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[2nd chance]

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Good Morning! I would love to join everyone for 30 days AF. I am new to this site, so far I am AF for 12 days, so far so good! Good luck to everyone, I am looking forward to this journy.

[cuckoosnest83]

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2nd chance, great to have you on board and congratulations on 12 days. Would be pleased to share the journey with you.

Cuckoo

[prose]

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Hi everyone, special hello to newlife and 2nd chance, welcome to this thread!
Newlife, I read your post and gave it some thought. I agree that you need to call your lawyer, if for no other reason than that things are documented. You mentioned a therapist that you had taken your older son to, is that still available to you?
I am not a single mom but because of a work situation, the majority of the kid stuff is my responsibility. I am always the "mean" one, because I am the one that is here.
I can tell that you know you are doing the right thing by making rules and having consequences. And when your kids are grown they will look back and see the importance of that too. One thing I do with mine is to ask them what they would do if they had a kid that was acting in the same manner. That usually helps them to look at the bigger picture.
One thing I think you should really be aware of is how you are changing the patterns that you grew up with. That in itself means you have a tremendous amount of strength. So don't forget that!
I know what you mean about fits of starts and stops, I think that is so much more draining than just stopping, because you always have to go fricking day one again, that is where I am right now.
Well, I hope this helps you a little bit, take care of yourself and all the best, P

[NewLife2008]

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Thank you Prose. Yes, the therapist is still available and we have an appointment. Things have calmed down; he even apologized. It still doesn't take away from the fact of what his dad did or how I handled it. I handled it wrong by giving into the temptation that rose up from within. I could taste it in my mouth for the hour and a half I talked to him the other night and I gave in. It was incredible, but I know the that feeling too well that made me drink. I should have walked away from it for the time being, then go back to it. Looking back, if I had, I might not have found out what their dad has been saying, I don't know. Now I can move forward and resolve this issue because I know what power lies beneath and I CAN deal with it. Maybe that's why the fits of starts and stops. With each one, I get stronger because I'm developing the coping skills I didn't develop when I was young.

I'm so glad I found this site. Thank you for understanding my situation.

[SoCal Betsy]

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I've been away from the site for awhile but was relieved to see familiar names today (Amelia, Prose, Diane). I was AF for almost a week and then had just a few glasses of wine at my book club. Big mistake because the next night and every night since I'm right back to where I started (a bottle and a half). I'm so disappointed and feel sluggish and bloated.
I feel like a hand should pop out of the computer screen and just whack me upside the head!

I've been taking the L-Glutamine too! Maybe I should have been taking them with water instead of wine. Just kidding.

I can't even focus on my work today because all I'm thinking about is whether or not I can make it through JUST TONIGHT without drinking. I'm not feeling very strong and that's upsetting me.

Well, enough of the pity party. Wish me luck -

Betsy

[cuckoosnest83]

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Betsy, here's wishing you luck. I did the same thing at Christmas. I had 2.5 glasses of wine and was right back where I started within 2 days. Well, I hope you make it through tonight.
NewLife, you sound like you are looking at things in a very positive light which is a big plus in your situation. I hope things go well at the appointment and the apology is a big step in the right direction.

[hulagirl]

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Hey SoCalBetsy, I am so glad that you came here. This is exactly where you need to be. Sometimes it helps to look to being AF one hour at a time. I know you can do that. And then tomorrow is a new day. Thanks for sharing your experience. It reminds me to not get overconfident. I know that I am not ready for a drink after 21 days AF. Yay for me. I still think about it and I just know that I would not stop. Last night I brought some spaghetti sauce out of the freezer and the first thing I smelled was the wine that I used to "cook" with (wink,wink). Nothing to trigger the memory like a scent. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that sharing our successes and failures helps all of us no matter what our circumstances are.

[SoCal Betsy]

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Thanks for your encouraging words Bella and Cuckoosnest!
I didn't make it last night but today I feel refreshed and ready to really buckle down and give more effort. An ironic thing happened last night as I was sipping my wine and sorting through my son's school papers I came across a parent guide to a religion course they are starting and I happened to open it to a page about parents setting a good example to their children by taking care of themselves in addition to taking care of the family. It seemed like the lightbulb went off for me and I am encouraged to take care of myself.

Have a great day!
Betsy

[diane52]

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I feel ya SoCal. I was doing well, too and then fell from my own grace. I'm going to get back on tomorrow. No good reasons. I started my Topa two days ago. Just 25 in the afternoon. No effect yet. Clearly...! Maybe I went on it and was waiting to see if it would do it for me. As many have posted, it's up to me. A pill isn't going to do it for me. Help me maybe. I'm prone to kidney stones so am really taking care to keep my H2O volume way up. I'm doing the tapes again as of yesterday. I was kind of slacking there. Thinking, ok, got this going now... Takes a while to change. Duh.
Good to hear from everyone. This place is becoming a second home. Thanks.
Diane

[SoCal Betsy]

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Diane - I know what you mean about taking the pill and waiting for it to change you. "Why aren't I magically cured - I took a pill?!":H
Drinking while I make dinner, help the kids with homework, do nightly chores, etc. has become such a dependent habit that I need to try so much harder to break. I'm feeling optimistic for tonight and don't have anymore wine in the house since I cleared out my supply the past few nights. If only I could clean out other spaces in the house as well as I clean out the wine rack! ha ha

Betsy

[wakupmom]

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Just checking in to say HELLO to all my friends here Amelia,Prose,Cuckooo,Cindi,Diane,Betsy,and any one i have forgotten.Hope you have a great weekend.Take good care of yourselfs xxxx

[prose]

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Hello everyone,
don't have much time to write right now but just wanted to say hello, wakeupmom, good to see you! how have you been doing?
I am up and down, up for now so will focus on that,
gotta go, love to all of you,P

[AMELIA]

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Hello all,
Apologies for not checking in over the last few days.
Lots happening. Very stressful.
Thinking of you all.
Will post tomorrow.
xxx

[Croft]

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WOW

There are a lot of people trying this 30 day thing. Wish I had the guts.

[wakupmom]

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Hello All,
Sorry i have not posted very much of late,i just seem to be stuck in a rut.Since coming back from my hols i have felt so low,and needless to say have been drinking daily to blot it out.Its so stupid i know as it is a vicios circle.I was so lucky to have gotten away.The change of climate,and enviroment was so healing.
I know what i have to do,and will not get any clarity if i don't break this circle now.Sorry to sound so negative,but i also need to open up to the friends i know will understand.Thats the whole point of this website.So looking for a "kick up the butt".

Lots of love to you all xx