Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Poppy, Great to see you post,....I always get a little worried when a day or two goes by without hearing from others on the forum. Glad to see you are feeling good!!
I'm with you on wondering where Tahlula and Sante are.......

Hey Lily Rose - definatley onwards and upwards!!!!! So congrats on your day 7! I agree with what you said about this journey being different for everyone. This is actually the fourth time I have gone AF. The first time I managed 18 days, second 30 days, 4th NO DAYS!!! and now I'm at 13......who knows at the moment where I will go with it.....
In between I have been completely shit at doing mods (ie I haven't even tried!)
So there we are, we are all different horses with different courses!!

Pinklady - keep us updated on your bloodwork
xx

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Wakeupmom,
I was just re-reading your message from yesterday....I think you live in the UK too don't you?? If so and you are at the beach today, then you have the most amazing 'scorchio' weather. It is boiling here.
I understand what you mean by wanting to have a drink when you are feeling happy too. Hell, I could drink on any emotion, its just that we think that more often than not, we drink when we are down, lonely, depressed or angry.

Whatever is going on for you at the beach today, I hope you are enjoying yourself and that it is great to see your pals (a year is a very long time!), you sure have the weather for it.
xx

[PinkLady]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Amelia, LilyRose, Poppy, Maxine & Wakeupmom - HELLO FROM THE USA! Seems like everyone on here today is from the UK! It's DAY 7 for a lot of us, huh? Yahooooo! After tonight, I will have made it one full week. Last weekend, I never thought it possible!!

Hey guys, while we are here, I have some questions for you about London: My daughter turns 16 in January and she is already buggin me about what we are going to do to celebrate. Thanks to that TV show, "My Super Sweet Sixteen", she thinks everyone needs to make a huge deal of it. (That's fine if you are a multi-millionaire --- which we are not!!) Anyway, ever since she was young, she has wanted to go to London so that is her choice now. Any advice on the best time of year, where to stay etc? Need to start planning to see if we can do this... Thanks!

Happy Sunday!!!

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Pink, well the summer time is obviously the best but then it's also the busiest in the city. I'm only 13 miles out but don't get to go into London much... Most of the museums are free now, and it's worth checking for mini exhibitions that may run at the V&A etc. I've always wanted to go to Madame Taussards and the Planetarium I've heard it's very good. I recently took my children to the London Dungeons which is worth a visit for any age group! I'm sure Amelia would have plenty of suggestions too!

Places to stay - not too sure with that one. The hotels in London will be rather expensive, it might be worth considering B&B in the suburbs and getting a tube into London, that's if you want to stretch your money.

I'm going to Barcelona and am so excited to take the children to see Gaudi's work. We're going to do a little project on it for school (that should impress the teachers!!!!), so if anyone has any suggestions for there I'd appreciate it. All I know is a park, a row of Gaudi houses and of course the Sagrada Familia....

Pink - When are you planning this visit? I'm sure we all have different vouchers for admittance to certain places......

Speak later LRx

[prose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

hi everyone,
well, guess what, i blew it. I was out of town for 3 days and totally screwed up. i am sitting here in tears reading everyone's posts and feeling like such a loser. i wasn't even going to come back because i feel like I let everyone down, my team.
it really makes me feel horrible to read the posts from the people that had the same day one as me, they are on day 7 or 8 and i am going nowhere, i am so proud of you if you have made it though!!!!
i don't know whether to just give up or start again, how's that for being a drama queen!
hope you are all well, sorry to let you down, p

[PinkLady]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

LilyRose - Thanks for the tips! I was in London 18 years ago with my mom and we did the normal touristy things - Buckingham Palace, London Bridge, Harrods (for shooping, of course!), and Westminster Abbey. We did lots more, but I can't remember now. I do remember checking into a hotel only to find out that there wasn't a real shower, just a hose, so we immediately checked out and moved to a moderate priced (a relative term!) in Kennsington somewhere. The B&B idea sounds good if they have the same facilities as we are used to in the USA! LOL I remember riding on the Tube too... We call it a subway or the "T" in Boston. I cracked up at the name "Tube" when I first heard it!!

We are planning to go next year sometime. By then, maybe we will be fast friends and we can even meet each other!! You never know...

Anyway, thanks! Happy Sunday!

[PinkLady]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Prose - DON'T THINK THAT WAY!!! We are here for you no matter what!!! This is a disease and it is not easy!! I was here lurking for more than a month before I started. I would read and even post sometimes with a full drink next to me!! You are welcomed back with open arms! You can do this! I know what you mean about the feeling of failure and about giving up. I have been there many times! Don't do it this time! Just start over and say to yourself that you made "X" many days, had some drinks, and now you are starting again. Not at square one mind you! You are just picking up where you left off!!

I don't know if you read about my trip to Napa next week, but I am there as of Tuesday, and I know that I will be having some wine. Hell, my father just released his first vintage, and we will be sampling it at several events! Anyway, I also feel like I will be letting people down because I won't be AF during that time. I have to force myself to approach it differently. Hell, if we really were strict about the counting thing, I could be a week behind you by the time I return!!

Please look at the positive things. Are you doing the program, BTW? I find that I really need the CDs and supps. (No topa right now, but don't seem to need it either!) Keep posting and reading ok? I am here for you. Feel free to PM too if you want...

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Prose, It's so good to hear from you. Please please don't feel that way. Believe me, when you're down, someone else will be doing good, and the reverse applies too, when you're on a roll, someone else will feel exactly like you are now. I really feel strongly that if we are this hard on ourselves, we are putting more obstacles in the way of recovery (be it mod or ab). Then the urge to drown our sorrows is more appealing than ever if we give ourselves this much grief. Trust me when I tell you, that you have made the breakthrough all important step of opening up and talking about yourself and your life with alcohol. I am sure I will have plenty of 'hiccups' but we are actively helping ourselves and this is what you should focus on. Right now Prose, I have the 2 yr old literally sewn to my side, the other 2 boys SCREAMING and shouting blue murder at each other in the garden, a house full of clothes to pack, an untidy house and no dinner made, and that bottle of wine in the kitchen is calling me. But I am going to try to ignore it.
You've done great Prose, I thought about hiding from the forum when I had a drink but it just isn't worth it, this is the first time in my life I've had friends I can talk to about my problem and I am not going to end that quickly.

Love LR xxxxxxxx

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Pink Lady

Hi Again Pink

Ha ha.......I wonder how many british words I can tickle your fancy with!!! Sidewalk or pavement??!!

I too would have bolted if there was no shower! What sort of hotel was it for Christ's sake?
Yes, there's also the London Eye which never really appealed to me, but apparently it gives you a fantastic view over London.

Better go, got the youngest dragging my hand off the keyboard! Byeeeee!

[prose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hello everyone,
Pinklady and Lilyrose-thank you SO MUCH for your words of wisdom, I was not in a good place this am,
I read what you said several times and decided not to dwell on this, just to pick up and get going in the right direction again,
had a ton to do today and got lots of it accomplished, so that made me feel better too, just have to move on sometimes,
sounds like you are both going away for a while, I hope you have wonderful trips and (selfish on my part) that maybe you can check in once and a while while you are away,
I can't begin to tell you how you have helped me today, love p

[Tahlula]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Stuffed up :-(

Hello all and thank you Amelia for looking out for me..... Stuffed up on the weekend.. I am not happy with myself at all today, drank a bottle of wine last night and got agro with dh... I hate it so much, that horrible person that comes out when I am drunk! F***, I was going great guns, feeling so good then I fall off the wagon. Crying my eyes out... but will give myself a good kick up the bum, get back on the wagon and want to be AF all the time. That's it, I cannot drink - I hate it. Good on you guys for doing a good job - keep it up.

Love Tah

Back to Day 1

[Tahlula]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Back on board

Right, for the new start I have changed my avatar too!!

have a good day all,

Tah xxx

[julie001]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Tahlula, Don't beat yourself up! You've got several AF days under your belt ,
and it seems as if you were able to do so with realtive ease. Don't let the fact that you drank tonight disourage you. You are trying to change your drinking habits. That may mean abstaining completely, or it may mean being able to occasionaaly drink socially without overdoing it. Just think about what you are feelng when you are truely happy.
Julie

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Tahlula

I hope you are feeling better today when you check in. You've done so well and I know that you are strong enough to pick yourself up dust down and start another day, It's not so bad....

Love LR xxx

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hello All!!
Well like I have just said to Tahlula in a PM, there must have been something in the air this weekend.....I went to a barbecue last night and had 2 glasses of rose!! I dodged the first two rounds of drinks (going for plain old tonic water), then something odd happened in my head when the hostess started talking about her one of her neighbours being nice, but 'teetotal'.....hmmmmm.

Actually there is more to this story if I am completely honest. The hostess is Elizabeth, the wife of an old boyfriend of mine (I went out with him for 5 years or so about 10 years ago).
They have just moved into a million pound property just five minutes walk from our apartment and the barbecue was the first time we had been invited to see them in their new house.(Do I need to add here that my partner and I DO NOT live in a million pound property:H ) They are a really nice couple and I think I was just trying 'a little too hard' to get on with her........or something.

Anyway, there we go. It was my decision entirely to have the two glasses of rose, so I didn't make my Day13 AF.

So, Tahlula and Prose like I said, must have been something in the air this weekend, or just the fact that weekends can be difficult times socially.
I don't feel bad tho, head hurts a little. I will just make sure next time that I have my story straight before I get through the front door so there is no chance of a 'couple of wines' hitting me sideways - if you know what I mean.

Take care all of you.
xx