2023!!! Jan Army thread

[satz123]

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..........not sure if she needed it but we did.
If I'm honest I feel absolutely crap as now its become so real.

Yeah I'd be the same @JackieClaire :hug: - it takes me longer than most for these things to sink in. While others are weeping & gnashing from the get go - I'm 'grand' until it's all over.
When my father died it took weeks.
When I lost twin babies all those years ago - it took two weeks and I started crying, apparently for no reason, in the cinema of all places.

We were so young - MrS didn't know what to do and I just had to deal with it myself.
And I've been dealing with things myself ever since.

Sorry dunno where that all came from - a bit deep for this hour of the night

[IamMary]

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Well Mr M doesn't know how to deal with emotions so I just gave up too. He just can't cope. Like you Satz and maybe others too, I don't tend to lean on him.
[MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION], it sounds like a beautiful day. You gave him a fabulous send off and you should be very proud of your kids. Lovely to have new stories about him too, he sounds like a lovely lovely man.

Ugh Rustop, I get sick of cooking too, then get all excited when I bring back an old favourite, like satz and the roast! Sick of that here.
What about roast beef??? Its been a while (note to self).
Sorry Battle, your Vegan? That's not very helpful for cooking ideas! My middle child is vegaterian, so I've usually a variation of the main dinner going on.
Extended family dinners include dairy free, gluten free, vegaterian and vegan. They are actually enjoyable to cook for as its a challenge. Monday - Friday here... beam me up scotty.

[satz123]

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Morning all.

Well Mr M doesn't know how to deal with emotions so I just gave up too. He just can't cope. Like you Satz and maybe others too, I don't tend to lean on him.

[MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION]
Glad someone else is in the same boat - but I do believe it will come back to bite us.
When we get very old, very sick or when some tragedy happens when we can't be the strong one - who will look after us ?

From what I see and read I do think the generations coming up are more able to express their emotions.
( a bit too much sometimes according to the girl who does my nails ) :haha:


Dinner idea: Liver, bacon stuffing & onion gravy. YUMMY

[mollyka]

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Glad it's all over now Jackie --- not quite the same thing - but I do remember being quite stoic around the time my mum died and then breaking down in tears 6 months later at the funeral of a friends Dad - who frankly I didn't know all that well --- quite ridiculous I felt - but there you go -- grief is unpredictable!

Morning all.

[MENTION=22411]IamMary[/MENTION]
Glad someone else is in the same boat - but I do believe it will come back to bite us.
When we get very old, very sick or when some tragedy happens when we can't be the strong one - who will look after us ?

From what I see and read I do think the generations coming up are more able to express their emotions.
( a bit too much sometimes according to the girl who does my nails ) :haha:


Dinner idea: Liver, bacon stuffing & onion gravy. YUMMY

I absolutely ADORE liver and bacon - but with mash and onion gravy ---- stuffing -- no -- don't think I'd like that... no one in my life would touch liver so it's a rare treat for me!

Joe was your typical hard tough Irishman -- no nonsense and no time for nonsense (as he would call emotions!) - I think he was a product of 'boys don't cry' --- UNTIL


game changer


Aftercare..... omg it was like he became a completely different person - he will happily discuss (well within reason obs!) problems we may have -- specially with the family -- how they FEEL and how we FEEL -- that's different -- and he will now talk if he's 'down in the dumps' or as happens 'depressed' -- he keeps an eye on my mood as well -- it's a transformation... dunno what the solution is for the man that doesn't have the opportunity to do 2 years of Aftercare tho!

[JackieClaire]

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Afternoon,
Got another funeral next Friday....one of my aged Aunts.......might have mentioned before that my Nana and Grandad had 8 children..............2 boys and 6 girls. They weren't catholic just careless protestants.
One of my cousins who lives the other side of England has wrangled a bed for what I thought was one night........he doesn't drive because of his many illnesses.......he caught me at a weak moment and he's now staying two nights. I love him dearly but he can be a right pest.
We're only staying for the service as Friday is Mr. JC's busiest day of the week so won't be staying for the food so he can get back to work sharp. So I'll leave him with my dear brother to bring him back to ours after the wake.

I'm going to be in a fecking straight jacket for the whole of February.

[rustop59]

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Afternoon everyone

Glad the funeral went well. JC. God Molly, wish we could send all our other halves to aftercare. I have come to the conclusion that I will be paddling my own canoe. Have always been very independent, only thing I wish for is that I have my wits about me. However maybe it would
be easier if I have not a clue what is going on.

Back to crochet class this morning and it was so nice to catch up. Starting a new blanket with a bunny on it. Happy out, feet up now with the crochet. Hope everyone has a nice weekend. We are going away tomorrow night for his birthday. Will be nice not having to cook.

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Evening all

My last day as a full time employee today, and I only have to show up one day next week as I'm taking a weeks holiday for my birthday from next Wednesday, got some fun stuff planned with friends, weirdly I've never been one for going out and clubs etc - I'd rather go to the zoo, and as its a bit of a landmark birthday I'm planning trips to a couple. Just be a small celebration, I don't have family but I've had the same best friend for coming up to 17 years now so we'll be spending time together, and another good friend and I have vague plans to do something. Plus obviously starting postgrad and finishing up this application process for my funding, going to be busy.

JC glad the funeral went well, 'careless protestants' gave me a good laugh.

Mary I'm vegetarian not vegan, I'd like to go vegan but I consider cheese among the greatest reasons to live xD that and chocolate.

Satz The aforementioned best friend who was my partner for ten years (before I found out he was both gay and cheating on me) is much the same when it comes to any kind of emotions or difficult situation, means well but useless, gets too flustered if I'm upset and makes me feel worse if anything. That's what the pets are for - can't go wrong with a guinea pig.

[mollyka]

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Morning....Good heavens...no one here since yesterday morning?

[rustop59]

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Good morning

Yea very quiet Molly, just a few of us daily’s checking in. Well done on the two weeks Battle.

Lying here having a read. Was meant to be walking but friend had to cancel, her friends husband has brain tumour so she’s gone to visit her. Puts things in perspective.

Will walk later and then off to hotel for night.

[starty]

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Morning all,

Just been for a delightful walk in the wind and rain. NO ONE about. It was lovely!

Glad the funeral went OK JC. Hope your pest of a cousin isnt too unruly.

Re independence and dealing with emotions alone, I think thats so common. Partly because what we feel is not the same as another person might feel at any given situation. So although they may express empathy etc (or may not) its so personal that probably most people deal with their emotions in quite a lonely way. I know I do, although Mr S is very kind, he's a bloke and they are wired differently :haha: The way he dealt with sobriety was much more matter of fact than me (I think!) I kind of like it that way, although I would hate it if he was a selfish bstard and had no clue about anything.

Sorry about your friend and her hubby. It must be incredibly difficult for them.

Chores now, then will probably settle down and watch a film then might go out for another walk. Depends on weather, defo dont wanna get wet again!

[mollyka]

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Hiya Starts Nd Rusters...thought I was abandoned!
Absolutely gorgeous here today..cold but sunny and dry...might get out for a hike later...my fingers are itching to get at my garden but it's virtually submerged so will sit on my hands for another while.
Trying to buy a car..mulling over hybrids or pure electric or diesel....all the salesmen are trying to push diesel..and cos we drive to dublin a lot it really rules out the pure electric...head mushed.
Definitely concentrates the mind when we hear stories like that Rusters...very sad.

[starty]

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Over here, electric are horrifically expensive to charge now and they are also going to start taxing them. Diesel is about 20p per litre more expensive than petrol which is also damn expensive. You're stuffed really if you want to leave your house :haha:

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Afternoon all, off to a friends tonight so a brief check in, quiet day.

Molly - I learned to drive in a hybrid and would recommend

[mollyka]

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I think the hybrid is prob the way to go...but yes Starty...the cars themselves are ludicrous prices too...our present car is 15 years old so if this one lasts 15 years I'll be ready for the knackers yard then!!

[starty]

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What make do you think you might get? I hope my car lasts 15 years. Its currently 7 years old quite low mileage. If I play my cards right I might only need to buy one more car in my lifetime :haha: