April Army Assembly

[techie]

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Hi you beautiful people. Huge hugs to Satz and family. I pray your son finds himself and learns to love himself more. I firmly believe and have said many times that self love and self care is how we take our power back. I think I was no different than him. While I often chose a different substance (pain meds) and some alcohol, and sat in a corporate office, I was a complete shit.

I am heading out on the bike and meeting up with a group of cyclists. Typically we do early morning rides but the spring bloom here is off the charts gorgeous so we will take it all in. I do have some lower back pain so I am going to tease it away by doing something against conventional wisdom. That is add to the pain, haha. Blessings x

[IamMary]

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Evening all. Days zoomed passed me there, many failed attempts to log on here for a quick catchup.
Ffs [MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION], coronation Street wouldbt have as much drama as what's going on over there.. keep going with the new gym bloke, you need your mind and body strong and the endorphins to keep you positive.
Your poor brother. How's his form? So hard on you all .
Nothing more to do with YS except wait.. small glimmer of hope still trying to grow..
Molls, your posts are brilliant, as always.
My drinking was completely different to yours. Couldn't go a night without it and was very controlled most days. Let loose at the weekends, but still measured by how I needed to function the next day. It was an obsession and ruined enjoyment for everything else, but still, very different to how others drank.

Best of luck this weekend Rustop! Your absolutely brilliant . You'll be buzzed after it!

Was up at 3am doing an airport run. Middle off to Italy with the school. I'm exhausted now. Ran and shopped. Work nuts.
No change with Mr M. In fact, you'd be hard pushed to think anything was wrong. Except his balance. Maybe it's just an ear infection! Tests will be over the next couple of months.

Wheres [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION] these days??
And [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION], did you have a nice trip?
Sorry, missed a few days here and might not have gone back far enough!

[IamMary]

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Hello me again

Apparently some login issues..
Quiet Friday here for a change, it's lovely. 80th tomorrow and confirmation on Sunday.
I wonder if Rustops big climb starts in the morning, best of luck!

[mollyka]

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Hi Mary....up your way for communion tomorrow so busy busy...hope your 'do's' go well! Xx

[starty]

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Hi all, just back from a lovely week away. Lots of long walks and chilling on my own while the others watched sport. Suited me perfectly just me n the dogs.

Satz what a horrible thing to happen. Must be very disappointing but probably not unexpected. How's he doing now? Still on or looking to stop? Is there a reason that you need to take him to the drs? Is he really that incapable of arranging his own appointment when he is ready to stop again? Hopefully its not too long before he decides to get back on the wagon. Please look after you though. I know you do and it must be hard with the worry, but you really must put yourself first

Gorgeous day today and I think its going to be a nice week. Now have to lose a bit of weight as ate so much crap while away. Lol!

[IamMary]

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Sounds like the perfect trip [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION]. Recharge the batteries.

Well molly, you got a great day for the communion! I thought it was just confirmations now, but I suppose it's almost May, communion season..

Thinking about you Satz. X

[rustop59]

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Greetings from Wales. No Wi-Fi in guest house and keeping the roaming off. Snowden done and dusted. Guides took us on lovely route away from the tourists paths. OMG the crowds on top! There is a train which accounts for some of it but I?ve never seen anything like it. Glad you enjoyed your trip Starty. Enjoy your family celebrations Mary and Molly. Another day hiking tomorrow. Will check in when I get back.

[techie]

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Hi Starty, Mary, and Rusty. My wonderful run this morning ended in drama. As I entered back in my community I heard someone calling for help. A woman rolled her golf cart over an embankment and was well below the road upside down. I couldn’t turn the cart over. I did not have my cell phone. She had one but I could not reach her backpack. I made sure she was not seriously injured but she was extremely rattled. I climbed up to the road and flagged a driver down who called 911 and helped me turn the cart over. She screamed in pain, which upset me greatly. Emergency services came and transported her to the hospital. She’ll be fine as she has a dislocated shoulder and some minor cuts and bruises. She was very lucky. I called her husband. He’s in my golfing men’s club but I do not know them well. He was able to get her cart towed home. He called me from the hospital and she is being released later today. There was a thank you note and a bottle of wine outside my front door. Why do people always give wine as a thank you, hahaha? So, lots of excitement and upset but it all ended well. Have a wonderful rest of your day!

Thinking of you, Stazafras xoxo

[mollyka]

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Hi folks...just checking in...glad that womqn okay Techie...well done you...and well done you Rusters...Good luck with confirmation Mary....our day was not without drama...thankfully in no way caused by me or Joe and the wee fella had a great day...that's the main thing!
Welcome back Starty...you were missed!
In bed now ...not feeling well so heading home early tomorrow...need my own bed...talk soon xxx

[starty]

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Hi Starts - welcome home from your gallivanting.



The reason Starts is he can't be trusted with the Librium. He has taken them AND drank so it's a supervised detox with me doling out the drugs as per the doctor's prescription.
To be honest it's for ME & my sanity that I do it - to get him sober & back to normal. So we don't have to see him drunk and basically out of control.

Yeah, I get that. I think I would probably take the same approach too. I guess the Dr doesn't have any other suggestions ? Sectioning or using Antabuse for example.

Do any of you guys have power of attorney for spouses, partners or have you given your kids POA over your own affairs? Mr S has got it for his parents and we are thinking of doing it for each other. The joys of Sunday morning musings :haha:

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Good morning folks, nice morning here and another day in the garden beckons after breakfast. Such a great place to lose ourselves, it?s almost like meditating at times.

My drinking was completely different to yours. Couldn't go a night without it and was very controlled most days. Let loose at the weekends, but still measured by how I needed to function the next day. It was an obsession and ruined enjoyment for everything else, but still, very different to how others drank.

I too was a daily drinker, every single day without fail. I thought of it as likening to having to take medicine. The blackouts took years before they started but then became very regular and progressively worse. It really scared me but it didn?t stop me, nothing did. The amount of broken promises to both myself and my loved ones were like falling raindrops. Despite this plus the pains in my right side and my kidneys most mornings, along with the yellowing of my eyes, the shame and regrets were the worst so maybe the blackouts were aiding me to continue in some bizarre way as what I couldn?t remember I couldn?t be blamed for and sure whatever bad stuff happened I wasn?t to blame because I was drunk wasn?t I ?
Until one day I was just sick and tired of being sick and tired and my last quit stuck after so many failed attempts. That is why I believe no one is ever a lost cause, despite everything that light bulb moment can strike like a bolt of lightning.
Have a lovely Sunday folks for single every day is precious.

[mollyka]

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Yeah, I get that. I think I would probably take the same approach too. I guess the Dr doesn't have any other suggestions ? Sectioning or using Antabuse for example.

Do any of you guys have power of attorney for spouses, partners or have you given your kids POA over your own affairs? Mr S has got it for his parents and we are thinking of doing it for each other. The joys of Sunday morning musings :haha:

No Starts -- I know nothing myself - however I have heard of some hairy stories -- not least a very close relative who certainly abused it with elderly people... I am very wary of it -- I would like to think if I'm going to lose my marbles I'd have an inkling I was heading that way and if necessary pass all to Joe -- I say 'if necessary' cos we have pretty much everything set up in joint names with an 'either/or' signature required...

Good morning folks, nice morning here and another day in the garden beckons after breakfast. Such a great place to lose ourselves, it?s almost like meditating at times.



I too was a daily drinker, every single day without fail. I thought of it as likening to having to take medicine. The blackouts took years before they started but then became very regular and progressively worse. It really scared me but it didn?t stop me, nothing did. The amount of broken promises to both myself and my loved ones were like falling raindrops. Despite this plus the pains in my right side and my kidneys most mornings, along with the yellowing of my eyes, the shame and regrets were the worst so maybe the blackouts were aiding me to continue in some bizarre way as what I couldn?t remember I couldn?t be blamed for and sure whatever bad stuff happened I wasn?t to blame because I was drunk wasn?t I ?
Until one day I was just sick and tired of being sick and tired and my last quit stuck after so many failed attempts. That is why I believe no one is ever a lost cause, despite everything that light bulb moment can strike like a bolt of lightning.
Have a lovely Sunday folks for single every day is precious.

I know in treatment centre they termed falling asleep after drinking too much a 'blackout' -- I never argue with anything they said but I did have one 'true' blackout and it was truly the scariest thing I ever ever had happen to me.. I may have documented it here before but I'll bore yiz all again!

I was at the stopping starting stage of my drinking -- had been sober for quite a while when Joe rang me at work and told me he had invited two friends up for a bbq that evening -- I was horrified cos they had absolutely dumped us when I said I wasn't going out drinking anymore cos I was trying to quit - and they had really really hurt me... particularly her cos she had been a close friend.... SO --- dropped into the offie - bought a bottle of something (genuinely can't remember -- probably vodka) and downed quite a bit in the car just off our lane up the road from our house --- dutch courage I s'pose..... anyway -- as I thought I'd had a little nap I got going -- hid the bottle - made myself look tidy and headed down the lane -- only 100 metres or so.... went into the house and everyone looked at me as if I'd gone mad -- I didn't know what was wrong with them so headed out to the garden where the rest were sitting on the patio --- they all looked at me sort of puzzled.... it was NINE O'CLOCK at night... I had left work at 5pm and they had been expecting me about 5.30 --

it was SO frightening -- I felt I'd lost control of myself, my life, everything --- of course Joe and I had a huge row after they had gone and early the next morning I ran away --- that's another story!!!!! how ANYONE would continue drinking after a blackout ASTOUNDS me now --- I did.

[starty]

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Yes thats a good point Molls, we have wills too that hand everything over to each other. Hmmm more food for thought!

Good grief that is terrifying! That would certainly stop me. I used to say every morning to Mr S, what did I say last night? Often little to no recollection and often got myself if trouble many times. It was awful and I did it over and over along with trying not to "look or sound" drunk. Exhausting and very dangerous.

Cmon, tell us the running away story too please

[mollyka]

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Yes thats a good point Molls, we have wills too that hand everything over to each other. Hmmm more food for thought!

Good grief that is terrifying! That would certainly stop me. I used to say every morning to Mr S, what did I say last night? Often little to no recollection and often got myself if trouble many times. It was awful and I did it over and over along with trying not to "look or sound" drunk. Exhausting and very dangerous.

Cmon, tell us the running away story too please

Way too late...I'll save it for another day.....but it's a good'un :applouse:
Night folks xx

[mollyka]

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Well hello Army -- I'm doing something I've never done before and will never do again -- I'm bookending -- I think tbh maybe the Army demise has arrived -- but what do I know --- if all our people come out of the woodwork we may survive!

Home now after a few days in Dublin -- find the noise and the traffic just mindblowing - and that's in less than a year -- Max went to kennels for the first time since his ops and he did great ---- happy out and delighted to see us so all good.. the communion is over and now the wedding needs to be addressed -- so I shall go and address it and hopefully a few folks may turn up in the meantime