Crying during kinesiology

[jellico]

Hello! I've been trying a variety of holistic treatments: lomi lomi massage, ayurveda massage, lymphatic drainage massage and kinesiology.

I only had a bad experience with kinesiology. I started feeling weird things going on in my body - guts moving fast and what felt like waves pulsing through me - but the main problem was the practitioner, without warning, started counting me back through the years of my life really fast. She stopped at a particularly traumatic childhood year and then started bombarding me with questions about it, before telling me to imagine talking to that child and giving her a hug, a gift, etc. Is this normal? I wasn't expecting this at all, and couldn't stop crying, to the point that I wanted to get up and leave. I'd gone in there asking for strength as I was going through a difficult time, but left there feeling completely wiped out, which lasted for days.

I suppose I'm wondering two things: 1) if this is normal behaviour from the practitioner, and 2) if this is a normal reaction from me! Has anyone else had a traumatic experience with any holistic treatment?

Thanks!

[lucky 2.0]

Crying during kinesiology

I had lomi limi hawaiin massage last week. I understood it was for relaxation and not much emotion arose from it. I understood the deeper tissue massage, and REIKI esp., because it is deep between the tissues, really erupts emotions. I think the therapist should be silent though to allow the subject to experience the emotions w/o influence.

Other energy/massage therapists can help restore balance.

[cyclefan]

Crying during kinesiology

Gawd, I hate those therapists who think they have the power to "heal." If I were you jellico I would run, not walk, as fast away as I could from that person.

[startingover]

Crying during kinesiology

Hi Jellico,
I have had kinesiology a few times. The practitioner I went to was trained in regression therapy but it was not used on me. I think they should have agreed with you beforehand the type of kinesiology you were going to have.
Like CF says, run away from that one.

[jellico]

Crying during kinesiology

Oh thanks, startingover - I didn't know it had a name. See, if she'd said to me, "Do you want to have 'regression therapy' over the next 45 minutes" I would have said "Well... no."

I had heard that massages could trigger emotions, but the kinesiologist doesn't massage you, cyclefan (the lomi lomi I tried was great though). It's light tapping and pushing gently against your muscles. So I'm still confused as to why it had that effect on me, but perhaps it was just because I was already feeling pretty vulnerable.

Thanks all!

[cyclefan]

Crying during kinesiology

Hey jellico. I am a licensed massage therapist and 2nd degree Reiki. I say what the therapist did to you was out of bounds.

[irish eyes]

Crying during kinesiology

jellico;616697 wrote: Oh thanks, startingover - I didn't know it had a name. See, if she'd said to me, "Do you want to have 'regression therapy' over the next 45 minutes" I would have said "Well... no."

So I'm still confused as to why it had that effect on me, but perhaps it was just because I was already feeling pretty vulnerable.

Thanks all!

Jellico, she invaded your boundaries and I guess it had an effect on you becuse it was a very painful issue for you in the past that you dident deal with but rather shelved it as many of us do with painful stuff. When she bombarded u with the questions she retraumatised you ( there is a correct way of dealing with past trauma) and that is why you felt so awful for sometime afterwards. Hope you feel better soon.

[zhaul-san]

Crying during kinesiology

jellico;616546 wrote:

I suppose I'm wondering two things: 1) if this is normal behavior from the practitioner, and 2) if this is a normal reaction from me! Has anyone else had a traumatic experience with any holistic treatment?

Thanks!

Hi, I am new to this forum, I have a rehab center in Merida, Mexico. So please excuse my English.

Question no. 1. No, it is not normal behavior, unless he told you he was going to help you in any possible way. If this time was the first time with this practitioner, then it was very unethical and dangerous. I use inner child work as a tool to help people in the center, but it has to be guide, I do warn my clients that they are going to face pain. In order to heal, what ever traumas or unresolved issues we carry since childhood, it needs to be relieved, grief work. But in order to do this successfully, you need to be guided by someone who has been there, I mean he has done inner child and grief work him(her)self and also has the capability to be a good mirror and model.

Question no. 2. Aside of whether was ethical or correct, or not, your reaction was what was expected, but now the question is what will you do with this feelings that have been re-awaken? I suggest that you look for a 12step group, find a sponsor that is willing to listen to you, or if you have the need, I am willing to help via chat or private messages, it is not the same but it will help.
I recommend the book, Healing the shame that binds you, by John Bradshaw. I think is one of the best books I have read on the subject of addictive behaviors or dysfunctional people.

In order to heal by grief work(and usually we do not want to get there) one has to talk and cry, releasing all the feelings involved in the painful event. Usually there are several feelings involved, this means one has to have several sessions of grief work in order to get in touch with all of them, the most common feelings are: Fear, physical pain, impotence, hate, desire of vengeance, anger, shame and guilt.

I hope this helps. God bless you all.

[puddytat]

Crying during kinesiology

Kinesiology is very, very powerful. I wasn't even aware of the "regression" component of it, as my practitioner stuck to the pragmatic and nutritional aspects.

Once a massage therapist said gently to me, as she worked the muscle under my left clavicle, "What happened to you when you were 5 years old?" tears streamed down my face, is all. It was a bad year. One thing I recall was hearing the strapping young neighbor boy had been killed in Vietnam.

While I was devastated to hear this, having just hugged David good-bye 6 mos earlier, I definitely didn't cry! Me and my identical twin sure kept our little happy faces on when we heard the news -- because we were used to being slapped ("cuffed" she called it) whenever we cried. Crying was definitely disallowed!
Well... that time we got "cuffed" for NOT crying! Apparently it was okay to cry that time.... who knew. So confusing to a 5 y.o.

Then Grandpa died some months later ... more confusion.

Well. sorry I hijacked the thread.

I agree with all posters that your therapist was way out of bounds. Sorry this happened to you; therapist had no right to re-awaken this trauma without your expressed consent.

Hope your're doing ok.

[Evie.Lou]

Crying during kinesiology

You have gotten some very good advise here from this thread. Thanks for bringing up such an important subject.
Kinesiology is a great tool but sounds like you had a BAD practitioner !!! I can heal but can as be very destructive in the wrong hands !!!
I would say something to them (like maybe you should sue) to protect others from having that happen to them.
Don't let that experience turn you off from searching out the holistic help you need.