2023!!! Jan Army thread

[satz123]

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Aww that's a bummer Satz but probably expected. I guess he is living at your mums house? He probably doesn't see any reason to be sober. So tough for you guys though. Hope the party was good.

Day of relaxing and a few chores for me today. Mr S at work all day so I will comandeer the tv this arvo and watch Spooks. 10 series to get through :haha:

Yes Starts - the game is up for him - lights were spotted on in his grandmother's house tonight. My sister went up & just looked through window & bottles were strewn everywhere.
He lives like a pig when drinking.
So I've told him I'll be up and he has to leave.

[satz123]

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Pity about YS @satz123. I also think he's given you no choice now. He's going to do what he's going to do, at least it's not in you face, way too much stress.

Thanks Mers - but I know it's going to be a bounce back here. It's not in my face and that's been great but it appears it will always be my problem somehow.
He's in my mothers' and no doubt wrecking it. So I need to get him out of there.
I am officially the woman down the road with that drunken son.

[mollyka]

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Thanks Mers - but I know it's going to be a bounce back here. It's not in my face and that's been great but it appears it will always be my problem somehow.
He's in my mothers' and no doubt wrecking it. So I need to get him out of there.
I am officially the woman down the road with that drunken son.

Oh dear...look try not to let it bring you down..its a gloomy time of year too..so self care and as always remember sometimes you can't fix someone but protect yourself xx

[rustop59]

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Afternoon everyone

Good advice there Satz and remember we are here if you need us. Would charging him rent if he moves back help cut back the alcohol intake? Just a suggestion, thinking if he can’t afford it he can’t drink as much.

Work today and just ran out during my lunch hour to buy hubby a birthday present. Got him a dash cam, he loves gadgets, figures them out and then loses interest but it was something he expressed interest in at Christmas so getting it from all of us.

[mollyka]

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Afternoon everyone

Good advice there Satz and remember we are here if you need us. Would charging him rent if he moves back help cut back the alcohol intake? Just a suggestion, thinking if he can’t afford it he can’t drink as much.

Work today and just ran out during my lunch hour to buy hubby a birthday present. Got him a dash cam, he loves gadgets, figures them out and then loses interest but it was something he expressed interest in at Christmas so getting it from all of us.

Nice -- it's something Joe has never expressed any interest in - but I guarantee he would love it... think he's afraid of gadgets!
We went looking at cars -- ours is prehistoric so think it's time to treat ourselves... saw a few nice ones but seems to be very low stock everywhere at the moment.

just had dinner so feet up and catch up on some tele -- if we can manage to see ANYTHING besides that prince lad... ffs he's EVERYWHERE --- even on our own stations!

Laters folks

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Evening all, had a bit of a rough day today, I'm waiting for news on some additional funding for my studies, it's based on merit and I'm the kind of person where I know if I don't get through to the next round of applications I'm gonna take it hard, and I'm also not great with uncertainty, both in terms of when I'm going to get that news and what that news will be. So my anxiety is pretty much eating me alive right now, woke up before my alarm and spent the whole morning on the verge of a panic attack. Didn't use though so that's almost 12 days clean. I'm getting to the point where I can see how much it was impacting me, and I am at least having a bit of a laugh at my own expense that I had somehow convinced myself that being high, drunk, and/or hungover 24/7 was totally not affecting my ability to do my job, or drive, or eat - a healthy dose of humility.

[mollyka]

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So wonderful getting through the 'tough' day without resorting to whatever...it makes the next tough day easier to navigate...trust me..its true!
Hope you get the funds!!

[satz123]

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Morning all!
Was working last few days - fecked !

Inchy sorry you are going through such anxiety. I do hope you get the funding for your studies & also that you are prepared for a different outcome.
We cannot always change the situation we're in. But we can control how we respond to it.


I heard a child psychologist say the other day that children as young as 5/6 have latched on to the term 'anxiety' to describe normal feelings of mild worry & anticipation.
I thought it was interesting that she said if we can rename the feeling - use different language, it can help a lot.
I am not for a moment trying to say what you feel is 'only anticipation' at an outcome - but maybe reframing the feeling in our heads could help adults too?

[starty]

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Aww Satz I am sorry. YS makes me want to shake him to wake him up to the misery his choices are causing you. I really hope you dont have him home

Inchy, that anxiety for me was hugely worsened by withdrawals. It felt almost uncontrollable at times but it does abate over time. Unfortunately rather a long time which I gather is usual listening to others experiences. Satz is right through, reframing it might help as will realising it won't be forever. 12 days is early in the painkiller wd saga. It took me 6 weeks to begin to feel more in control although I had been at it for years. Stick with it, the sun will shine again.

Better get cracking, am off to the "office" :haha"

[IamMary]

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Was that David Coleman? I missed half his interview (bloody work!).. I like him though.
Don't let YS define you [MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION], your a lot more that the mother of your son. Your the mother of a fabulous daughter, you are a fabulous daughter and someone who's beat the booze and gone on to help so many others. Never mind everything else you do out there in the real world. Did you ever look into writing? Hope it goes OK getting YS out.

Could you all rent out that house?

Well done Battle, hope the news was positive.. but great your putting the tools in place for the challenging days, if laughing at yourself works! Imagine what your going to achieve over the weeks and months as you get a handle on this booze and pills gig.

I'm a gadget person too Rustop! Don't have a dashcam though.
My airfryer is just brilliant though, hardly a day goes by without throwing something into it.
I might try these guys - always go down well out of the oven, even though they are all good ingredients
3 Ingredient Cookies Recipe | Odlums

[IamMary]

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Cross Post [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION]. Good morning and great post x

[mollyka]

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Morning all...just hearing bout a dreaded transfer list where I used to work and first time in a very long time I didn't get the horrors!
Bit rainy today...yuck

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Morning all,

A rather wet and miserable looking morning here but a fine start to my day as I received word I made the next round of applications - there's 4 rounds total so I'm only halfway through, but my fragile ego will at least survive until the next update in February haha.

re; anxiety a lot of good points as always from the army. I'm sure the anxiety is probably worsened by the WDs but it's also something that isn't unusual for me, I've always had panic attacks and was on medication for a while when my OCD got wildly out of hand during the pandemic but I wasn't a big fan of how spaced out it made me feel (again, I can laugh at the irony of this given my propensity for other substances that do far worse but what can I say). Ideally this is probably something for a therapist to deal with but thanks to the embarrassingly poor provision of mental healthcare in this country I don't reckon there's much chance of that haha.

Working form home today so will be cracking on with application round 2 and finishing up a commission for a colleague - she caught me drawing in the office and I landed a gig drawing portraits of her family.

[mollyka]

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Hi Inchy -- just reading back over some of your posts and a lot of it seems to ring very familiarly to me.... when you speak of your 'fragile ego' and 'I'm the kind of person where I know if I don't get through to the next round of applications I'm gonna take it hard,' -- anxiety, panic attacks... d'ya know --- all my life I can relate to all of those.... and for myself --- and I'm only speaking of myself -- truly -- I am in my 60's - and only NOW beginning to realise the opportunities I've missed out on through life for all those reasons.... interviews I didn't go for because I mightn't get them -- I would look in AMAZEMENT at people who would interview for the same promotion 10 times - fail and keep going back for more --- I couldn't do it -- I dropped out of college cos I 'wasn't good enough' - I passed up on having conversations I SHOULD have had with family, friends, colleagues - but couldn't because I was ( what am I talking about -- I AM --- I still am) afraid of what they might say that might hurt/upset me --- make me cry.... and on and on and on....

confident people flabbergast me -- how they have the NERVE to do and say things --- including my husband actually -- I envy them from the bottom of my heart and to a certain extent my whole life has been a compromise due to this very thing....is any of that like you Inchy? My addiction I have no doubt stemmed from this part of my personality - it made me brave -- full stop....

I'm not proud of admitting this and outside of therapy or an AA meeting I could NEVER speak face to face with anyone about this cos I would just cry -- but if any of it is true for you -- you are young -- instead of looking at the things that worry you - that maybe scare you a little bit -- look at what you've DONE --- omg -- I doubt there is ANYONE on these boards who haven't read your first post about what you've done in the last decade without absolute awe -- amazing stuff -- and you're still going -- don't let anxiety/panic/fear shape your life like it shaped mine --
now here is where I don't have the answers -- but ffs -- next time you fear rejection or feel crippled by feelings about doing or saying something -- read that first post -- and clap yourself on the back - and ask yourself 'what is the worst that can happen' -- (all this last bit is 'do as I say not as I do') -- don't limit your life like I have --- if this is all nonsense --- ignore!!!!

[JackieClaire]

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Afternoon and apologies for being so sporadic. I must have asked Mr. JC if his black tie for the funerals is clean a hundred times. Got his Dad's funeral tomorrow and my Aunt's on the 20th.

[MENTION=24768]Battle_for_the_sun[/MENTION]..............I had a fab counselor last year. I was verging on agoraphobia and having panic attacks. I still don't like going out but once I'm once out I'm fine. Only problem was he cost a fortune but it was money well spent.
Another wee thing it could be low sugar in your system. I carry a packet of Dextro Energy ............(basically Lucozade but in tablets) in my hand bag now and 9 times out of 10 it works.
Burbling over............. well done on your 12 days............every day is a winner now.

Oh that blooming prince he's never off the TV..........'I want to be alone prince' .............he's never off the TV spouting crap.