Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

[retteacher]

Hi Everyone: I couldn't sleep, so I decided to give this thread a very early start. I've been thinking about what ODAT (one day at a time) means to me. It means:
-I never go into a liquor store for any reason whatsoever.
-I turn my mind away from any kind of drinking thinking ASAP.
-I avoid the wine/beer aisle at the supermarket.
-I say: "I'd love a glass of diet soda" when the host asks what I want to drink.
-I settle all issues so my mind isn't cluttered w/unfinished business.
I'd love to hear from you out there in MWO regarding the daily "footwork" is for you. Stay AF or mod. Mary

[Bessie]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Good morning!

Good thread.

Ditto avoiding wine aisle in supermarket, especially special offer section and good reds...!
- planning evening (danger zone) activities well ahead
- always driving when going out anywhere with alcohol on offer
- logging on to here at least twice a day and filling in drinking diary
- using hot baths, low lights, nice music and hot chocolate (and cold chocolate, warm chocolate and everything in between!!) as a reward for a good day, rather than wine
- constantly reminding myself how much easier it is to get through a day without a hangover!!
- telling myself I am not a normal person who occasionally drinks too much but an alcohol abuser who is managing, at the moment, to keep it under control!

Good luck to everyone today... Bessie xx

[madisonmay]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Good morning Mary & Bessie, and all to come.

Yesterday day 3 for me, sleep is getting better, and feeling alot better in myself. One day at a time, hopefully I will report day 4 tomorrow, no, I WILL report day 4 tomorrow. Hope you all have a great day AF.

Mary:l

[rustop61]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Good morning Mary, Madisonmay, Bessie and all to come.

You are right Mary, it is a constant struggle. Unfortunately wine and alcohol are still in my home as hubby enjoys a glass and does not have a problem with it. This poses more of a challenge for me, as it is there if the cravings get to me.

I have started to stock up on AF wine and beer to have at the week-ends so I have an alternative.

I have to be vigalent taking my supplements or the cravings do get to me.

I log onto MWO at least twice a day and either post or read to keep myself motivated.

If going out I offer to drive although the drinking alone has always been more of a problem for me than the social drinking.

Livnev - Glad your meeting went o.k.
Kathytk20 - Have you tried the Calm Forte that comes with the starter pack from MWO, it is supposed to help with sleep.
Teardrop - glad you have your water back. I had no water for 5 days last year and I nearly cracked up.
Cowgirl - Hope you enjoyed your steak dinner.

Evergreen, Freebird, Cindi and anyone else I missed a big hello and good luck.

Rustop

[cowgal]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Thursday!

Well, everyone, up early, was AF yesterday, steak dinner was actually a grilled salmon salad, which was delicious...............Still struggling to get more than 1 day AF in a week, but if you want the "game plan" I plan to keep trying (whether successful or not) , well here it is:

1. Avoid beer aisle, I can buy all the wine on special and have a full wine rack at home mostly for guests, (don't really drink too much of that unless we have a big dinner party or something)
2. Exercise at least 30 min/day(seems to keep me feeling less like drinking.........those endorphines?)
3. Stay busy, clean, shop, movie, do something w/ kids
4. Work on my artwork (that feeds my soul, and makes me feel really good inside!)..........don't do it enough though, always find a MILLION other things that need to get done and deny myself the joy

That is all I got, offering to drive hasn't worked, all it did for me so far when I had, was give me a chance of getting a DUI, which I don't need, never had, thank you VERY much!

I am of to get ready for work, will check in later(another thing I can add to my list!)

Good day to all,will check in later.............hugs good thoughts!!!!!!!:h :h

MA

[Suzanna]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Good morning everyone, I thought I was up early but ya'll beat me to it. AF means to me that I wake up feeling good and enjoying the morning quiet time, instead of laying there thinking WTF did I do? I had 3 glasses of vino but did do AF Monday and I will be AF tonight, meeting some folks at a local cracker restaurant and since I'm driving will have my seltzer/o.j. mix that is my favorite AF concoction. Have a great day all!

[cowgal]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

good morning

OK, there are 2 threads for today, I am not losing it!!!

Suzanna, read that you can relate to me.................cool, PM me any time, where in central FL do you live?? We could get together, that could be FUN!!! I have gotten w/ someone from Oregon I met through here, may meet w/ someone tonight too..............great place to meet others w/ our same problem/concerns etc.......

Talk to everyone later, my patient is here, will be busy for about 2 hours!??

MA

[wonderworld]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

xx

[wonderworld]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Morning Mary and all-

ODAT for me means- I am completely committed to not drinking today. This means that:

- I don't indulge any thoughts/fantasies about drinking. If it comes up, I let it go immediately.

-If I can't let go of the thought and it turns into a craving, I come here and talk about it (and listen to supportive feedback) non-stop until it passes (for me this usually about a half hour)

- I take care of myself in body, mind and spirit. Optimum: eating well, drinking lots of water, exercising, being productive, connecting genuinely with others, not getting too "speedy" or stressed, being mindful, being grateful, treating myself and others with respect and kindness, doing all I can to get a good night's rest (not a good sleeper in general!).

Thanks Mary - a great way to start the day!

wonder xxx

[paula]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Hi everyone,
I too find it a constant struggle, my husband is a normal drinker, we have wine and beer
in the house. I felt down yesterday and it was just too easy to have a drink. I didn't get
drunk, but I feel so guilty, for having just one drink, because I know what it can lead to.
I do not intend to slip today.
Hope everyone has a good day. Paula.x

[free bird]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Good Morning ODATer's

One Day at a Time means to mean:

-- Try to stay calm and live in the moment.
-- Take my supplements on schedule (for me very hard)
-- Avoid negative people and situations
-- Try not to get too involved with other people's drama. This I seem to fail at. Seems like yesterday was one of those days where everyone was unloading, and they needed to. I am happy to be there for my friends, but I tend to feel everyone's pain.
-- Keep on the straight and narrow -- My PLAN
-- Exercise outdoors as much as possible, if not -- inside will have to do.

Yesterday was hard on me. I have 2 teenagers and a 7-year old, and the teens are having some bad days, and, again, I feel their pain. I wanted to drink so bad, but I didn't, but I woke up with a headache anyway. TOO MUCH DRAMA.

Everyone have a wonderful day ODAT.

GO

[vinophile]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Good Morning ODAT'ers,

I haven't checked in this early for a while and am inspired to see all these posts.

Mary, I love your thoughts on settling matters as I have found unexpressed thoughts or misconstrued intentions to be a real trigger for me. In the past if I felt an emotion I would drown it as quickly as possible, Of course you can never drown them as they always come back to haunt you. Now I try to address whatever issues are nagging at me so that I can feel a sense of peace. Not always easy,but a work in process.
I'm gearing up for the weekend mentally.
I'll try to stay close to the boards as that does help.
No drinking today for sure!!!!

Janet

[tea]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

One Day At A Time.... One wake up feeling smiley... all day feeling smiley... wee bit hesitatant as the evening wears on.... shop is shut... another smiley moment as I can't get any now.... and that's another day over.....

Lxx

[cowgal]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Tea

Good job Tea, I have had days like that, definitely not drinking today, didn't yesterday, and feel too good to ruin that today!!

Keep up the great programs everyone, it is cool that we can design our own way of doing it...........

Went to an AA meeting last night, and feel good that I didn't drink, but don't really feel the connection w/ the way their (AA's) rules are, "brutally honest", "can never drink again", DAMMIT, what if I want to drink again some day??? What a difficult program, yet they say it is "simple"...............

Enough ranting, check in later, stay cool everyone!!!!!!:thumbs:

MA

[Cinders]

Newbies in Need ODAT - Thurs.

Good morning ODATers!

Each morning I wake up without a hangover just adds to my feeling of joy.

Every time I go to the store and see the wine displayed everywhere, in the meat aisles, in the bread aisles, all over the store, I just smile and thank "Geez, that's money I'm not going to spend."

Since going AF, I have money left over in my wallet at the end of each trip rather than having to go get some more from the ATM mid week. Amazing!!

Every day I take steps to insure I don't go near any bars. (Actually, last night I did go down to the bar and get a bowl of soup for dinner. I had iced tea and did fine.)

Have a great day, all.

Love,
Cindi