2023!!! Jan Army thread

[mollyka]

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Morning Army...hope all that goes well for you Techie...it'll be worth it!
Lovely morning here...enjoying my lie on....Tilly starts the day at 6am ...playing with LOL dolls at that hour is NOT my forté (only joking ...I love it!)
Hope birthday went well Inchy? Let us know.
Are the days different lengths east and west Rusters????

No big plans for today ...just find homes for all my 'must have' shite from IKEA ;-)

[rustop59]

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Good morning everyone

Welcome Techie and wishing you every success in your treatment. Hope you get to do the Dublin marathon with our Mary. Belated happy birthday Battle, hope you enjoyed the celebration.

Glad you had nice trip to Dublin Molly. Yea sun rises in the east and as I walk at the same time every morning, noticed that it did not get bright down here until 20 min later than east coast. Had nice dinner last night, real trip down memory lane.

Doggies walked this morning, going to pack up and head back in a while.

[mollyka]

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Good morning everyone

Welcome Techie and wishing you every success in your treatment. Hope you get to do the Dublin marathon with our Mary. Belated happy birthday Battle, hope you enjoyed the celebration.

Glad you had nice trip to Dublin Molly. Yea sun rises in the east and as I walk at the same time every morning, noticed that it did not get bright down here until 20 min later than east coast. Had nice dinner last night, real trip down memory lane.

Doggies walked this morning, going to pack up and head back in a while.

Haha...of course...(hits head with hand) yup the sun DOES rise in East haha!! Where did you have dindins? Anywhere nice I can put on my list?

[rustop59]

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Haha...of course...(hits head with hand) yup the sun DOES rise in East haha!! Where did you have dindins? Anywhere nice I can put on my list?

Just pub grub in my home town Molly, good for there but not worth travelling for. Have The Dining Room in Castlebar on my list. Tried to book one weekend but it was full. Won some of awards last year.

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Evening all, had a great birthday, continuing the celebrations today with movies, videogames and more of my favourite food. Got to get down to work tomorrow, deal with my finance application, study and of course it is the much touted quit date - which seems only to grow in its ability to generate anxiety the closer I get. Not that the alternative is better - just not yet sure what to expect I guess.

techie - another familiar name from my previous tenure all of a decade ago - wishing you all the best with your treatment.

[IamMary]

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Happy Birthday [MENTION=24768]Battle_for_the_sun[/MENTION] :congrats: sounds like a lovely few days! I remember my 30th well, was dropping hints at Mr M about a ring, but nothing :haha:
Looking forward to hearing the quit date next week.

[MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION], your flying it, walking 3 miles and doing your treatment! Well done you. Keep us posted. I've no doubt you'll smash the dublin marathon In October!

[Ne/Neva Eva]

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@techie, I'm still not fully caught up on everyone I used to know, and what's going on in our lives. But I see you're going through treatment, and hopeful for you, and happy to hear that you have a goal. (Though for goodness sake, a marathon? I would have loved to proudly and arrogantly put a 12.5 sticker on my dented bumper, especially after reading Born to Run. But I have a friend who used to run marathons, and just seeing her toes afterward was enough to dissuade me. That said. I look forward to hearing about it when you finish.) Take good care. xxoo.
@Battle_for_the_sun, I like your username. Not to get all woo-woo, but after a meditation many years ago, I've always visualized my addiction as something that keeps my light from connecting to the light. Or vice versa, maybe. Tho I figure the light, whatever it is, is pretty constant and gods know I'm not.

Again, I haven't read far back enough to know exactly the details of where everyone is and where they're headed. But if you're headed toward a quit date, I wish you the best and hope you'll keep posting regardless of absolute certainty or success. You've obviously been through this before, and congrats on that. It's just a process, right? Sucks then it's better, then sucks again, then even better, then, eventually, a new norm. At least that was my experience and is my hope for my own future. Happy birthday!

Hi to all, the familiar and the new (to me)! Thanks for keeping this thing going. Much love.

[mollyka]

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Well Hi Ne! I've read so many of your posts over the years with great interest...there's always honesty and depth there...we've taken different routes to get to the same place so never felt it was appropriate to post on meds threads..but it's lovely to see you here in the Army and would love to see you more often!
As with all aspects of MWO ...sadly (obviously it wouldn't be 'sadly' if everyone was 'cured' so to speak but.....:headscratch:.....)our numbers are depleted and tbh sometimes it's hard to keep the place alive...can feel like you're talking to yourself sometimes...

Anyway...as I say...good to see you back and we'd love to see you here!
Goodnight all else...weary from doing sod all today!

[Ne/Neva Eva]

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Hi Molly!
Ditto! But there are so few of us, at least at the moment, that maybe we can cross that bridge? I'm back, humble and on my heels, holding back the tide from despair with a rope as big as dental floss. I hope it's that strong. I can't do the Newbie's nest, lest I bring despair and hopelessness. lol but not funny.

As I posted in the meds threads, there's no quick fix, or one size fits all. I thought it was baclofen. It isn't a permanent solution, though I quit taking it and relapsed, so who knows. I also thought it was a size 4 back when I was young. ha. That wasn't it either.

Since there aren't any direct avenues to long term recovery, there have to be several indirect routes. Right? And the first place I found mine was here, on MWO, in the Newbies Nest, and then the meds sections... A combination might help me now. And I need help, for sure.

You all have what I had but have kept it going on MWO all these years.

Thank you.

[starty]

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Hi Ne, lovely to see you again and sorry you are having a tough time. I am more sporadic at visiting than the other ladies but still see MWO as the main driver that helped with my sobriety and a safe space when it failed which it has a few times over the years (since 2007) since I first found it. I remember reading the baclofen threads with great interest (many colourful characters too!) and thought it must've been a great drug although not with out side effects I think? Are you back on it?

Happiest of birthdays for yesterday Inchy. Is today your day 1? If so, best of luck to you. I think its all in the mindset. If you feel ready then you are and its ODAT from there.

I too have had a couple of days of doing "sod all" other than the many chores to keep the house habitable. I did watch some wonderful films though. Shawshank redemption. Cannot believe Ive never seen it before. 1917 and Green book. Totally wonderful films that all leave much food for thought.

Have a good one all!

[satz123]

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Morning all. Just raising my head above the parapet after a weekend of work.
Shattered but had 2 great busy days where I hope we made a difference to someone's life.

One of the residents was 90 yesterday - so we went 'all out' to make it special. I reserved a room and about 15 of her family arrived and partied for 2 hours.
Was worth the extra work to see her face went she walked in.

YS update:
He is a week sober and a different person to what came in through the door last week.
I know it's early days to be making assumptions but I feel for the first time he is grateful to be back home and embracing the mundane. Instead of the "poor me - I'm so ashamed - so mortified - age 40 having to live with my parents"
Yesterday after his daily AA meeting - he made dinner for himself and MrS and was cleaning up when I got home.

I know we've been here before but I'm hoping this time it is different.
So I asked simply "So have you finally accepted you can never drink alcohol again"?
Without hesitation he said just "YES"
That is a change - other times he'd have a long convoluted reply.

Anyhoo a day off today & I just remembered I have a bloody dentist appointment at 08:30 ( WTF am I thinking when I make these appointments ) :egad:

[mollyka]

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Morning!
Reading both about YS and Ne....the finding the golden ticket is so bloody convoluted tho ...each has their own individual 'got it' moment...or in lots of cases like mine and Starty's.....multiple 'got it' moments...ultimately only one sticks...then....why?
In my case it tipped the balance...far easier to quit than not....until I was distanced far enough from the addiction to not feel the pull anymore.
Everyone appears to be different...and maybe that 'pull' is just more overwhelming in some than others...who knows?
In my case I was more a binge sort of drinker...so the daily crave wasn't there....so I spose that made it easier.

[JackieClaire]

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Afternoon, can't believe it but the day has just runaway with itself. Did not want to post while cousin was hovering over my shoulder and after visiting Mr. JC's mum yesterday just wanted to lie face down on the sofa.................she is so bitter. She'd already turned down living with my sister-in-law who was able to have her as I probably mentioned her house is huge.

[MENTION=12976]Ne/Neva Eva[/MENTION]............you're welcome any time here. I was so lucky that my doctor had read about MWO when I went for another de-tox and told me to use it and he organized a fabulous counselor.

[MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION]...............fingers and toes crossed for your treatment.

[satz123]

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Yes Molls. I've come to the conclusion that we WERE enabling him to drink away when the 'want' came over him. The consequences were not enough.
He was able to run & hide out in his Nanny's house. He expected as usual we would go & get him & bring him back here.
This time we didn't - 5 weeks he was on his own & I eventually told him he had to get out. We were selling. He would have to find a hostel or whatever.
That he could only come here ONLY if he stopped drinking and had a plan to stay stopped.
The one problem is to get the thing 'fixed' for US not HIM I brought him to the doctor to get detoxed. I think that has been too easy for him in the past.

But he has no options any more. No friends, his sister is disgusted and he is on his last legs with us.
It will be like you Molls - would be easier for him to stay stopped than to start drinking again and lose the last thing he has - his family. Because I will not tolerate drinking here.

Time will tell if all that has hit home.
If not it's all over for him.

[satz123]

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I too have had a couple of days of doing "sod all" other than the many chores to keep the house habitable. I did watch some wonderful films though. Shawshank redemption. Cannot believe Ive never seen it before. 1917 and Green book. Totally wonderful films that all leave much food for thought.

Have a good one all!

:egad: I can't believe you've never seen Shawshank !!!
Ask Mr S what his favourite film of all in his adult life - it's Shawshank

Must check out 1917
Have you seen The Green Mile Starts ? - another great film. Of course anything with Tom Hanks has my vote - but it is really good.