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[cuckoosnest83]

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Cindi, oh no please do not be impressed. I'm only posting that I'm going to the gym before 6:00 am. In fact, I will be lucky to make it to the gym before noon. Read the morning papers, have coffee, and breakfast and now I'm heading out to run errands. Have a good morning all.

Love cucks

[prose]

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Hi everyone,
well, made it through day 1! to anyone else that would sound like a silly thing to be proud of but I know you will all be happy. I too will be heading off to the gym this morning, but will check in later. Good to see all the new people! Hope you all had a good Friday evening and hope to hear from you all.
Oh-almost forgot, I don't seem to have a problem sleeping when I go af, but I do have really weird dreams, last night I was mad a everyone, so woke up grumpy. Does that happen to anyone? Maybe I am just remembering my dreams when I don't drink!
I have to say too, that good old exercise really helps with the sleep,
talk to you all later, P

[SoCal Betsy]

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I feel great this morning! Day 3 AND I made it through Friday night (my worst night of the week). Getting up (without a headache) and seeing the boys and NOT having to wonder if I made any promises last night that I will regret (sure - we can go to Disneyland tomorrow, sure - 20 of your friends can spend the night - absolutely you can get two new dogs....etc.)
PRICELESS.

[SoCal Betsy]

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Prose - on my first night AF I had weird dreams too. I thought my bedroom was bugged and I was trying to reach the wires and pull them down from the 15 foot ceiling.
Our brains must be going out of whack from adjusting.
Without any sleep aids I had a great night of sleep last night though and I'm going into day 3. Although it did rain here which helped a lot.

[planetjanet]

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Hi SoCal Betsy,

Congrats on Day 3, I am one Day 2 myself and yeah doesn't feel great. Hope you are keeping dry with all this rain we been having. I took the train to San Diego (from LA) to do a running event and it was canceled :upset: But that's okay because it gives me such pleasure to know that I didn't drink last night. Yeah, I agree, Friday nights are usually the hardest but you overcame it, congrats again. Well, since I am up and hungover free, I plan to head to the gym and have a great workout.

Wishing you and everyone a very nice weekend!

Big hugs,
Janet :h

[SoCal Betsy]

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Hi Janet,
Sorry your event was cancelled - at least the train is usually pretty peaceful and a scenic ride to San Diego. I'm glad you feel good today too - let's consider the rain "cleansing" us.
Unless you are one of the folks on the news with a tree on their house - then you probably aren't too fond of this storm and wouldn't find it very cleansing. :H

Have a great weekend!

Betsy

[Proud Dad]

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Day 6 - wow!

On my sixth day AF after several years without a single day. Hasn't been too bad as I have a very strong desire to succeed. First two nights sleeping were tough, third was better, and the last two nights were great. Felt great this morning. Suddenly feel like I have a lot of time on my hands, and the days seem much longer. Spending quality time with my wife and kids is great. I'm starting to think this could work long term, but don't want to get too far ahead of myself, still focused on doing 30 days AF.

[keeta]

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WOW...awesome job Proud Dad! Congratulations!

[hulagirl]

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...since I made it through night 2 but scarfed down 10 red licorice sticks in record time. First I'll deal with the drinking and then the eating.
I think that is a good plan socalbetsy. I am thinking the same way. I know myself and if I try to make all the changes at once--stop drinking, eat healthful, exercise, smile, be outgoing, be smart, be witty,. . .etc. I will "fail" at all. I have been thouroughly enjoying a couple chocolates through the day knowing that I am not have a drink or two (or three, four, five, etc.) I have a question for everybody. Have any of you had trouble with your relationships because you stopped drinking? My husband is not so charming as I thought when I am high. I can't stand his guitar playing and I probably drank to tune it out. I watch him drink all day (and smoke pot 2-3 times in a day) and I am getting fed up. We are hanging out in different spaces/places in our minds and he seems to think everything is groovy like nothings changed and I feel like I've made this life altering change and nothing is the same. I don't want to be the booze police in our home. I just want an alcolhol free life.

[cuckoosnest83]

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Socal, I know it isn't funny but you make me laugh with your promises. Happy you are on day 3 and feeling great. Plant congrats on day 2. Just read about the storms they have been having out in that area. Sorry about the running event. Proud Dad, you have every right to be proud. I was AF for 30 days back in Nov and Dec and it felt great. Allowed myself to use the holidays as an excuse to drink at the end of Dec. but now AF for 4 days and you are so right about feeling like you have so much more time on your hands. I get so much more accomplished when I'm not coming straight from work fixing a drink. Prose, congrats on day 1 and as far as weird dreams I always have them. From the time I was a child. Wished I could blame it on the drinking or not. Amelia, Cindi, and Wakup big hugs to you and please check in. To all the new posters, masquerade, maggie, abell, will, dolly, dcline, diane, debruce, keeta, and anyone else hope you are achieving your goals and please let us know how you are doing.

Take care.
Cuckoo

[cuckoosnest83]

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Hi abell, I can't say that I have had problems in my relationship because I stopped drinking because I haven't quite yet. If your relationship is based on partying together or getting high together and you decide to stop then yes the dynamics of your relationship will change. I think this happens in a lot of relationships where one person grows and the other doesn't.

[movingon]

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abelltoday...I know exactly what you're saying about the relationship. I was AF for about 40 days in November/December...and you don't know how amazing that is. Drank during the holidays, and I'm on day 5 AF this time. I've been in a relationship for a little over a year, and after the AF days, I could see that this is NOT the person I want to be with, and I ended it a few days ago. Luckily, we're not married, but wow! how clear things can be when you're not drinking. With that said, I don't know if I'd throw marriage out the window just yet...this may just be a time for you to take plenty of time to assess or work on the relationship. I usually just read....but had to respond to your post! Let us know how it goes.....

[SoCal Betsy]

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abelltoday - The irritation with his guitar playing might be a result of being irritable from withdrawal (or he's not such a good player after all - ha ha). Hang in there!

It must be tough to be in the house with someone who isn't making changes like you are. But remember, in the long run - you are the only who counts right now!

Betsy

[prose]

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morning everyone,
hope everyone is OK, woke up to the news about all the storms on the US west coast.
not much to report here, mad at myself yet again, tired of starting day one over and over, its like I can't remember how to count past it!
take care everyone, P

[diane52]

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Me too. I didn't make it through our friends' visit. Nor did I make it through last night. I didn't get drunk either night and so my husband is pleased. I stopped after 3 glasses but still. It wasn't what I had wanted to do. I'm proud I stopped where I did though. So a mixed blessing. Normally when I try to quit I get so smashed because I always think well this is the last time. This time I thought, it isn't the last time and there is no point getting smashed. Not that it was easy. But I'm trying. I liked what you said Cindi, maybe on another thread, that there is a drunk self and a sober self and we have to get the sober self stronger. That made alot of sense.
So I am committed to the next two days AF and then I have a party to go to on the 8th that I don't think I'll get through so I'm going to set up some other goals for that like two drinks with sparkling H20 between drinks and to leave after an hour and a half. Then I have a clear schedule for going AF for a longer time.
It feels chicken sh#t to do this but I think it is what is possible right now. Is that awful?
I'm thinking of all of you and cherish your posts. Hope all is well.
Diane
I didn't write yesterday I was so ashamed of myself. But I read posts and took some solice that we have to keep at this - it took along time to become an addict - it will take some time to recover. I'm not giving up.