Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

[Sante]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi everyone,
This is going to be my "first" (again) AF day. I just got off the phone with my husband and we've agreed not to have anything tonight. Now I just have to be honest and not have anything while I'm alone. I know my resolve will start to wane around 6:00 (almost 7 hours from now). I just hope I don't cave it to that Monster inside my head that urges me to drink. I just want to be AF...if only just for today.
Sante

[prose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Sante,
that is the worst time for me too, that monster can be very persuasive!!
So- if you would like, lets do this together, for today we will beat it, and tomorrow morning will feel great about ourselves!
let me know how you are doing, p

[Sante]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Prose,
Nice to meet you. I'm "fine" right now. I'll be at work until 5-ish, then go to the gym for about an hour. It's after that that I have trouble. Also, my husband doesn't get home until 8-ish. He's a great distraction for me and a big supporter of mine. We've agreed "no alcohol" tonight. But I have to be honest...especially during those couple of hours when I'm out of work and alone. Would love to try to do this with someone else. Are you on EST?
Sante

[prose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

HI again Sante,
no, I am on MST, so a couple hours behind you I think, I am figuring your "bad" time will be about 5-6 my time, which is actually my bad time too, because that is the supper hour etc for us,
unfortunately tonight I have to be away from about 330 to 8 or 9, so won't be here to send messages, but if it would help I could check in after that to see how you did, maybe knowing that you could write about how you are feeling during that time would help, I am thinking there will be alcohol where I will be tonight so will have to try to fend that off as best I can, but I was thinking that if I could write " I DID IT" when i got back that would help me make it through, let me know if this sounds like a plan that may work for you, p

[wakupmom]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Dear Prose and Sante,i will come along too if i can,its always more supportive to have some alliance,although i know in my heart of hearts its down to you.Wishing you both and everyone luck.Stay close if you can xx

[july232007]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Poppy,

Most of us have all been where you are now. Many, many times. Now is the time to examine Friday and Sunday. For that matter really examine Saturday--it appears it was AF. To be upset and disappointed is ok; but don't punish yourself. Use it to motivate yourself today JULY 30, 2007. Let there be AF days all this week for you.

Good luck!

July

[prose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi wakeupmom,
I would be thrilled if you would come along, what time zone are you in? I guess it doesn't really matter but would be nice to be able to "talk" via this thread if needed during the witching hour, anyhow please join us on this day being af,
p

[prose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

just wanted to say how differently I feel about things knowing there are other people out there who are going through this! thanks to everyone, p

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hello All!!! Day 7 for me YES A WHOLE WEEK!!!!:yay:

Actually went to a party on Saturday night!!! There were about 30 - 40 people there and nearly all of them were drinking. I arrived with tonic water and a lemon (just cause it sounded like a nice drink even without the gin) and didn't have a problem at all!
I was offered Champagne, Wine, Pimms, you name it, it was pushed under my nose and every time I said 'No I'm not drinking'. Only one person asked me why and I said I was on a detox (saves explaining anything really).

I had a fabulous time. Spoke to loads of people I did and didn't know (I went by myself) and was coherent and confident all evening - IT CAN BE DONE!! Normally I would have had half a bottle before I had even left home and got more and more sloshed as the night progressed. I just felt fantastic, during and after - so there we are, a success story!!

Tahlulah - Hey chicksta, your on Day 7 same as me - feels great!! I have been to the site Amethyst recommended for the downloads (Hay House) and have already saved some.

Planet Janet - Congrats....Day 5!! Chasing our tails huh! And with no urges too! Plus you sound like you are a real gym bunny (well you've got one over me there) I seriously need to up my exercise levels.

Poppy - Its good to see you posting even though you had a slip. It does feel horrible and depressing the morning after a slip (I can remember that only too well), but you can just move forward and get some more AF days under your belt and you will be feeling a lot better in no time at all. The row with hubby was probably exacerbated cause you were
a bit down.

Wakeupmom, Thanks for your well wishes!!! You sound like you are doing pretty well though??? You have gone from drinking every day (have you not?), to being AF some days then drinking others.....that's progress. It may not be as fast as you want it to be but it is still progress - give yourself some credit where credit is due.

Prose, great to see you are going for your first AF day. Try to keep busy during your 'witching hour' the time you are most likely to want to drink. It looks like you are going to be out which will could be useful to keep your mind occupied with other things!
Come on here and open up!! That is what this is all about and I reckon the more you open up the more this forum will help.


Sante, Its great that you have made a plan with your hubby and decided not to drink tonight (I always find the first day the hardest one to get under my belt). For the hours inbetween - like I said to Prose - keep busy, do something to take your mind off drinking.....Plus you now have the added support of this group, so if you need to get online and voice a worry or tell us that you are craving - you can.

Lilyrose, really looking forward to hearing how things are going for you today, I hope its not quite as full on and busy at your place anymore and that you can get some time to relax and unwind - keep us posted.

Right, I hope I haven't missed anyone out (if I have - sorry, I will blame it on the Topa )
I gotta go and sort dinner out and get some other stuff happening.

Thinking of you all:hug:

[wakupmom]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Thanks Amelia you sound in great shape! Wish i had your memory for names-it really does make a message so more personal-Thanks again,and keep up the good work xx
Prose thats great.Thanks like you say its does make such a difference to have people to talk to about such a topic that is sooo stigmatised.Even feel normal!!.I am in the uk by the way xx
Lillyrose.I really understand about getting some time.Do what you can xx
To all you other great guys.Stay strong xx

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hey Wakeupmom, I don't know if I'm in great shape, I just think on this particular night it worked for me and I guess its been so long since I've been to a party and not got smashed, it was a very refreshing perspective.
I still have an hour or so when I get home from work that I want a drink - absolutely!!
And actually on Friday I was just watching TV and someone in a programme was sitting on the beach drinking wine in the sun OMG!!!! that nearly did me in....I could feel the wine going down my throat and that warm glow,.....well you know what I mean!!
So, I like everyone else have quite a journey in front of me.
I am in the UK too (in case you didn't see underneath my join date)
x

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Wakeupmom, Prose, Sante, Poppy, Amelia and July

Wow, this thread has really evolved!
Well, today is day 2 (again) and although last night, i felt jittery and couldn't sleep for hours, today i've managed to stay positive. Last night I ordered my All One. The other step I took was to tell my hubby what I was doing and ask for his support. He is going to abstain whilst I try to beat the binging. Tomorrow I'm going to the doctors to suggest the meds, and we'll go from there. Has anyone heard of a book called 'The Drink Less Mind'? It comes with CD and is really great to supplement RJ's. I'm also going to try L-glutamine.
Today I got home from work and the kids were stroppy and arguing. The little one was all over the place. My energy was nil. It would be times like that when I would look forward to that first glass of wine. That's my trigger. Having the four of them home all summer hols is so tiring especially when we are trying to sell the house. The other thing is I'm going on holiday next week..........

I'm really really glad to see you Prose and Wakeupmom come and start this program or even chat about your experience. I relate to your accounts of guilt but we must move on. I thought about writing a list of all the things I've regretted (deeply), that I've done when drunk (like falling when holding my son) and then should I want to drink, I'll take a look at it.....

Sorry to ramble. Hope you manage to stay alcohol free tonight and for the rest of you, continue from strength to strength, you're an inspiration to us. Amelia, you sound as if you're nearly there! Have you got this far before? Sante, I'm in the same boat as you, but look forward, don't you dare look back! The past is gone, the future is in front of us.....

Love LR (UK)

[poppy]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Thanks Amelia

Feeling a bit better than earlier. Row not resolved though ... What level of Topa are you taking, did you titrate up or start on a high dose?

Im wondering if one has taken a course before you need to restart at a higher level for an effect ? Last year I was on 200mg after building up.

Well done you :goodjob:

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

PS Has anyone had a recent blood test or liver enzyme test? My blood test showed liver was ok but I've not had an enzyme test done........

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Poppy and Lily!

Poppy I am starting again on 25mg per day (yep have only been back on it for a week).
I was only ever up to 100mg though. I think that it leaves your system so you should always tirate up and down to be safe.

Lily Rose, yes I have only just had my full blood test and liver function test and all was well,
however, I had been doing the supps and All One for about a month full on before the last test, so all my vit Bs etc were perfect, plus I had been taking Milk Thistle 3x a day for that long too (for my liver).
My blood test 6 months ago was really bad, so both have gone back to normal.
x