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BabyGirl wants to grow up!!!!!
Time to post! I have been lurking for a long time & I would like to thank all of you because I have learned so much... I chose the name BabyGirl because even though I am 40 I feel as if I need to begin living ... I need to quit. I am lonely. Sad & in need of suuport. I moved from the city to a small town about 2 years ago -- I find that I do not fit it... but when I am rational I ask myself "Have you tried" I prefer instead to drink wine and to watch tv with my dog... I have a wonderful boyfriend that keeps himself busy w/ his cycling group & his life as a professor. Funny,my drinkingdid not escalte until I prescribed Prozac several years ago for PMS -- now, on Lexapro I am unclear why I am taking this medicine? I have seen doctors and my psychiatrist cannot understand why I drink... she says I have a great job, great guy... stop drinking! Help me! Why can't I stop? Also, she prescribed Campral -- does that work! HELP! BabyGirl...:new:Tags: None
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BabyGirl wants to grow up!!!!!
Thank you Shas!
Here I go... I have the book & have read it more than once -- I also have ready Seven Weeks to Sobriety -- I am going to jump on the boozebusters wagin TODAY!!!!
I need to hang on tight... because I love my wine!!!
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Welcome
Hi Babygirl-I'm in the same boat.I just joined yesterday after finding the site through a google search.I was immediately drawn to the honesty everyone shows in their postings. I finally felt like I wasn't alone for the first time.I've been struggling with this addiction since college and I'm 43,so it's been a long time.Recently,I've had a series of revelations about my life.I'm tired of living this way.I'm tired of being hungover half the time. I'm tired of keeping this secret.I'm also worried about the example I'm setting for my kids. Another part of me is ashamed to be a professional woman who still drinks like a college freshman. I made my first appointment at a Recovery center yesterday. This is all new and I'm scared to death to live without alcohol in my life-it's been my closest friend through the years.I feel a little like I've taken the first step on a tightrope that is 1,500 feet above a ground with absolutely no safety net. Sorry for the rambling, but this is hte first time I've written anything like this down in my life. Let's stay in touch...Ash
ps-I'm a bit of a technophobe, so if I don't write back, it's nothing personal, I just need to figure out how...:0)
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let's start together!
Thanks Ash -- we are simalar creatures! Let's do this together ... my goal right now is 30 days! (knowing I need to focus on each day) There, I said it... now I will do it! BabyGirl still needs help!
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me too
I am only on day 2 babygirl, ash and everyone else...............I think if we keep coming back and try to only concentrate on baby steps etc we will make it.................
PS, I am 44, so we have all that in common too
Love you all and good start to this Wednesday, gotta go but will check in later!!!
MA:rays:My happiness is my greatest gift to others:rays:eace:
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babygirl
We have all been where you are (well, maybe not in a small town watching tv with our dogs lol), but wanting to stop our wine/loving our wine/wanting to stop our wine/loving our wine. You are in the right place. Try everything here you can and see what feels right. I do have to tell you that for me though, the biggest factor was somehow getting my brain past the place where I "loved" the wine so much. That was tougher, and took me a LONG time (and I still fight that thought, just not as hard). So, try, and try, and try. And don't give up!!! And don't be afraid to keep coming here if you DO mess up. It took me a LONG time to get my brain to catch my with my heart!
Also, the nonsense about..."you have a great life so just stop the drinking..." GRRRR...that infuriates me!!! For me drinking was about....drinking. Period. It was a coping mechanism for EVERYDAY stress...or...it was a way to celebrate...or...bleh, bleh,bleh. It was a damn habit! And worse, it was a habit that holds our own THINKING hostage. Yikes!!
Anyway, I am now in a better place. I can truly say that I STILL have a good life AND I can appreciate it without the added price of a daily hangover....or regret...or shame...or embarrassment. WOW
So, stick around!!!
And WELCOME
Bethformerly known as bak310
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Hi BabyGirl
Just answered your post in the 30 day abstainers section!
Hi Ash43 and cowgal
We haven't "met" yet - welcome!
You both sound a lot like where I was at 8 months ago when I first arrived.
High functioning alcohol abuser who looked highly successful and together on the outside but who was really getting way out of his depth with the booze and was sick and tired of feeling like c*ap all the time.
I arrived here after my youngest son found a large hidden stash of my empty beer cans, and I found myself barefacedly lying to my 12 year old to cover my sorry *ss.
It became clear right at that moment that it all had to stop!
Take heart - it CAN change!
I spent the first few months cutting down and moderating fairly successfully (with a couple of "slips" along the way) But - the great folks on here gently guided me back on to the path and were always here if I needed someone to talk to to get me thru the rough patches.
Eventually - I took the plunge and decided to try to go AF for 30 days - just to see if iI could do it ( I was scared to imagine life totally without alcohol)
That was 77 days ago
After the first few weeks it was clear that life without alcohol was actually MUCH better than life with it!
No stress- no anxiety, no underperforming at work, no planning the next drink, no lying to everyone, no hiding how much I drank, no smuggling booze into the house, no hangovers, the list goes on and on.
It is GREAT!
Hope to be able to help you get there (or wherever you want to go!) too.
Post often, ask specific questions or whatever - we are glad to have you aboard!
If you are struggling and just need someone to talk to urgently - post in the "need help ASAP" section!
All the best!
Love
Satori
xxx"Though there are many paths at the foot of the mountain - all those who reach the top see the same moon - as any fule kno"
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Welcome Baby Girl and Ash,
Dittos to what the others have said. This is a wonderful program that can work as long as you stay persistant and work it. At the moment, I am taking baby steps and have logged more AF days since joining than I've probably had in the last 9 years total. Someday I hope to be like Satori and skip mods and go totally AF....
Keep posting and by the way, I find the hypno CD's especially helpful.
My best,
tc
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Baby, Welcome! Many times antidepressants can cause us to drink a lot more. There are studies out there that have proven this and in my experience I never drank more than when I was on them. You might want to consider going off of them. Maybe without drinking the depression will go away?
I also love the hypno CDs. Might want to consider getting them..I'm really easy to get along with once people learn to worship me
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getting of anti-depressants
Lushy -- I have heard that about anti-depressants I'm scared to go off of them but you are most like correct that eliminating wine may lift the depression... I'll need to see a Dr. because I have been on them too long to just quit.
Beth -- thanks for the wise words!
CowGal -- let's do it Babe !!!! Right now is the worst time of day for me!
Satori thanks for your post & for showing that there is light at the end of the tunnel...
I have heard that it takes 3 weeks to break a habit -- I have a bad habit and a toxic routine ... or should I say I did as I am not drinking today!
Thnaks for all the great welcomes! BabyGirl
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I'm with you
Hi Baby Girl. I'm new to this site too and have already found so much support. I know what you mean about just going home and having wine and sitting with your dog. I've been doing it too! In fact, I would avoid going out at night because then I couldn't drink the wine. What a vicious circle. It's really hard but I've made it through two days and hopefully today will be the third. I've often thought of wine as my friend. It's also been my recreation. I too have a nice boyfriend but he loves wine too! That's going to be hard when we get together on the weekends. But I'm pretty sure he will be supportive. (I haven't told him yet!)
Anyway, hang in there. I'm waiting to get my supplements so I can see if that helps the craving. I also have been on antidepressant...Zoloft. But I drank before that and was going through a separation so who knows?
Hang in there!AF since Jan. 25th, 2011 :thumbs
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Auntie -- so glad that we are starting together! I have not told my boyfriend either -- I am taking the positive approach and want to replace my old habits with newer healthier ones ... I am tricking myself so that I do not think that I am depriving myself... this crept up on me so it will take some time to detangle but tricking myself is a good way to go (afterall I am a baby) ... I do not drink when I am with my boyfriend -- I am a closet drunk -- I am gross! Auntie, You are 2 days ahead of me keep it up!
All -- thanks again for the great welcome ready for Day 2!!!! BabyGirl
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Babygirl, Ash, Cowgal- Welcome to MWO! I can remember the guilt, remorse, shame, hiding empties, going to different liquor stores so the clerks wouldn't know how much I drank, waking up and vowing I would slow down, blah, blah, blah...
Then I found this place and it changed my life. If you want to put an end to the craziness, and are willing to commit to quitting, then we can help you succeed. Read the book, keep posting and the great people here can guide you through. It can be done and it's not as hard as you might think. All you need is the right attitude and a little help from your friends..
Don
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