2023!!! Jan Army thread

[mollyka]

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Young Satz after a bender takes Biotin. He is sober now 4 weeks.

Seems to me Inchadonney you've made up your mind that you may relapse. That all the stress you feel will translate into wanting a drink ?
It's a good thing that you are aware how easy it would be to take that first drink. You are under no illusion that it could happen.
Relapses are not an accident - we plan them.

Another who is struggling over on his thread is [MENTION=20315]scotskev[/MENTION].
Perhaps read his thread.
I suspect he is also young like you and immortal :hug:

You will both get there eventually - it's a case of having to.

Agreed....

I'll repeat the conversation in treatment
Counsellor.."why do you drink?" (This to a group session)
Inmates ..."because I'm stressed/sad/happy/lonely"
"Because I'm broke/homeless/bullied"
"Because...Because...because"

Counsellor .."no, because you're an alcoholic"

Joe and I drank as much as each other...the difference was when something monumental happened in our lives the first thing I thought of was a drink to drown my sorrow or to celebrate ...that was the last thing he thought of.

Anyway...poxy dog has taken to getting up middle of the night to have a ramble in the garden...ffs more often than not he doesn't even pee...it was twice last night and I couldn't get back to sleep...aaaaarrrrgggghhh!!!

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
[MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION]...............definitely going to get one of those lamps and get some vit D as well.
I've got COPD and last year when we were running around like headless chickens because of Covid I actually had my annual check up over the phone.

But its a glorious day today (its freezing so I'll have to put my big coat on) and going to take our Mikey for a walk. I'll come back with one arm longer than the other.

And Mr. JC finally got a jacket that actually fitted. He's 6'4'' and most of them the sleeves were halfway up his arms. Finally found one at Next that ticked all the buttons.

[rustop59]

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Afternoon everyone

Enjoy your walk JC. Glad you are getting the lamp and that MR JC managed to get a jacket.

Everyone is different Battle. My way of coping with it after numerous slips was to just concentrate on one day at a time. No counting days etc. just made sure that I did not drink that day. Did not think ahead and gradually the days became weeks and not drinking became the norm.

Work today. Did manage to get a walk in albeit in the dark. Daughter back from holidays today. Enjoyed having the quiet house.

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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I'm same as you rustop, except right now my plan is less 'I'm not drinking today' and more 'I am not drinking now'. I set 25 minute timers to study to (25 minutes on, 5 minutes break and repeat) and that's about as far ahead as I think. I can look at the dates on the calendar and think 'well that day will be hard' but until I get there, 25 minutes at a time, I really have no intentions either way.

[mollyka]

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I'm same as you rustop, except right now my plan is less 'I'm not drinking today' and more 'I am not drinking now'. I set 25 minute timers to study to (25 minutes on, 5 minutes break and repeat) and that's about as far ahead as I think. I can look at the dates on the calendar and think 'well that day will be hard' but until I get there, 25 minutes at a time, I really have no intentions either way.

Whatever works for you -- once I became completely honest with myself things changed -- I could trust myself - I know that sounds mad - but as an addict I deceived myself as much as I deceived others -- I was not a nice person... still not great - but nowadays I try!!!

[mollyka]

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:hahaha: Think that's bad. Ours went through that phase. She never goes at all in the garden - so we had to get dressed & go down the shaggin' road........ "wee wee"

Ffs!!!...thought it was bad enough with babies!! Knackered tonight and can't go asleep...Adam and the mot are coming down for a few days and she's fussy with food..she's about size zero so I'm guessing a bit of lettuce..aaarrrrggghhh!!!

[IamMary]

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The restrictive diet, it'll be a wonderful challenge for you Molly!!

So how much vit D do you all recommend? I usually take 1 tiny tablet, says its the recommended amount?

Vain rant (which given Inchys endless wait for a gender doc.. its patheticly unimportant).. those lines inbetween my eyebrows are driving me mad on work video calls. My entire face drives me mad on these calls. I find myself staring at myself in disbelief! My mirrors are lying.
So what's good for wrinkles thats not administrated via needle? Hopefully copious amounts of vit d!

Delighted to head about YS. You too Inchy. Keep doing what your doing, 25 minutes at a time :hug:

A mountain Rustop, your brilliant!

[starty]

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I take between 3000iu and 6000iu Mary. The RDA over here is pathetically low

Well, Casey my almost 10 yr old GR has never grown out of his nighttime wanders Molls so I am quite often to be found running up the garden in me knickers trying to get him in and praying that the security light doesn't prompt the neighbours to look out :egad:

Very grateful that he doesn't want a walk up the road :haha:

[mollyka]

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I take between 3000iu and 6000iu Mary. The RDA over here is pathetically low

Well, Casey my almost 10 yr old GR has never grown out of his nighttime wanders Molls so I am quite often to be found running up the garden in me knickers trying to get him in and praying that the security light doesn't prompt the neighbours to look out :egad:

Very grateful that he doesn't want a walk up the road :haha:

Jaysus! Well ironically he slept through last night for the first time since Christmas....changed his feeding time a bit so....fingers crossed!
I take 4500iu vit D...might look for a bigger one next winter...don't bother once the longer days happen cos I'm outdoors a lot and I don't seem to need it..don't know anything bout fine lines a Mháire....gone past the fine lines and onto troughs so.....

Morning all!

[starty]

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Oh I forgot to mention, the only thing that worked for me re lines is botox. Now like Molls, I no longer care and they are probably too deep for botox and need fillers. Fillers I had once and I looked like Id been in a fight with the bruising!

Good boy Max!

[mollyka]

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I've just learned to love my lines...LOVING acceptance (except the very rare time I need to dress up tidy like:victorious

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
Lap top decided to update itself and it felt like weeks.

January is nearly over :yay: Lighter evenings are on their way and on top of that I've got some vitD on its way.

Had to drag Mikey in from the back garden as he was lying in wet soggy grass. Had to explain to him that he'll get arthritis lying in the damp..............god only know what the neighbours thought.
I'll be taking him out shortly..............he's had his early morning walk with Mr. JC, I do the lunch time one and Mr. JC does the evening. I even have a little bag with poo bags that I sling over my shoulder.

I've got a fringe that covers all the dreaded wrinkles on my forehead.

And to top it all we've booked a cottage in the Yorkshire Dales for week in May. :happy2:

[rustop59]

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Afternoon everyone

Wow things really looking up JC. Nice to have something booked so that you have something to look forward to. I just spent 15 min holding on the phone for trailfinders. Was thinking of Egypt but it seems July/Aug is waaay too hot so back to the drawing board. Might just leave until later in the year and take time off in the summer and spend it in Mayo. Worse places to be, right Molly.

Glad Max slept last night. Nothing worse. Mind you all ours are good sleepers. Two of them I’ve never had to get up to. The other one has a delicate tummy and it used to be torture when it did happen until we started wedging a pillow in the window and she went in and out herself.

No advice on the lines Mary. I have troughs, trick is not looking too close in the mirror.

Work week nearly over. Beautiful day too.

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Gather round folks, its time for story time with inchy, todays tale is bound to amaze because it contains the maximum number of stupid decisions it is possible to fit in any one tale, it in fact contains so many errors it is simply entitled 'really dude?'

Picture the scene, its a couple of nights ago and a young idiot, for arguments sake lets call them Inchy, decides to post something which, to anyone with common sense, heavily implies Inchy is fully intending to get drunk if they don't get their scholarship. Inchy is fully aware of the stupidity of this post, and even attempts to edit it to play down the fact that they are, in fact, blatantly planning to relapse. You see, Inchy is an idiot and has decided denial is exactly what they need to get sober. A series of much wiser folks, lets, again, for the sake of argument call them Satz and Molly, point out that Inchy sure does sound like they're planning a relapse. A wise person would take their advice, examine their thinking, reverse their decision. Inchy however is, as previously mentioned, an idiot and instead decides to get mad at the wiser folks in secret, because Inchy does not in fact want to be told the truth, and so rather than a)realising they're heading for a relapse and b)making use of their support system Inchy decides instead to sulk and blame other people for their poor decisions. In the process of sulking, they convince themselves that, as everybody has pointed out they are planning to fail, why don't they just fail now and get it over with. Yes, thinks Inchy, that is a great idea, I shall get it out of my system, deny myself the ability to change my mind between now the the scholarship announcement, and prove to everyone how good I am at not drinking by getting drunk, this will really prove everybody wrong. They decided to wait until late in the evening, afterall, surely then they will only have a drink or two because they need to get to bed. This was in fact, yet another stupid idea for you see Inchy, in addition to being an idiot, is also an alcoholic and so rather than drinking less because its later they just fit more drinking into a shorter space of time and wake up feeling terrible.

Now you may be thinking to yourself, surely relapsing as proof they were not going to relapse is the end of the idiot's tale, how many more errors can this person make? Well folks Inchy had a little trick up their sleeve because in addition to being an idiot and an alcoholic, they are also a recovering f*cking drug addict. So Inchy awakens in the morning, feeling rather bad for their litany of errors and resolves to come clean to their friends in the army thread about their stupidity - but not before they cheer themselves up by getting stoned as sh*t at work, a timely reminder that they actually enjoy their job far more stoned, they thus begin planning to 'only get high on work days'. But then, as if by magic, they are greeted with the news that their favourite band happens to be out on tour once again in June, an event for which they fully intended to be both clean and sober. Coming to their senses, Inchy resolves to in fact abandon their plans to just get stoned on work days as this has literally never worked for anybody ever. A miracle, you might think, would put an end to the mistakes, but no, never one to behave remotely logically, Inchy decides that having really cocked things up by getting high in the morning, they might as well close out the litany of errors by getting drunk again in the evening. And so our tale ends with Inchy having just opened a beer, reviewing the saga of their own relapse and thinking to themselves 'really dude?'

So, you may ask, what is the moral of this story? Inchy is an idiot who should listen to older, wiser, more experienced people rather than sulking. Also keeping alcohol and drugs in the house really is a terrible idea.

Tongue-in-cheek narrative aside - yeah you guys were right, yeah I messed up and it was 100% my bad and much as I did have a laugh at my own expense writing my tale, dammit I thought I was getting it this time for a while there, I really did. Anyway, tomorrow's day one again, least I get to have the same date for both things I guess? makes counting easier.

[mollyka]

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Ah Inchy -- I could have written that story for myself with variations on many occasions... and feck it -- we are all children inside when dealing with our addictions -- illogical -- and yes -- sulky - hate to be told what to do or that we are wrong.... in fact I hate still when someone does that to me! No one's dead Inchy -- it's a pain for you to start again -- but shit - you're HERE -- regardless whether you are imbibing or not -- you still want to be accountable.... it's the nature of the beast (addiction I refer to!!) to try and fail -- and the only fault would be to not try again -- when you feel up to picking yourself up (try not to leave it too long!) and starting again - we're all here.. we all understand ... and we all care --- put on them big persons pants and put it behind you -- no more beating yourself up -- just try and learn something from it.. sounds like you have xxxx