I am a newbie, kind of. I have been lurking for about a week now My story is this.......
I am 30 something, when I was in my 20's, I would go out with my friends several days a week, drinking, having a good time. Even then I never got all out drunk- for some reason I could down 6 or 7 drinks, and by the end of the evening, I was sober and usually the designated driver.
The older I have gotten....not so much so! I am now married, and my hub travels alot for work. In this past year, my drinking has gotten out of control (to me).
Signs I know things are out of hand:
1- in this past year, prob 5 out of 7 days, I could easily drink a whole bottle of wine alone. 2- having more than 2 drinks alone, pretty regularly
3- when hubby asks if I have been drinking, I lie and say no, when I know he knows the truth.
In the back of my mind, I knew there was a problem. What made me stare the problem in the face, is my husband confronting me about it. He flat out asked me, "do you have a drinking problem?"
Anyhow. So this brings me here. Although this is my first post, I have already put some steps in place to put myself back on track. My first course of action is moderation. I really do not think I am alcohol dependent, but I do abuse alcohol. If moderation does not work, I will go to abstinence.
Like someone said in another post, my eureka! has been to not drink alone, and to only drink on the weekend. In the past week this has worked for me. I realized that the root of my drinking alone was "something to do", not necessarily a big craving for liquor/wine.
All last week, I was able to restrain without much difficulty- thinking about the embarrasement of my husband confronting me, was reason enough to not drink anything. This past week, same thing- was able to restrain without too much thought. Last night hubby and I went out to eat, and we both had 1 beer.
A few days back I bought some Kudzu from Vitamin Shoppe, and it does seem to help as well with a random craving. I really bought it for times out with girlfriends, where I may be tempted to have more than 2 or 3 glasses of wine.
Anyhow, just wanted to say hello, glad to have found this site. :thanks:
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