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[Sunbeam]

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Count me in

My start date was 1/28, but I'll round it up to Feb 1. I've tried to stop before, but have never gone a month, I don't think. Maybe two weeks. After a month I will be better able to decide whether total AF or moderation is my path for the future.

[NewLife2008]

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Gary, Not telling anyone about trying to stop drinking may be a good thing for now. It's easier to cope with trying to become sober without the undue stress of someone pointing out your backsliding as a failure while struggling for sobriety. Some people don't understand the effort that is being made and what is happening inside your body. The cells in the body go through hell when a person drinks and when it's taken away, the body screams for relief. It's also difficult for us because of the changes that happened during our drinking, issues resolved or not resolved while not being sober, and what's happening now, trying to resolve our issues SOBER. We are all learning new ways to cope with the people in our lives and sobriety.

What's important to remember is, people can't live up to the expectations of another person, drunk or sober, and you will never disappoint anyone who comes to this website.

Good luck to you.

[NewLife2008]

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Just a quick note, I started get into reading everyone's comments over the past two days, but I need to run out.

I got caught up in getting my son off to a church retreat, against his will, but I stepped up to being a true parent and sent him off Friday night. I cried when he left because of all the stress we've been putting each other through. He doesn't understand the process of God and the need for the human spirit to be nurtured.

I'm sorry I haven't posted the inspirations and I need to go right now, but I'll be back later this afternoon to post inspirations for this weekend and tomorrow.

You all are wonderful and I can't wait to read more.

[AMELIA]

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Newlife, I for one would love some more of the 'inspirations'. I love them and really appreciate you posting them as they mean a lot to me.
x

[AMELIA]

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Welcome Juliana, great to have you here!! Sounds like you have past experience of going AF, so you will know some of the pitfalls etc.
Jump onboard. We will be here to support you if and when you need it.
xxx

[diane52]

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Hi all,Just checkin in to let you know I'm fine.* Reading every one's posts with lots of thought and gratitude for what you put out there.* Thanks.* Thinking of you Amelia with this move.* :H** I honestly do not like moving with my dear completley disorganized husband.* For every one box he packs I pack twenty.* I am ashamed it annoys me so very much.* The first time we moved together I could not believe it and had we moved before we got married I probably would not have married him it is that big an obstacle.* But we only lived together one week before we married so I had no idea...thank goodness.Clearly I have issues.* But I love him dearly and although I have rage issues in this area I know better over all and we just don't move much!* I am not well but I know it!I wish you all well.* I'm doing OK with the wine.* Sounds silly but for Lent I am going to, try not to laugh, keep it to one bottle a night or less.* Now some nights I only have 2 glasses, but some nights I want and drink 2 bottles.* So I figure as I titrate up on topa (I just started 75mgs 2 days ago - I'm going week by week like RJ) that will be a challenge and possible.* Lent isn't a part of my religion but I like that part of others' religion and so I am going to adopt it for this season.
So I am doing better. And I am going to do even better. With your help, wisdom, honesty. Thanks.
I know I haven't said hi to all but you are in my heart. I read every thing you say here and hold it and you close.
Diane

[bluequad]

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why

"It's easier to cope with trying to become sober without the undue stress of someone pointing out your backsliding as a failure while struggling for sobriety. " Newlife2008


Newlife2008, I'm not clear on why you might construe my posts to be anything but supportive and postive. I'm sorry if I done something to offend you. Perhaps you should peruse some your own earlier posts before you censor mine.

As for everone else in this thread please accept my sincerest apologies if I have offended in any way. I felt I was trying to be constructive and positive.

Gary

[Not Happy Hour-Happy Life]

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NewLife2008;265869 wrote: Gary, Not telling anyone about trying to stop drinking may be a good thing for now. It's easier to cope with trying to become sober without the undue stress of someone pointing out your backsliding as a failure while struggling for sobriety. Some people don't understand the effort that is being made and what is happening inside your body. The cells in the body go through hell when a person drinks and when it's taken away, the body screams for relief.
Good luck to you.

Gary- I think that New Life was trying to be supportive, and not critical of you... this would be the same post in my words:

"It's probably a good thing to NOT tell anyone about trying to stop drinking. It's easier for you to succeed when you don't have to deal with loved ones pointing out potential failures. Your loved ones may not understand the hard journey, or what is physically happening to you..... "

Part of the beauty of My Way Out is the diversity of the members, and that we come from all corners of the world~ Gary, your posts are heart felt and eloquent, and New Life, your intentions were kindhearted and sincere.

I hope this is just a little hiccup and that we can all continue to get along... :heart:

[NewLife2008]

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bluequad;266050 wrote: "It's easier to cope with trying to become sober without the undue stress of someone pointing out your backsliding as a failure while struggling for sobriety. " Newlife2008


Newlife2008, I'm not clear on why you might construe my posts to be anything but supportive and postive. I'm sorry if I done something to offend you. Perhaps you should peruse some your own earlier posts before you censor mine.

As for everone else in this thread please accept my sincerest apologies if I have offended in any way. I felt I was trying to be constructive and positive.

Gary

I didn't think you were being offensive in any way. In fact I thought you were being supportive. I was thinking of you and how hard it is to deal with comments from other people in your own environment, as you said. I, myself have been there, trying to live up to some else's expectations, and it's not easy.

[NewLife2008]

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Not Happy Hour-Happy Life;266072 wrote: Gary- I think that New Life was trying to be supportive, and not critical of you... this would be the same post in my words:

"It's probably a good thing to NOT tell anyone about trying to stop drinking. It's easier for you to succeed when you don't have to deal with loved ones pointing out potential failures. Your loved ones may not understand the hard journey, or what is physically happening to you..... "

Part of the beauty of My Way Out is the diversity of the members, and that we come from all corners of the world~ Gary, your posts are heart felt and eloquent, and New Life, your intentions were kindhearted and sincere.

I hope this is just a little hiccup and that we can all continue to get along... :heart:

Thank you Patty,

That's exactly what I was trying to say. Being in a hurry when writing, maybe isn't the best time to write.

I'm going back over the posts from Gary's post and read, maybe comment, then I'll post the inspirations. Though the weekend has past, I will post from where I left off, which I think is 1/31. I'll make all the inspirations separate posts to keep our discussion at the top of the page.

Have a good week every one.

[NewLife2008]

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Thank you Patty,

That's exactly what I was trying to say. Being in a hurry when writing, maybe isn't the best time to write.

I'm going back over the posts from Gary's post and read, maybe comment, then I'll post the inspirations. Though the weekend has past, I will post from where I left off, which I think is 1/31. I'll make all the inspirations separate posts to keep our discussion at the top of the page.

Have a good week every one.

[bluequad]

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Thank you

Thank you Patty for your kind interpretation, and I'm sorry I over reacted New Life.
I guess I feel a bit raw emotionally thrugh this process of trying to get my life together. I'm hardly equalified to give advice, but I really have learned through other's posts, my own writings have come more from a stream of emotional consciousness, rather than a from more reflective place. I'll try to be more carefull in the future. In the meantime I hope everyone has a fullfilling week.

G

[NewLife2008]

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Welcome to Kaddy, Maasai, and Dowjbw.

Amelia and Diane, Moving has always been hard for me and I don't like packing or unpacking. I hope everything goes smoothlhy for you both.

Amelia, this is a really difficult time and I would love to ask you where you're moving, but...

Don't worry about getting upacked as soon as you get there, it took me three months to unpack an entire house the last time I moved. Protocol for thank you notes for wedding presents is six months and it should be the same for moving, so with that in mind...RELAX and enjoy your new home, one day at a time.

Diane, I can relate. I packed the old house in two weeks and it took one week for my brother, a neighbor and my ex to pack the trucks. Go figure.

[NewLife2008]

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Here they come, and I'll post a day ahead of tomorrow, so no I'm not behind for those past the IDL. Happy week to all.

For 2/2,

"I was astounded to find myself powerless over my feelings. When I first got sober and started feeling feelings that had been numbed for years. I thought there must be a way to contrl these feelings away.

"My sponsor explained that, along with being powerless over alcohol, people, places and things, I was powerless over my emotions. My life would be unmanageable if I thoughtI was in charge. After attempts to stuff m feelings using food or avoid them by shopping, I began to be conscious of my powerlessness. Surrendering to powerlessness became my best choice. This let me feel my feelings, process them and live life more fully. Pamela Knight" "Life is a great big canvas, and you should throw all the paint on it you can. Danny Kaye

From Robin, :-) I always did love Danny Kaye.

[tawnyfrog]

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Hi all,

I'm a long-term member but infrequent visitor to this thread. May I just say 'Welcome' and 'Hello' to all the people I haven't met before.

Be well and find your calm place.