Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

[PinkLady]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi everyone! Didn't want you to all think I feel of the planet or anything --- work was busy today because I am trying to tie up all the loose ends before vacation...

I think most of you know that I am heading to Napa tomorrow. What a great place to go when you are someone addicted to wine, huh!??!!?? Well, I am visiting my Dad and he just happens to have started a winery there. The good news is that as of today, I have successfully made it to DAY 8 AF!! (Yahooooo!) I feel more in control now, but I honestly don't think I will make it out there without joining everyone for a glass of wine with dinner. I hope to savor it for the taste, not the buzz, which is a new concept for me! I am scared to death that it acts like a trigger though. I will need everyone's support. (I will have a computer, TG!) Anyway, if I get in real trouble, I'll let you know. (I may even start a new thread to let everyone weigh in on what I should do... we'll see.)

Happy Monday evening here! Welcome to all the new names!

As for those of you that hit a rough patch, I am here for you and may be right behind you! Focus on the positive, and like someone said, make this work for YOU!!! You are the only one that matters here. We are all here to support each other. And, remember that we do understand because we have all been in your shoes at one time or another!!!

Small steps, not perfection! No one is perfect!

Love Ya!

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Pink

Have a lovely time in Napa....I have to admit (and nobody laugh here) I had no idea where it was. I did a google and guess what it came back with??? Napa Valley Wines! Apparently there is a Napa in Canada and California. Please excuse my absolute crap geography!

I'm going to PAY the camp to use their internet to talk to you guys - so if you don't hear from me for a while, you know it's cos I'm busy packing etc, and not passed out somewhere (I hope).

I just wanted to say an emotional 'thanks' to you all for sharing and caring. I know it sounds cheesy but I really feel that it has helped me. Keeping dark secrets is hard and suddenely I don't feel so different, abnormal and lonely. I feel like I'm one of a group who are battling with the same thing, and we all have a common goal. (you've probably realised by now when I have had a drink I ramble - or do I do that any way??) :H

Goodnight and speak soon ....... LR

[planetjanet]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

HI Amelia, Tahlula and everyone else,


Sorry to hear about your weekend and yeah I agree, sounds like there was DEFINITELY something in the air after reading all those posts from all of you.....sheesh. Okay, I have been trying to get onto a thread and I am kind of feeling "lost" and don't know where I belong :upset: . Amelia and Tahlula, you had replied to a few of my messages in the past and had asked me to sign on to a thread. Is this the one you were referring to? Would it be okay if I could join in with you guys?

I am doing okay, tonight (11:30pm) will be AF Day 13, nothing in the air for me, the only problem that has been arising for me is that my diet has been not so good. So, I really need to start to "moderate" what I eat, sheesh it's always something....

Well, I hope everyone is doing well today and look forward to hearing from you.

Big hugs :l
Janet

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Janet

Hi - I'm up late tonight and saw your post. I am really glad to see you here, I've only really stuck to one thread due to my limited memory capacity. I've slipped badly after 8 days AF, but I'm not beaten yet. I've had a glimpse into life without hangover, shame and guilt and I liked it! Hope you will keep posting. LR X

[planetjanet]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hello LilyRose,

Thanks for replying, yeah I agree, it would be nice to stick to one thread, however it does help me to reply to other threads, especially the ones that are in need. It's so good to know that this program has such a great support group....just as yourself. So, what's your goal? Are you wanting to achieve abstaining from alcohol or moderation?

Yeah, it sure is nice to see the glimpse of being rid free of being ashamed, the guilt, and the hangovers. For me the smelling of booze the next day, to the point where I couldn't talk to anyone at work or worse having someone telling me that I smell like alcohol...oh wow what a slap in the face of embarrassment Now, I can sit close to my boss and/or co-workers and have a conversation with confidence. The lies that I told that phew still make me sick to my stomach. But I just have to remember that was then, this is NOW. One thing we need do is is not beat ourselves up, right?

On Sunday, I tuned into a show that was on the BBC called "Drinking On The Job", it was really good. Have you seen it, check it out.....

Well, it's time for me to sign off, feel really good for having not drank today.....

Hope everyone is well and look forward to reading your posts. Have a great evening or morning.

Big hugs,
Janet:h
AF Day 13

[2kids3cats]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

hi talula I'm new too and also in australia. i find that "witching hour' period my hardest too! I really need emotional and physical space for myself during that time, but due to having kids, can't do that. I am also doing 30 days- i'm on day 3, but haven't really had to face the difficulty of that 4-6pm period as i am at home sick, so have avoided the usual responsibilites and pressures. are you planning to go back to drinking after day 30? My plan is to not drink during the week, and never drink alone, and just have 2-4 glasses of wine in total over Friday and Saturday. Will be thinking of you each afternoon as we hold on togther.

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Planet Janet - Congratulations on your 13 days!!!! Welcome to the thread.
Hi 2kids3cats - Welcome to you also - Day 3 good on you.
Yes I agree the 4 - 6pm time (and sometimes later for me) is definately danger time. Keeping busy is the best thing I reckon.
Looking forward to seeing more of you here.

I am starting over (my 12days AF are going to have to be binned). I decided not to minus days for my slip, but begin at the beginning - the perfect place for me to start again.
I start an abstinence support group tonight - should be interesting.....I will keep you posted as to how I get on.
Big hugs to all
xx Day 1 AF

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi all ( and 2 kids3cats welcome)

Well, who was I kidding that I could just have 'one or two'? Feel like shit today, have cold too. Janet, know what you mean about work colleagues etc, going through that today and I have had plenty meetings too!

Guys, going back to day 1. Going to finish packing and get outta here. Felt so good last week and liked that feeling. Want that back again.

Yours miserably

LRxxx

[prose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hello everyone,
well, decided to see if i could mod last night, was able to do better than usual, am setting up a plan for myself of af days and mod days, glad to hear that you will have a computer Pinklady and Lilyrose! I look forward to hearing about your trips,
better get on with the day, P

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Where is everyone tonight? I've had a horrible day, horrible hangover, now I'm bloated and tired and trying to pack. I can't moderate, I have to give it up, that seems to be the only way for me. Hope one of you check in soon - hope you're all doing ok

LR

[wakupmom]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi guys
Iam here and i am fine ,hope you too.Amelia,Prose,Pinklady,Lillyrose,Poppy,Finding your feet,Tahula.Sante,Julie,and all i have forgotten xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.Sorry not to good at the mo xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[LilyRose]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi Wakeupmom, I've just sent you a PM.

[wakupmom]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Dear Lillyrose,You will b ok,trust me xxxxx,here's lots of love and hugs!One thing at a time.Deep breaths...Cu when u get back xxxx

[wakupmom]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hi guys
Iam here and i am fine ,hope you too.Amelia,Prose,Pinklady,Lillyrose,Poppy,Finding your feet,Tahula.Sante,Julie,and all i have forgotten xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.Sorry not to good at the mo xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[AMELIA]

Need some buddies - Day 1 today 24th July

Hey Girls (and guys!!) Just catching up on the posts,

Wakeupmom, I think you ended your last message with 'not too good at the mo'......thanks for posting and I hope you are ok?? Mind you, you said you were fine, so I am probably reading too much into your post

Hey Lily Rose, I agree wholeheartedly with you about not being able to moderate.
I seem to have a switch. it's either on or off. So, if I am NOT drinking all is well and good, but give me an inch and I will say to myself 'maybe you will drink, maybe you won't',.... forget it,...... I will go crazy, just to get enough alcohol in the house for an evening ( and we are talking 3 bottles!!).
BUT, like I said, if, in my mind, I am not drinking, ......end of story. Much easier really.

Hey Prose, so good to see you posting again, great to read that you are setting yourself up a plan. I agree with that plan of action 100%!! If you go into your day with a drinking plan (or a NON drinking plan) you are far more likely to succeed than if you didn't,.....

Right ladies, hope you are ok and having a good evening.

xxx