Oh God my sister has cancer

[sheshe]

Hi all

Just blew a good run - was going on 5 days af 'til I got a call from my sister. She had an abnormal pap smear, then had a LEEP procedure. Came back with positive results for cancer above the cervix, so it's classified as uterine cancer. Our grandmother died from ovarian cancer at 64, my sister's only 37; and she tells me that she's had some lower side pain for a while.

Thing is, I'm the one who's supposed to be here. I'm the one who smokes/drinks and has all of the "risky" behaviors.


Everything's so complicated now. She's not even going to think of telling our mother about it until she see's the oncologist tomorrow. I've never done a "my story" thing so noone understands the "mother factor" - short story is she's a nut, always has been and I thought that the emergency would be her (haven't really even talked to her for about 3 years).



Well, anyway - if she has to have an hysterectomy/chemo/radiation I'll have to be there - and I will, there's no question about that. We both watched our grandma (savior) die from cancer and know what the treatment entails and the effects it has.

My heart is broken; we survived a crazy childhood, a crazy mother and overcame our demons to both have advanced degrees and thought we were making a difference! Why is it that the one who did everything right is the one who gets this????

[lucky 2.0]

Oh God my sister has cancer

sheshe

i know it is hard not to think the worst but do not go there. there are MANY people who have overcome cancer with the new drugs. they do not work for everyone but please give them a chance. and take this time to let your sis know how special she is to you. never waste precious time.

pls keep us posted

[Determinator]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Sheshe, that's so heartbreaking..however as Lucky pointed out there are modern mircles thankfully. Take care best you can. You sound like a great sister to have.

[rottrod]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Sheshe,
Wait to hear from the oncologist and then see what happens. Do what you have to do, be there for your sis. You can and are still making a difference. Right now it's hard to even believe there is a bright side but you know there is.

You know this but drinking might dull the pain for a few hours but it won't help anything. Try not to. If you have already started please don't overdo it. You will just feel worse tomorrow.

I'll keep you and your sister in my thoughts and prayers.

Melissa

[tipsynomore]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Sheshe,
I agree with Lucky that you have to have faith - the treatments are so advanced now.. The big thing for you is not to use this horrible news as an excuse or a reason to drink.. Keep working towards being AF - 5 days is fantastic!!! Your sister needs you to be there for her and you can do it.........:h :h :h

[toughintexas]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Well, take it from me......I didn't have a great relationship with my Mom, but my gay brother did, I had a great relationship with my Dad, we had the same profession "at the end"....pharmaceutical rep's....he died at 54....killed me and my kids....I was diag. with "repo cancer", because they couldn't "isolate" it in Tyler, Texas....and...it was adenocarcinoma....lung caner troubles, and I never smoked....they'd "never heard of it" in Tyler, so I hauled ass to Johns Hopkins.......#1 hosp. in the USA for 17 yrs now...they kinda laughed...my Dr., is a med. school teacher, a Ob/Gyn, an Oncologist, and a Surgeon, and a published teacher....all for the same "price" on ins......all I can say is...God doesn't punish the good by giving the bad...its just a thing you have to handle, and maybe the road leads you in diff. places, or times, or whatever....but, I'm 3 yrs. cancer free with adenocarcinoma stage 3.....whew....thank you Lord.....

[Guest]

Oh God my sister has cancer

sheshe,
There is no `right` person to be afflicted by cancer, regardless of lifestyle, so it wouldn`t be any more `right` if it were you rather than your sister.

Human nature often causes us to imagine the worst case scenario, when the reality of the situation is often not anywhere near as bad.

You and your sister have overcame so much in your lives and should be rightly proud.

Your sister is blessed by your love...........pray to God, as I am praying for you both..........He will not let you down.

Much love,

Starlight Impress

[diamond]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Hi Sheshe,

it sounds really awful, but the doctors have found it now and she is going to get treated, you and her are close so being positive will be a better help, don't let this pull you down. Sober you will help her soo much more than hungover and not understanding exactly what is happening.

I am praying for all of you,

Diamond xx

[Deilight]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Oh sheshe, I'm so sorry to hear about your sister.

Rottrod is right, drinking will not help. In fact, it'll make things worse. Think of your sis, and be there for her (sober as you can). Just like trying to stay sober, take your situation, step by step and day by day.

Keep us posted. We're all thinking of you.

Strength to you sistah!

[cassy]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Hi she she.

dont let fear take a hold of you as it will surely disturb your peace of mind(easier said than done isnt it?)

Walk the journey with your sister in hope. this is a time when you will bond and your relationship will move to another level.

Hopefully the treatment willb e successful..but panic sets in when we feel out of control.

dont beat yourself up about it not being you...Remeber you are good enough and always loved in Gods eyes...no matter what.

i find that knowledge helpful when i am secure in gods love despite my weakness.s.

good luck to you and your family...Regards Cassy

[Doggygirl]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Hi sheshe. I wanted to send positive vibes your direction for your sister and for your strength, to be there for her. The treatment possibilities and success rates these days are getting oh so much better. Please try hard to stay calm for your sister's sake and wait to learn more.

((((((sheshe hugs))))))

DG

[retteacher]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Sheshe: Please hang in. Try to be there for your sister w/clarity. You'll feel better about yourself if you do. I really believe in the power of prayer & will send one up for your sister & for you. Love, Mary

[nancy]

Oh God my sister has cancer

I hope she gets very good care. As the others have said, the prognosis can vary a lot with cancer and treatment appears to be very good.

Try to take care of yourself through this instead of resorting to the risky behaviors...

[buffy]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Hi SheShe, my sister had an advanced stage of breast cancer. I also am the wild one of the family never thought it would be her to get sick. I went to chemo with her and helped her through as much as I could, we are as close as twins without being twins. I felt like I had been through the entire process with her and ended up having to get some medication from my dr, who was amazed that I hadn't been there sooner and was happy to help me in any way. If you start feeling like you can't take it without self-medication, please see your MD and tell them what you are going through. It sure helped me! My sis is fine now, by the way....she still feels a bit weak, but made it through like a champ....I know you will give your sister strength to get through it all too! Love Buffy

[sheshe]

Oh God my sister has cancer

Thank you all so much! I really needed to hear some supportive words.

I, of course, did drink last night - but I didn't get crazy so that's a plus. Starting on Day one again. I know that falling back on drinking is pretty stupid - last night will be the exception, rather than the rule (which is how it's been lately, thank God). I honestly couldn't do it without this program and especially this board.

I'll find out this afternoon what kind of treatment she's going to have. God, the worst thing I can imagine is chemotherapy - watched my grandma go through that and it was horrible. Whatever it is, I will probably be driving down to Georgia soon to stay for a while. I'm going to try to stay positive, do some research and find out all I can about options.

Thanks again for all of your support, it means more than you could possibly know!