Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

[wakupmom]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hello from me to all you lovely people!
I am feeling a little sheepish too.The beach get together was great,so nice to meet up with my old friends.Then the wine comes out,i felt normal.I don't have a drink problem,just have a few-well thats how fragile i am.I am not the normal.Overdid it off course.How do i feel now? I don't know.Shit.
So guys there must have been something in the air.Do not let it.Back to work i say.Well done to all whatever,this is so difficult.So glad you are here.By the way travel inns are a safe bet basic,but clean-with a shower!!
Will be back later xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Ok guys, so where do we all go from here. Looks like nearly all of us have had some kind of slip up with our 30 day goal. How do you all think we should proceed??
Or how would you like to proceed individually within the support structure of the thread??
I am not sure yet, whether I want to start at Day 1 AF or minus a day for the slip or what??
I am going to think about it.
What I am sure of is that we are getting to know each other and it would be nice to carry on using this thread as a means to drinking 'progress' whatever that may mean to you??
Any suggestions?

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

And by drinking 'progress' I don't mean drinking more:H, I mean drinking less!!

[prose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hello everyone,

was good to see all the latest posts, it would be so easy to not "show up" when we slip up, to me that step is as important as the very first one of starting to post here. so a good pat on the back for our honesty, and willingness to work through all the crap that comes along with a "morning after". The first piece of crap-for me anyway- is the guilt and shame and wanting to just give up. so if you can get past that i think you are amazing. really- think about the strength that has to take. then 2nd piece is to not dwell on a slip up, but to just gather yourself up and head in the proper direction. that too takes a lot of strength. so maybe if we can realize that we ARE strong and Are HUMAN that it will help in this process, sounds kind of corny i know but i really think it is true.
I do think too that even though it is great to have a number of af days maybe we are getting too caught up in that, like do we start over or start where we left off etc, any ideas about another way to keep track of things?
If we could forget numbers and just look at the whole journey somehow, but I am not smart enough to figure out quite how to do that.
I am smart enough, however, to realize what you are all starting to mean to me and am so thankful you are all out there, keep on plugging away and i will check in later, love to all,
p
ps, sorry about the crap analogy, I didn't want to say shit

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Thanks Prose, you all mean a whole lot to me too.
Where do we go from here? Do we state how many AF days we want per week? Or, do we go with the flow? Mind you - that does sound kind of dangerous!!
xx

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi, I don't think I can go 30 days. That's a problem in itself. For me, if I can go 30 days without horendously over-drinking and passing out, I would have achieved something. I just wish there was something in my brain that told me I'd had enough.......

Maybe we should keep a diary - not sure how we could do a shared one, or have our own booze tracker like the one someone started here, but not to aim for 30 days AF but do it 5 days at a time. When each 5 days has passed AF, we can add a medal to our name, that's kind of taking it slower and not aiming too high. Whadddya think???? :bonkers:

[Reader6]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

I am just starting today. I tried half heartily in June but have decided to pull out my book, supps and topa today. I enjoy reading about others hooked on wine too. My tough time will be around 3-4 up until about 8pm

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Reader6, welcome.:welcome:
Sounds like you are starting the whole program, I haven't tried to topa yet, just taking to L-glutamine and kudzu. Let us know how it goes. I am sure you will find plenty of support here. LR xx

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hey Reader6 - Welcome!!

Lily Rose,

Yeah, I am liking what you are saying. Five days a week AF (or even six if the feeling takes you so - or seven if you are so inclined), five though is a good amount to focus on. It could be the week days or the weekends ( or the days that you may chose to be less social or whatever.
Hmmmmm, very interesting.
xx

[wakupmom]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi all,
Been reading your messages through a hangover,Yes i agree maybe we should just log in and not mention the A/F days,or just make the goal post smaller,i think for some ,me included that if you slip it makes it hard to come back.We must come back though,this is our life line.Again so pleased you are all herexxxxx.Will be back soon when my head is ok

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

I am sooooo agreeing with you Wakeupmom. You know what, the only reason I felt OK telling you all I had had a slip was because I wasnt the only one. It shouldn't really be that way. But, on the other hand, there were days where I wanted to drink, but didn't because I did not want to 'let the group down' (this was earlier on)......There is power in numbers (the group striving towards a common goal), as long as we also realise we are all SO DIFFERENT, and our lives(and drinking) can sometimes take on a life of their own - far away from this forum (for better or worse).
xx

[Rhiannon]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi can I join you? This is day one for me. Hope you are doing well.

Hugs,
R

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hey Rhiannon, you are most welcome to join us!!! Lovely to have another new person on the thread to follow. Nice to meet you.
xx

[prose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

hello to all, special hello to Rhiannon and reader 6,
welcome to this thread, it has been so good for me and i have only been here a week or so, I hope you find it as wonderful as i have,
i just got groceries for supper and didn't buy any wine, that is my little victory for today, also bought some soda water and juice to make myself something to have while cooking,
my overall goal is moderation but I need to be af for a while I think,
I like your idea Lilyrose, we can pick a number of days that works for us and try to achieve that goal, a little at at time,
glad to see you wakeupmom, i know how hard it is to come back but also know how important it is.....
better go get on with my day,-p

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi All and Rhiannon, good to see you here.
We've only been posting for a week or so and already I feel like I know you all quite well!
I've slipped again tonight. Trying to pack for a family holiday plus a cub camp and prepare the house for a viewing with a tired 2 yr old and the others....won't have more than one (or two?!) though as I need to be in order for the next two demanding days. Why can't I get through stress without wine?? Luv ya all, and keep posting. Hope Sante and Poppy and Pink all ok and anyone else I missed. LR xxx