Terrified of AA need help please!!
Hey Cuddles!
Do what YOU feel is right for YOU, keep coming here- THIS works, no pressure...
Hey Cuddles!
Do what YOU feel is right for YOU, keep coming here- THIS works, no pressure...
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Full is not nearly as heavy as empty, my love...
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
Thank you all SO Much for your input! FMF especially what you had to say nailed it right on the head. I think what I'm seeing and beginning to understand about AA is the severity of ones drinking is reflected in how intense and at times overbearing about the program. I'm on day 7 and I'm feeling stronger everyday. I may go to a few more meetings but I'm already being attacked by other AA members on another board telling me I'm going to slip and relaspe and I'm going to be crawling back to them asking for help, etc., etc.. Reading the "big book" and listening to all the "rules" I thought you are suppose to HELP your fellow person not scare them!
Anyway, I'm REALLY happy that I've found this board and way, some of these AA people really made me feel like I was the one losing my mind. At first listening to thier stories I could so relate to some of them and it helped..ALOT. Also seeing how bad the disease can get amazed me I didn't realize how bad it COULD be. I hope I didn't offend anyone as that was not my intention at ALL, I'm just looking and still searching to find the best support for me in this battle. To know that there are other alternatives then just AA helps because they made me feel as they are it and only it and if I don't go and do 90in90 I'm going to die. Well, I hate to say it but I know myself better then that and I won't. I'm greatful for some of the tools they have given me, the books I enjoy reading and I keep my coin with me and have learned the serentiy prayer and I think for right now I'm good. If I feel like I may do something, I may go to a meeting, I may go to church, I may come here and just read and find solice in other people that aren't hardcore AA. My sponsor told me on the FIRST night after my FIRST meeting that I was to NOT read anything that wasn't AA certified and I was to no longer talk to my husband or anyone about anything about my problems to go to her ONLY and I HAD to do 90 in 90 and on and on and on. I don't know we'll see.
Anyway, again I hope I did not offend anyone that is the LAST thing I would want to do becuase I know how it feels. I'm greatful to have found this place and you all thank you so much for the GREAT feedback I really appreciate it!Sobriety is like my avatar. It was always right there in front of me but I couldn't see it!Comment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
Bless your heart, ahh I'm taking a HUGE sigh of relief from that, that is all I wanted and needed to hear....NO PRESSURE!Deilight;193820 wrote: Hey Cuddles!
Do what YOU feel is right for YOU, keep coming here- THIS works, no pressure...
Your comments REALLY helped and I thank you so much for that. I had 4 text messages from people this morning and they are getting more strange. I didn't give my number out, I made the mistake of calling one of them and they must have caller I.D. and that is how they got my number, I should have blocked my number. Anyway, thank you again, sigh of relief to know there are people out there feeling the same way that I do!
Sobriety is like my avatar. It was always right there in front of me but I couldn't see it!Comment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
Hi cuddles,
I agree that it sounds like AA is too much like a domineering approach and therefore making you feel kind of pursued. As for any member of AA being "pushy", just tell them politely yet pointedly, that you don`t wish any further contact.You`ll find all the help you need right here at M.W.O........I did, thank goodness.
jon, great to see you`ve jumped aboard now and are starting your AF tomorrow. You just have to take the initial plunge, then it gets easier every day.........like when you did it before.
Love and strength to you both,
Starlight Impress xComment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
hi Cuddles
I went to AA before and sat in the back, tried not to talk to people too much.
I did make the mistake of giving out my phone number and too many people called to check up and see if I was going to a meeting. I remember I was going off for a vacation and one of them called me at the airport to see if I was coming to a meeting and I was with my friends etc. I found it intrusive but I am not sure how you politely decline to give out your number. I guess they mean it to supportive. They often say they have tons of friends through AA, all these numbers in their cellphones. I couldn't get into that.
hearing the stories in person did help me stay on track.Comment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
Hey Cuddles - good on you!!! Yes, it's REALLY positive isn't it, (ha!) "You're going to slip back and relapse and die..." and "Ooooh, be careful." (Sounds like my mum!)
Here = "YOU CAN DO IT!!!" "We're with you..." "We believe in you and will doing everything we can to help you believe in yourself!" :l
All I can say is that you've helped me realise that with 107 AF days now I would have only had a fortnight of 'real life' if I'd done 90in90....wow! When would I have got back into my singing, choirs, friends, dancing, art, sailing, beach, house, cooking, TV, visiting family, writing, gardening, reading and being here if I'd done that?!?!?! I am soooooh glad I'm here and not 'in the rooms' (?!)every day even if, like you, I am so glad for some of the stuff I have heard and seen - humbling and never to be forgotten. Yes, maybe I'm lucky - maybe not, time will tell (!) but I was really scared being told I was 100 times worse than I thought I was. 'Denial isn't a river in Egypt' and all that - but I guess I have come out of it stronger because it was imperative that I found out for myself where I was and what I felt and whether it was true. If I'd just taken the '100 times worse' on board though and believed it - scary; yet another decision being made for me that I was cr*p.... I shudder. MWO has truly saved me. (RJ you're a complete star!)
Thanks Cuddles and everyone on this thread for posts and thoughts that has helped me loads... sorry to ramble at such length...think it was still bugging me a bit!!! (no?! really?!?! )
I really hope you find your way through and Cuddles and Dei - I gave out my old phone numbers (land/mobile still in my name for my old business so an sort of equivocation I hoped...!) if i was really pushed... felt bad but my sanity and sobriety had become seriously important all of a sudden! And that's what they tell you to put first so.......!
(Serenity prayer still works of course....! Always has! No matter what we believe in I think it's a goody...it's the wisdom that eludes me most of the time! :H )
Good luck and love to all.
FMF xx
PS - of course, if not picking up a drink is really too hard AA is absolutely the place to go - I don't want to suggest otherwise. You can't drink at a meeting. AA always better than EB (empty bottle).:heart:
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"Be patient and gentle with yourself - the magic is in you."Comment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
Try being an independant, oppositional atheist and coming to terms with AA! I even balked at saying the serentiy prayer, let alone admitting I was powerless - what bullshit! Nobody but me puts that drink to my lips. I'm NOT insane and I don't need restoring, I am not defective! I am who I am and that's ok.
Make and inventory of my faults? OK, lets focus on what's wrong with me, rather than what is right - that's just great for your low self esteem! NOT.
Nope, AA is not for me.It always seems impossible until it's done....Comment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
quality..
no more step 4 uggg looking back i wasnt a bad person............good go lucky go dancin wi starlight in the savoy..........jk im a happy confident pleasesnt.........simple guy... who drinks..and wants to stop.............simple easy just stop no more self seekng...another note the most qualified thinkers of 20th century were classed as ill they think to much??
im off to read the broooons and the beeno... if i can find a dandy it will be great....Comment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
jon..........you forgot to mention a highly regarded literary work here........the infamous "Oor Wullie" lol
And why worry about our drinking days being over...........sober,I am the champion at dancing round my handbag!!! LMAO
Starlight Impress xComment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
hey cuddles and a very big, warm welcome to you. This is the best place on earth, supportive, informative, inspirational and up-lifting. You will find no 'rules' or 'judgment' here, just loads of help and support in finding your very own way out. good luck, stay strong, take care, j
ps ... btw ... it works ... plus loads of laughs sometimes!!!Cuckoo for Cocoa Puff!!!Comment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
fat bobb get aff ma bucket ya spud!! :O)Comment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
nae bother.....heard he`s away tae meet Daphne Broon lolComment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
im doing it not saying it........Comment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
lmao your indeedv qualityComment
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Terrified of AA need help please!!
indeed.........Comment
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