION]?
Not a fan of sponging visitors either JC, well done for navigating that one :butt:

Back properly tomorrow. Hope your sitting on the new couch Molls and not just admiring your pinterest art!

Battle glad all going well there.. Will chat more tomorrow.
How come the build is another year away Rustop? Not that you're in any hurry...

Night all xxx

[satz123]

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Morning all - 4 days in work this week and fecked. Slept a solid 10 hours from 21:30 to 07:30 - lovely.
I really believe nothing is quite as bad if we can get decent sleep. In hindsight a lot of my drinking could have been lessened if I knew I could just sleep when I went to bed.
I see YS is the same. [MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION] he is sober thanks to Librium detox over last 5 days and back to himself. But he still has that worry of not being able to sleep now the meds are finished.
The plan is back to Aftercare & AA - beyond that I have no clue.
He knows any drinking he is out for good. His grandmother's house is now up for sale - so that particular safety net has gone.

Inchy delighted things are working out for you.
[MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION] so sorry you are going through such a worrying time. So difficult to have to watch a loved one suffer.
I think sometimes the partners have an equally difficult time. They feel helpless and although included, somehow always seem on the fringes of what is going on.
Just remember our bodies are wonderful machines and given the chance, all it's resources will gather to fight to get back to wellness .....

[starty]

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Morning all and a beautiful one it is here at least.

Mary, I would imagine in a couple of weeks when he sees the consultant. Not got a date yet but they reckon around Feb 1st. He also has to have some polyps removed next Friday and as he had a biopsy we know they aren't cancerous thank god. Apparently he needs a double appt to remove them :egad:

You are so right Satz, its like we have lost control somehow when its a loved one thats poorly. Fortunately he doesn't seem down and is taking control of his appointments etc. I however will take control of asking the questions and logging results :haha:

Has YS considered magnesium or melatonin to help with sleep? Relaxation/meditation or the like? Sleep is so important in recovery. I have only just started sleeping well again and thats since HRT. Its a blessing it really is.

[JackieClaire]

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Morning.
Running around like a blue arsed fly..........cousin arrives tonight. I'm near positive than the King wouldn't be so fussy. Got a text to tell us what he can and can't eat so we're taking him out for a meal. I'm so grateful that Mr. JC is so patient. We're just going to the funeral as its Mr. JC's busiest day of the week so he'll drop me off before going into work.................we're handing him over to my brother for the wake. Him and his missus are taking him and then drop him back here. I reckon I'll be using the Serenity prayer left, right and centre.

[MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION]..........a) write down what you want to ask b) take care of you at this worrying time. :hug:

[rustop59]

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Afternoon everyone

Good to see you back Mary. Bet you are glad to have that work week over. We will need to apply for planning and there will be environmental reports as in an area of special conservation so will be a long process. Can use it and I’ll have to get creative like Molly with her couch. Will finish the upstairs room when the weather improves.

Good luck with the funeral and the visitor JC. You will need a break after all that has been going on.

All I can do is keep everything crossed for you Satz. Now that his bolt hole is gone and he knows you won’t have him if he is drinking maybe self preservation will kick in.

Good advice from JC Starty. Is your work week over? How are you Battle? You must be into your third week now?

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Evening all,

missed checking in yesterday, got caught up with finance application, housework and all that stuff. At a friends last night and off to the zoo today for an early birthday celebration. Plans again tomorrow night and saturday, set a hopeful quit date for monday - original plan was day after my birthday (Sunday) but I got a meeting re;finance application on Monday and turning up 24 hours sober feels risky in terms of stress, maintaining concentration, not looking/being a mess and the like. Any tips appreciated, been a long time since I've tried and this is probably if I'm honest the first one I've really committed to. Caught up on all your goings on, social bandwidth is a bit stretched at the moment (love me a trip out but between supervisor e-mails, work stuff and this I'm about ready to retreat to my cave for a month haha), so very much a collective I'm thinking of all of you post, wishing everyone well that needs it. Day 21 today, its been a good one.