AF Anyone??

[prose]

AF Anyone??

Diane 52,
so glad to read your post! please don't ever not post because of being ashamed, we are all here to help and not to judge,
I think if you can stop before getting drunk that is really an accomplishment, so be proud of yourself for that! That is probably the sober self gaining some strength. I know what you mean about the "last time" message, that is the one I used last night! last sat evening before everything goes back to the grindstone on Monday....
your goals are good ones, not chicken shit, having a plan is HUGE!
It took all I had to post here this morning, I feel like I let my MYO family down when I screw up.
Anyway af for me tonight, back to the gym tomorrow, one day at a time, yada yada yada,
hello to everyone else out there,
P

[SoCal Betsy]

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Diane,
I agree that if you stopped at 3 glasses and didn't get drunk then you are moving forward! Keep your chin up!
I wouldn't be able to stop which is the only thing stopping me from opening a bottle of wine.

~Betsy

[fjones]

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Hi All,

Day 17 for me - first day back at work and I am grumpy as hell - much prefer getting up late and pottering around. On the packed commuter train this morning I felt like a lemming heading for the cliff. Boy, I wish I didn't have to work and could really spend my time doing all the nice things I would like to do - like nothing!

Hang on in there all - this is a great thread and good luck to all in 2008.

[diane52]

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Hi all. Thanks for the responses Socal Betsy and Prose. I really needed to hear that. Especially since I didn't manage again yesterday. Made it till 8 PM, was working hard on getting back to work, big project due today and was forcing myself to get it done (trigger!!!) and asked hubby to go get bottle. Again - 3 glasses and no drunk. Went to bed sober and listened to tape and wanted more but slept well and woke up feeling rested. I will probably do the same tonight as tomorrow is the party. Then truly no social engagements in the evening for a month. I need that. I don't have any problem with wine during the day. I've cut my wanting to have a drink time back a few hours. Normally it begins at 3(the wanting). Then I hold out till 5. Now I am holding out till 7:30 or 8. Wanting not starting till 6:00. So, better. Baby steps. I really want some AF time under my belt just to prove to myself I can do it and have a happy life. A centered life. W whole life.
Dexterhead was talking about triggers on another thread and the responses were good. I might get the book Feeling Good. So easy to be negative about ourselves to ourselves. Not useful. Wouldn't do it to a friend. Disrupts how we receive info from others - I only give weight, hear, the negative. Anyway. Lots to think about as I head back into work.
I dread it too. Deep breaths.
Thanks again.
Diane

[prose]

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Hello everyone,
made it through day one again yesterday, am feeling so good this am, am going to do af again today, I don't agree with a lot of the aa stuff but I do think the 1 day at a time thing is going to work for me, if I think I can NEVER have another drink I just want it more,
fjones, congratulations on 17 days! That is really great.
And Diane, you sound like you are really taking charge, changing things by a few hours is a good way to keep in control. I know for me if I make sure we have supper between 530-600 that really helps me stay in control.
I just got a new book that may be of interest of you, it is called Managing Your Mind by Gillian Butler and Tony Hope. I am only just starting it but can tell it is really going to be a good one, deals with some of the issues you mentioned, and how important it is to value ourselves, and some ways to be able to do that,
anyway, I am off to the gym for the 1st time since before Christmas, wish me luck!
all the best to everyone, P

[diane52]

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Way to go Prose and fjones too! And off to work out too? I think you hve just inspired me to go too. I haven't gone since the week before Christmas. And yes, ODAT. Let me nkow how the book goes!
Have a great day everyone.

[prose]

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HI all,
just made it through day 2, it is a good place to be! Hope you are all well, P

[onthegrand]

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I will definitely join you!!! So far, I am making it through the night which hasn't been easy but I think I'm over the hardest part. Will have to go to sleep soon to get through it!!! I will feel such a sense of accomplishment if I can do a month!!! Count me in!!!

[AMELIA]

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Hello All!!
Wow, I have just got back from from a mini break (looking for a new place to live) and am amazed to see how many new names there are HOW WONDERFUL!
Welcome to you all.
I must confess that I have not yet read through everyones posts, but would like to send a big New Years hug out to you all!!!
Great to see you back Wakeupmom! Prose, congrats on your days of AF honey and the same to you Fjones.
Everyone else xxx from me.

[DAMO]

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Hi Amelia, this is my first post, and my first time on this site, I find it fascinating and will take any help I can get with quitting or reducing the booze. I am going to give it a go starting tomorrow, unfortunately, too late to start today. wish me luck , I have promised myself one thing, that I will be completely honest on this site, all the best Amelia and everyone here

[AMELIA]

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Hey Damo and Welcome:welcome:
Yep, honesty is what it is all about here. We are all in or have been in the same boat or similar during our years drinking so I really dont think there is any 'judgement' in it.
We all have experienced the problem of drinking too much alcohol and we will probably all react differently (to some degree) to getting oursleves sober.
The best thing is that we are all working towards a common end goal. Being sober or moderating effectively.
It feels great.
xx

[cuckoosnest83]

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Hi all, welcome Damo and onthegrand. Hey Amelia, did you find a place or still looking? Hope everyone is doing okay. Diane, you sound like you are doing good, small steps. How is everyone else doing? Dcline, prouddad, maggie, debruce, will, abell, chef, and everyone else hope you are all doing good. Please come back and post when you can.

[AMELIA]

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Hey Cuckoo,
Found a place and it is gorgeous.
We are not buying, it is a 'fill in' property for 6 months to see it the area etc is what we thought it would be. But so far, so good.
xxx

[prose]

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Hello everyone,
well, this is the start of day 4 for me, I feel so good I am not sure why I haven't done this before, but isn't that the reason we are all here?
Amelia, how exciting to have a beautiful new place! when will you move in?
Damo, that is one of the greatest things about this place,the ability to be completely honest with no strings attached, just a lot of wisdom and encouragement from the other people here, I am glad you found this site and am sure you will love it as much as we will love having you here!!
onthegrand welcome to you too, are you on to day 2 now?
hello to everyone else, missing you wakeupmom!!!
how are you doing diane52? all the best to everyone else, have a good "hump" day (wednesday) P

[wakupmom]

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Hi Guys!
So nice to see so many new names,and congratulate you for finding the courage to post.We are a friendly bunch who completely understand the problems of drinking.So whether you are still indulging,moderating or going A/F,i wish you the best of luck.xx

I have been away on holiday for 2 weeks,and only after being home 3 days had to go away again on proffessional leave.I am back now and have had a moment to look through the posts.I would like to send you all personal responses,but this thead has grown and it will take me some time to acknowledge you all personaly.

Well my holiday was wonderfull,despite feeling very weak willed at the onset i had no desire to drink to access.I only consumed small amounts of alchohol.Really engoyed waking up every day to a new start.Really need to get my A/F head back.

Can i say how delighted i am that Prose has done 4/5 days.Keep going girl xx

Amelia, so pleased you have found a fab place to live.Keep us posted.Big Hug xx

Cuckoo,you know i love you tons not sure whether you are in the A/F frame of mind ?,but you have done so well.I hope you are a happy bunny xx

Cindi,Darling i hope you are ok.You have been amazing.Please stay close xx