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[Cinders]

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Cuckoo,

You are so kind and sweet. Thank you.

Fjones, days 1 - 5 are horrendous. Horrible, they suck big time.

Days 6-30 are hard, too. You just have to know that your mind and your body are overcoming so much you have done to them. Let your mind and your body HEAL. Okay?

Everyone else, I am so happy to be here. Amelia was the one that started this thread and she needs so much love and comfort right now. She is going through some tough times.

I am happy to be here and one more day SOBER. OMG!! It is hard, no mistake, but I would rather be a struggling sober person than a pitiful, miserable drunk.

Love to all of you,
Cindi

[zige]

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Maggie the reason you feel bad when you drink is alcohol is a depressant.and the reason you feel bad when you do not drink is the withdrawls but they should go away in about six days you should start to feel better.then you can work hard at staying sober.you are in touch with some beautiful people here that will support you in any way they can.We welcome you .God bless and take care.

[zige]

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Prose.I am a male i Drank for 32 yrs went to rehab and came out only to get hooked on prescription drugs .I went back to the rehab and swore i would get it right.now i have been sober for 21yrs of one day at a time,one hour at a time.it hurts me to see people struggle with this sickness if i can help in any way i will be here for a little while.If you put all your effort into being sober the rewards are Peaceand serrenity you will feel comfortable in your skin.I wake in the morning and ask the lord to do his will for today then the wait is lifted off my shoulders the monkey comes off my back what ever happen after that we do together.his will not mine.Prose take care,goodnight everyone it is a pleasure to know to know you.(me).

[prose]

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Zige, Thanks for your post,
I thought about that quote from your other post all day yesterday- sobriety is not counted in days it is counted in the moment.as you are reading this and you are sober you have your first piece of heaven- am not sure why but it has made me have a turn-around in my way of thinking somehow, I guess I want all my moments to be like that.
last night when it was "time" I thought- hey, I would rather have these next few moments be pieces of heaven, and my craving went away....
maybe it is the breaking down of the whole process into little pieces that is making it work for me, the "I will never have another drink" seems so overwhelming,
anyway i guess I could analyze it until I am blue in the face (and that would NOT be pretty!) so I will just go with the flow.
I decided to start posting stars like cindi and Amelia too,
hope everyone else is well, will check in later today, P
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[maggiemoo]

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A few years ago, I saw this Doctor on Dr. Phil's show and he talked about how Naltrexone promised to block one's craving for alcohol or other drugs. It was Florida Detox and it offered pain free detox at a price of $15,000.00. The detox was indeed painfree. The people were kind, the whole experience was great. I went thru a series of tests and it revealed that I suffered from post tramatic stress syndrome and ADD. The only problem with that is that I already had been tested and knew that. The treatment in the hospital was massive doses of vitamins and fluids and God knows what else but I felt great when I left but I begged the doctor to give me the naltrexone because I didn't ever want to drink again. He said..Oh no, you don't need it...You are ADD, adderall is all you need. I knew it wasn't. I told him I had already taken it but doctors just won't listen. They think they know more. My son is a Pediatrician and he is just like the rest, they do not listen! I was off alcohol for a year and felt better than I had in years, eventho, my husband kept drinking. I actually didn't mind because I thought I needed to get used to being around it. (he's an alcoholic in denial) I don't have a good relationship with my daughter-in-law and I have always been very close to my son so all it took was one situation with them and I was right back to drinkiing. Then later.....Amelia, you mentioned Alan Carr's book...I read it and it made sense to me. I do not believe we are born as damaged goods. I quit again for several months. Another problem with my daughter in law and son and I am right back to my same ole ways. So, am I looking for an excuse or can I not handle stress or should I realize that my son and my daughter in law are toxic to me and just let them go?

[zige]

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Prose when you project into the future it takes away your concertration of the hear and now, this moment if you are sober is you piece of heaven.if you like the way it feels,do anything you have to do to keep your piece of heaven.this the beautiful person you are doing it for.it is your only hope for sobriety.If you project into the furture and it does not happen you are so hurt and it makes you feel that you are worthless,you do not need that on your mind at this time in you program.if you have to run or exercice when you get that urge do what you have to, so your piece of heaven is in your future.you will aboslutely love the person you will become, and it will feel good to be whole again with peace and serenity. just do it.Have a good day and take care of yourself.(me).

[zige]

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maggie if you were sober for a year you must have felt good about your self, but you have to work everyday for your self to stay sober it has to be your first priority.anything that get in the way, you have to change.so you can remain the beautiful person that you are,and don't let anyone take that away from you.you are the drug that is going to keep you sober and you know how to work it.one moment at a time focus on it. Booze should not be in your presence because it rules your weakness and destroys you.Do not take anything that alter your mind.Welcome and it is nice to meet you.(ME).

[zige]

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Hi Everyone .
I hope everyone had a good day and found some peace today.you people have a gift that many people do not have,When some one stumbles and falls you reach down and pick them up. its called love you all will make it together you have what it takes,it makes me feel so good.they say recovering alcoholics are the kindess,loving,smart,talented,and beautifull people in the word and we all agree.love you guys.(me).

[maggiemoo]

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thanks zige and nice to meet you, too. For booze not to be in my presence, I'd have to get a divorce I'm afraid.

[cuckoosnest83]

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maggie, I wish I could help with your question about your son and dil but I haven't told anyone about my not drinking other than my best friend and the people on this site. I have avoided a lot of family situations because my family can be dysfunctional and upsetting. Maybe a thing you could do is try setting boundaries and once they step beyond the boundary remove yourself from the situation. Two things I agree with are 1) we are not born damaged goods and 2) recovering alcoholics are the kindess,loving,smart,talented,and beautifull people in the word kindess,loving,smart,talented,and beautifull people in the word

[zige]

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Hi Cuckoonest i hope you had a good day and i could not have said the word better.take care and have a good night.(me).

[AMELIA]

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Hello All!! Wow, so much has gone on over the last day or so,...where do I begin???

Day 8 for me. Last two days have been crap. Been drinking too much caffiene and eating too much of everything - but no booze (there's a definate bonus!!). So been feeling like drinking but haven't. Will address the stress tomorrow so it doesn't lead onto you-know-what!!

Prose, I am so glad that part of what Zige posted really struck a chord with you. Interesting your complaint about working out and not seeing results. I do agree with Cuckoo that it does take time, however I went for my second fitness test yesterday at the gym and have got worse!!! Apparently left to my own devices I wasn't really doing my programme to it's 'full potential'. Are you able to get a personal trainer to go through your workout with you to see if it can be tweaked in any way??
As far as your AF days go - I LOVE THAT STAR!!! I really hope we see a few more of those, either soon or in the near future. It does feel kinda neat doesn't it, to put it there just before going to bed?? xxxx

Wakeup, you kept your AF days quiet didn't you??? 5 days - Thats fantastic!! Forget the day that you talked with the Inland Revenue, they are enough to drive any sane person up the wall!!! Just focus on those five and know that you have done at least that a few times now so you know what works and what doesn't. Plus you managed to dodge the drinkies last weekend (with people giving you stick)!! Good on you. You are doing really well. xxx

Hi Cuckoo, thankyou for you congrats on my 7 days (seems like such a loooong time) so my hat goes off to you again dear for going over and above the 30 mark!!!
I also avoid family situations for the same reasons that you stated in your last post (hell, I moved to the opposite side of the world). But I do agree that we are not born damaged goods and as you say, I reckon the people on this site are some of the kindest, loving, smart and talented people in the worldxx

Db2fromala (Cindi), Hope you have gotten over that nasty bug. Thank you for your lovely comments and the note of concern in one of your recent posts. I am doing OK. Few stressy days, but will address that tomorrow. I don't know if you are still working away?? If so I hope that you get home to your dog and hubby soon xxx

Fjones, Hey great to see you posting again!! Congrats on what must be day 5??? I was amazed to read in another of your posts that you have been AF for 19 years fairly darn recently?? I think you were talking about the perimenopause (which I don't know much about), however, you have got 19 years of AF memories to look to for inspiration, plus you will know what worked etc during that time, which will help this time too........xx

Maggiemoo, It's great that you are here reading, learning and posting. I am still reading Allen Carr's book and most of it is ringing true for me. Yes, your daughter in law and son do sound like triggers for you and it is unclear from what you have posted as to why they are. As Cuckoo has posted, family issues can be incredibly emotional and difficult to resolve. Perhaps talking to a therapist or friend about your feelings could help??

Zige, hello again, so many heart felt loving posts from you. Very inspiring and uplifting.
Much appreciated.

Flower, Tahlula, Universal, Beth, Bessie and everyone else - hope you have had a good day.
My BED is calling my name......xx

[Cinders]

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Nighty, Night, Amelia.

Have a wonderful, restful sleep.

Love you, too,
Cindi

[AMELIA]

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By the way, I forgot to mention. I have not really had a 'proper' talk to my partner.
I have had small conversations with him about drinking. We have agreed that neither of us are drinking before Christmas (however I want to carry on abstinence into the New Year). HOWEVER this Friday we have a Couples Therapy session booked (has been booked for months) at the alcohol drop in center that I used to attend - so I reckon its all gonna come out then!!!!
Bit frightened really,....I can tell he is too. This is our big 'pink elephant' and this is what these therapy sessions are all about - OMG. OMG. OMG.
I will keep you posted.
x

[AMELIA]

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Night Cindi
xxx