another wasted weekend

[Sweet Cheeks]

another wasted weekend

Hi Nattie,

Yes I too have been in thesame situation as you when you feel so guilty because you've let yourself and others down.

The first step, as alot of people have said is being honest with yourself and your boyfriend. It doesn't happen overnight and since I've actually woken up and smelt the coffee, I've faltered a bit, but my husband actually said to me a week or so ago - he was impressed with me as I'd actually recognised the signs that I was reaching the level where you should actually stop drinking.

A small milestone but a very important one and with the help and support of everyone here (you get tons of valuable advice and yes everyone does care), you will do it. Even if you can have one AF day this week it's a huge achievement and there will be plenty of pats on the back along the way.

Good luck
Sweet

[retteacher]

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Nattie: I too have been in the situation where I've snuck drinks all day & then had to appear sober. It's exhausting & don't want to continue doing it. I've been trying the one day at a time approach. I don't look ahead to the future. I make a plan for one day. I too cannot moderate...I will have to abstain in order to get well. I've had some success when I really make a plan for an event (BF's sister's wedding?).

For instance: if it's a party w/plenty of free booze, I try to visualize myself drinking soda. I visualize it as a positive experience. When I've actually followed thru w/my plan, it has been a positive experience.

We're going to a friend's beach house on Fri. & I want to stay sober all day. I'm going to try to come up w/a plan for walking in & refusing that first drink. Sometimes that's the biggest hurtle. Say "no" to the first drink.

Anyhow, it has worked for me in the past. Mary

[nattie]

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thanks Retteacher - that sounds good advice.
I don't know if I will be attening the wedding yet - there is talk of BF moving out. I think more than that I need to prove I can make a few social outings without getting trashed - at the moment I can make it through the week and to be honest I really enjoy the feeling of waking up in the morning & knowing what I done. I also find I get far more done round the house then I do when I am "relxing" with a glass in my hand.
Good luck with your plan - I like the sound of the visualing thing.
x

[retteacher]

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Nattie: I'll let you know how it works. Mary

[Paddy]

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Good on you Mary. That's good advice.

It's true Nattie. Because, once you said 'No' to the first drink, and you've been pretty firm, you would not want to lose face in front of anyone by going back on your word. That was pretty much my experience lately. Yet, I must say, I didn't really have to battle much, as Topa has just taken away the cravings, so it was more the 'ceremonial' aspect of having to have a glass in my hand that I had to fight ... well, a glass of booze, that is

[nattie]

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Cheers Paddy - I've wondered about the Topamax but I suppose I am being a wimp thinking it will make me feel like a zombie.
How has is been for you ?

x

[Paddy]

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It's not been that bad as I first feared. You may have a look at my Topamax thread. You don't have to have a look through all the posts, but just the first few pages, just to get a glimpse of my first few days, as it's a bit of a blog that I recorded. It's under 'Topamax , Naltrexone, and other medications'. The thread is called: TOPAMAX SURVEY - DOSAGE/LENGTH OF TIME/SUCCESS

[Jacy]

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Good Intentions gone bad

Hi Nattie. I wasted my weekend to. I had every intention of having AF weekend. That didn't happend and I wasted a whole weekend. I feel really angry and disappointed in myself today.

[Sweet Cheeks]

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Hi

I think the most important thing is not to beat yourself up about having bad days - as long as you can string even 1 af day together then you've achieved a huge step.

Saying no is a real test of your inner strength, but just think about how good you'll feel knowing that you can resist temptation. Mary's advice is definitely worth its weight in gold. If you can set yourself a goal which you can realistically stick to, then it's achievable. It's these baby steps which all add up.

Good luck
Sweet