Newbies in Need - Day 3

[Janice]

Just a quick start to the thread this morning as I have to go out early but rest assurred I'll be back on later - ITS FRIDAY!!!!! Coming up to that dangerzone!!!!! So come on newbies, we need lots of inspiration and motivation today to support everyone over their first August weekend!!!

My reason not to drink over the weekend:

"Just think how good you'll feel Monday morning!!!"

See you later guys - oh, and thanks for yesterday - a great thread and I'm still going good!

Janicexxx

[joesgal]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Janice, its always good to read your posts. Today will be my 7th day AF and, if I make it, tonight will be the first Friday that I haven't had a drink in too many years to remember but I am determined to make it. Thanks again for your posts, have a great weekend, joesgal xx

[garden girl]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

morning all, Up early as usual Janice, one day I will beat you, might set my alarm. You sound in good spirits. I am ok just feeling really ratty, like i am cross with everyone because I cant have a drink. I really want to try not to drink today as it has become so much of a habit to have 2 days af then have a drink. So I am going to think about it differently today and the reason I dont want to drink today is......... because I want to lose some weight. I am sure we make it harder for ourselves in the way our mind thinks so I will try and relax to it today and keep busy.Its lovely weather here summer has arrived at last, have a lovely day everyone and keep checking in, see you all later.XXXXX

Quote for the day If you can imagine it, You can achieve it.
If you can dream it, You can become it.

[Cinders]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

TGIF!!

Good Morning All!!

Here we are rounding into the weekend and I am just starting into the worst of my work. My client's servers are just now ready for me to load with their software and create their system on and we are under an incredibly tight deadline. (Ridiculous one really) Sooo. This weekend is a really good one for me to be AF. :H

I will probably NOT have a chance to drink. I like that. A great kick start for me.

I stayed moderate all week and had a wonderful last evening out with my parents who are flying back home tomorrow. It was wonderful having someone with me here while out of town. It gets so lonely on the road.

Hope all before and all to come have a wonderful day!! (and if I don't get a chance to post this weekend, please have a great weekend, though I shall try to jump in from time to time.)

Cindi

[Guest]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Great morning all.
Wow!!!!..........had just sent someone a pm, commenting on `the Friday night allure`, when I came in here and read some of you are equally in awe of the fact that we`re headed towards, not just any old night, but a devilishly tempting weekend night!!!!
Janice and joesgal..........know exactly how you feel..........this will be my first AF Friday also, BUT!!!!!!............REFUSE TO GIVE IN..........NO WAY............NO HOW!!!!

Am just gonna play that Char (oops sorry, I meant Cher, of course!!! LOL) track all night............."STRONG ENOUGH TO LIVE WITHOUT YOU ............"

Shall be 5th consecutive AF for me tonight.........YEEEEEEEHA!!!!

BRING IT ON!!!!!!

Love and luck to all my precious friends here.

Starlight Impress x

[Janice]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Hi everyone, just got back from the Dentist - urgh!!!! I know normally even at this time of the day 1.30pm I'd be pouring my first glass, making the most of being in on my own. Not today though!! Straight on to MWO - a new addiction!! Plus, I've got the diet coke ready!

Hi to everyone who's already popped in this morning - Joesgal, great stuff with the 7th day - we'll tackle the weekend together!! Garden Girl, a great quote for the day and I know what you mean about feeling ratty. I'm already thinking ahead to 2 wks time when we go on our hols with my husband's family - they drink sooooooo sensibly its sickening!! I know I'll get the "what are you worried about?" "You don't drink enough to worry about" from my brother-in-law as he trys to persuade me to join them. But I'm adamant this time. I know this is your weakest time Garden Girl but if you can, try and break that cycle. We're here for you.

Cindi, try to have a good weekend even though you're working, well done with the mods this week!!

Starlight, you make me laugh!! I went to Sainsbury's, food shopping first thing before the dentist and bought my husband a bottle of wine. I tell you, it was heartbreaking knowing I won't be tasting that little beauty!! No way!!!! No, definitely not!!! Starlight 5th day today! Whats the longest you've gone before this???

Okay, I'm for lunch and that exciting can of coke!!!!!!!!!!

See you later, Janicexxxx

[Sweet Cheeks]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Hi Guys,

Well done you all sound so strong.

Am getting myself into gear to start afresh on Monday - I need to get my head around it and go for a clear run.

Although full of cold I'm feeling pretty positive. How I've come clean I WILL do this.
Sweet

[Janice]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Look forward to seeing you here on Monday Sweet! Janicexx

[Riker]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

I thought that Alchol Free ment that the beer was free to drink ! Ahhh.. Now I get it !! No wonder it was not working, I was doing it all wrong !!.. Well, now that I know !!

All joking aside, the last couple of days have not been to sucessfull.. especially last night .. ouch.. my head hurts and the world is spining.. but I am a work doing my job.. just feel really crappy of course compliments of 5 hours of sleep and a major hangover.. why oh why !! I just don't know .. honestly, I don't know why..

But enough of that.. I've read some really good advice on the boards today that will help me.

P.S.. I though about not posting today..given that I am really not "with the plan" that this thread is all about.. but then I felt like I would be running away or something like that.. so I posted non the less..

Thanks all..

[rottrod]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Hello Everyone,

Thanks Janice for starting the thread today. I've got that dentist appt. looming in the near future. so lucky you have it over with. You sound like you are doing great.

Garden Girl you just gotta take this one day at a time and try not to count. You are setting yourself up to do badly by remembering what day it used to be. Just enjoy the day for what it is. Good luck with the weight loss. I've lost 19.5 pounds now since I joined MWO. I'm very happy with that but still have a long way to go. That really helps me to be motivated.

Joe'sgal and Starlight forget this is Friday and try to treat it like any other night (yeah right). You can do this, you will feel so much better on Saturday morning to do your regular Saturday things! The weekend will just go so much smoother. (When I think back of the weekends wasted hungover!!!!!) OMG

Sweet...don't overdue this weekend just because you are starting on Monday, you'll feel better if you don't. We are glad to have you.

Cindi, stay too busy to drink, but eat well and check in with us.

Riker, remember this hangover! write it to your hard drive and recall it next time you want to drink. Yeah, that doesn't help me much either, it's the way the addiction re-wires our brain, I think.

Have a good day everyone! I'm off to do the grocery shopping before the weekend crowd hits the store. I'll check in later.

[garden girl]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Rottrod you are so wise, I have already been thinking that this counting thing is not for me, the only reason I do it is because everyone wants me to. Honestly, I dont want to do 7 days AF, I want to moderate, however, I do not want to get drunk and most importantly for me I do not want to feel guilty. It is the guilt which absolutely wears me down. I am quite happy to drink a couple of times a week, which is what I have done since my teens, i would like to just stop worrying about it and enjoy a drink like I used too. One day at atime seems the better option for me rather than this... oh my god I have to do 7,10,20,30 days af. So lets see how the weekend goes, I will definately post everyday because I think this thread is a lifeline for many people who are a little bit lost at the moment. As long as you are gradually improving and achieving your goals that is what matters most. So everyone out there just keep on going one day at a time and we will all get there eventually where we want to be.

[Bollo]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Hello, I started the My Way Out homeopathic regime and Hypnotherapy CD just yesterday. So far so good. My head felt a little "picky yet alive" after taking the Kudzo. I am currently a student down at Yale for the Summer, and am surrounded by (younger) social drinkers. I feel good...but it is SO early into this...I dare not say more.

Sincerely...."Bollo".

[rottrod]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Garden Girl everyone has to do what works for them. Some people have to have that goal to shoot for, some people need the accountability, some need the validation, etc. I didn't want you to get trapped by "Oh it's day 3 so this is what's supposed to happen."

Counting for me has nothing to do with AF or mods but rather did I have a drink last week or was it week before and was it one or two? I don't remember and it doesn't really matter to me. I only care that I'm not telling myself regularly I had too many again tonight, and last night and the night before that, for as long as I can remember. That's what I used to do. My ultimate goal still is to someday say "I have not had a drink in years" and not give it a second thought.

[Janice]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Well its nearly 6.30 pm in the Uk, a lovely evening and I've just had my first test of the weekend!! Sat on the patio with hubby with my can of coke while he enjoyed his glass of chardonnay!!! Wait for it though - I actually poured him the wine!!!! Phew!!!!!!! Mind you, I have got to admit it was a bit tricky, my eyes kept landing on his glass as the sunlight made it glisten!!! It looked very inviting. But, I survived and 3 cokes later I've probably kicked in a new addiction and my heart will be racing all night - but as DoggyGirl says, a girl's gotta have some fun!! I'll worry about the coke/caffeine fix later!

Do have a bit of a worry about my 21yr old son. He's a lovely quiet lad, never gave us any problems, just got on with school life, uni, exams, lots of friends, and has been working in the city during his placement year. He finishes uni next year. A couple weeks ago he went out with friends for his 21st and his sister went with him - first time they've been out together. She's 2 years younger. Well she got a right shock and was really upset and told us the next morning that obviously his friends had got him so drunk, really drunk but he became a different person. His body language, his face, his behaviour just so not him - he was looking for fights, very aggressive - he nearly got beaten up, his friends had to protect him and one took a punch that was meant for him. My husband has tried talking to him and he's really worried about him - our son is so private and keeps his social life/private life to himself which is a worry. My son couldn't remember anything and said the only explanation he had was seeing his little sister in a different light too with guys dancing with her and chatting her up. I've tried telling my hubby that it was the alcohol. We're just worried about him for the future as he might not be so lucky next time, and whether this is a "normal" night out for him. It just doesn't match the son we know. Anyway, thats what we were talking about on the patio. Sorry to burden this positive thread but that is on my mind at the moment. Alcohol again!!!

Nice to have you here Bollo, and Garden Girl - don't let anyone tell you what you have to do, only you can decide about - if you drink, how much you drink, when you drink otherwise it won't work. A day at a time sounds a good idea.

Might be back later, if not - have a good evening everyone.

Janicexx

[roxane]

Newbies in Need - Day 3

Hi everyone

well, last night I had 4 glasses of wine, less than a bottle. doesnt sound too good except I used to drink nearly 2, every night!

Ive been drinking less for roughly 2 weeks as I tired AFing without success, but I cant seem to get less than 4 glasses. I'm on the kudzu and L-glut and I have to believe that Im going the right way and next week I will lower the amount until I stick some AF days in there.

janice, you did well, think of it as a glass of urine hes drinking lol!
its great that you can talk to OH about such things even though it is a worry. your son is young though and hopefully his friends will tell him how bad he was when they got him pissed.

Hi bollo and welcome.

roxane