FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

[Suki411]

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MissC, Sweetpea, Eastender, Londonder and everyone else. Bad, bad. bad day today.
I feel that I have fallen off the edge of the earth. Made one phone call out of 7 I needed to do this morning (took me 1.5 hours) trying to settle my mom's estate before 12/31, I am so tired of my perfect sister and her husband. who was my mom's financial advisor, who should be making the calls i'm doing now, my brother who sexually abused me as a child (and my perfect sister who doesn't believe me me that he did.)

I'm having a really bad time, right now, but am comforted by the fact that I know that you are all there for me and everyone else going through this hell.

[MissCheryl]

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Hey Suki....

So sorry for the bad day you're having.... Considering all you've gone through, I am so impressed with your strength and how you've managed to be able to handle what you've been dealt. I too have a "perfect sister" - thin, rich, successful husband, doesn't have to work, perfect children. She has not had to deal with anything in life even close to what I've had to deal with - injuries as a child, complicated birth of twins, autistic son... yet she's the one that's always got to be coddled and we all have to "walk on egg shells" around her and appease her "moods"... damn, I get so tired of it.

I've not had a great day either... maybe the planets and stars are out of alignment for us or something.... all we can do is hang in there and take things a minute at a time.

I'm so glad I have this board to come to... the only thing better would be to actually be able to meet up with all of you somewhere!! And, then stay there for months until I get myself together and figure out what I need to do!

Hang in there Suki.... yes, we are here. Keep checking back. I'm feeling just as you are right now. Which is why I'm logging in every 10 minutes!! This board is what we need to "keep our heads above water"... "Just keep swimming.... just keep swimming"... okay, I'm merging a bit with SweetPea's other thread on "slang phrases from around the world"!! If I'm not making sense, sorry... let me know and I'll explain.

Just trying to keep swimming...
MissC :l

[flutterby]

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Hi Fireworkers,
There are some things I don't want to say; you know what I'm sayin'
Everybody take a deep breath... concentrate on debeasting yourself... the rest will sort out.

xox
Fby

[Eastender]

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Hi guys,
Suki and Miss C so sorry you are having a bad time today keep your chins up and check in, I will be keeping an eye on the boards today !

Fby- Know where you're coming from, Watched Bad Boys II, (you know Will Smith)WHOOOOOSAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!( was the saying I think to stay centred)

Where is our fearless leader ?

[Suki411]

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Slept all day. Just woke up. Have been sleeping soooo much in the last couple of months. I guess making up for the last 25+ years. Although the perfect sister thinks the sleeping makes me a looser. Her big decision of the day is to rake leaves or iron her husbands shirts after her yoga class.

MissC, I know what you mean about meeting the people on this thread (thank you Sweetpea for starting this). My sister is like yours, my life is like yours (without the children), I've been walking on eggshells for years.

It's a 4 cat night. They are all snuggling, purring (that's what woke me up, those damn furry sweethearts), they know more than my perfect sister when I need hugs, comfort. And so do all of you.

God knows how I found this website, but thank God I did.

Tomorrow, 6 more phone calls, taking the supps, checking here as often as I can, even going on a chat (thank you Londoner for suggesting it, thank you all on the chat).

No, Eastender, my delightful 97 year old "cheerio, dearie" aunt is Norwegian through and through. And, being the sports fan that she is, will be so happy that the Patrios and Bruins both won tonight.

I don't want to go into work on wednesday.

[Eastender]

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Hi Suki,
I also have a sister younger than me by 14 years who can never do anything "wrong".
I have not spoken to her for some 5 years now after she lied just one too many times to me.
The whole family as I did have felt (and still do) sorry for her because of her Anorexia.
She tried and nearly succeeded in ruining my relationship with my parents, they did not speak to me almost 5 years because of a lie she had "made Up". During that time I had my third child (now 17)whom they never saw until she was almost 5 years old.It broke my heart.
I forgave my sister for that and other things that happened after , but she continued to make trouble.
My husband then said that she was playing mind games with me, and if I did not "play" anymore she would not hurt me.
You know he was right when I stopped engaging with her it stopped her in her tracks.
I wish her no ill, but she is toxic to me. When I withdrew she started with my next sister....so the war continues .

I am not a believer in blood is thicker than water, I have not started with hubbies side yet,thats a story for another day.
Anyway I intended to say that maybe your sis is not as happy as you think she may be and she just likes to make you feel some sort of underdog,it makes her feel better about herself. Don't play her game......

Sorry,I did not intend to insult your aunty,apoligies but that saying is English

[sweetpea]

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Hi I am here Eastender


Suki and Cheryl what a bad time you are both going through my heart and love go out to you both - xx -

Suki those 4 cats know who is the best person in the world and love you without conditions. This is such a tough time and the only thing I can suggest you do is approach each task by itself and focus on it. Try not to think about the overall picture at the same time because it is completely overwhelming you. Make a list and keep crossing off what you have done. Go onto the next job - only think about that one - get it done and cross it off. Bit by bit ODAT might help you get through it. As I have said before don't let that toxic family dictate when you have got to get things done by. Love yourself and give yourself time - YOU DESERVE IT. Try not to let work suffer because you will need something to focus on after you have sorted everything out. Even if the JOB isn't too hot it is better than nothing at the moment. You have had so many changes in your life that a little bit of stability might be good to hang onto for a little while. When you are feeling stronger maybe a change on the work front might be a good idea - I don't know but as I said ODAT.
Cheerio Dearie sounds a fun Aunt you could do with a little more of Norma's company - hope I am still reading 5 newspapers and have good appetite for seeing lots of sporting men on the telly when I am 97 :racer:

Cheryl keep strong and keep focused you can do it. I've not started on the TOPA but am taking l-glut, Kudzu, Milk Thistle and the other Vits. I take the L-glut in powder form and was advised on another thread to put a level teaspoon under my tongue which I do 3 times a day between or before meals as it works better on an empty stomach so I believe. I take Kudzu twice a day with food and milk thistle 3 times a day. Do not worry about what other folk are thinking when you are buying your sups _ If they haven't got anything else to think about in life they they are truly sad gits (sad old people with nothing better to think about) - You have got to put yourself first so on wards and up wards try and have an AF day today - forget yesterday and tomorrow - keep focused on today

The :alf: beast must not be allowed to :argh: ruin our lives anymore keep strong, take heart, keep posting, keep reading and reach out and take hold and embrace the strong vibes that everyone is sending to those in need

Hi Eastender, fby, Debruce, Rustop, Cindi and everyone else hope you have a really good day

LOL :hug: Sweetpea xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[sweetpea]

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Morning Eastender we were posting at the same time again.

Yet another person with a family from hell but your husband was right about not playing her games anymore. These toxic siblings must be very unhappy to get some many kicks out of ruining relationships BUT I bet they are going to be the ones that have a very sad and lonely life as they get older because they will have no friends of family left who want to have anything to do with them. I feel sorry for you sister who is the next victim in your family

You have come so far and have got your life back on track well done

LOL :h Sweetpea :l xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Eastender]

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Hi Sweetpea,
Thanks for the input, I have toxic family my side ,hubby side and within my own family.
My Son also has inherited the gene not spoke properly fto us for almost 2 years. It makes me so sad. He needs to grow up and has very strange ideas. He told my whole family (before me) that when he moved out he wanted nothing to do with me and Mr East or anyone else! It broke my heart at first. But the family said that we had spoilt him, that could have been true , and he would come to his senses.He has'nt happened yet.
Strange, when I was pregnant with him some 26 years ago I had this nightmare repeatedly that he was born a monster!
My mum in law (a spiritualist) said it at the time,it mean't he would hurt me in some way.
I did not believe her because for a boy he was the sweetest child, I do not recognise him anymore (on a lighter note he is 6 ft 5 inches )
Oh sorry to go on......
Is today the BIG day for you?

[sweetpea]

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Hi Eastender

Yes I have reached 30 days AF and am looking forward I THINK to going onto my December plan. I just hope I don't slip back into bad old ways:fingers: I need to keep focused and beat the beast if he starts trying to sweet talk me into "another one won't hurt". I must stick to my plan as best as I can BUT I will do it with your support and the support of everyone else

So sad that children can say such unkind things. Your son will get past this stage and all you can do is be there for him when he needs you all 6ft 5 inch of him!! Your sweet child will return to you one of these days. Trouble is society tends to make kids think they should act in a certain way. It isn't until they are much older that they realize that their behavior was well out of line. That is my sincere hope anyway and I along with you await that time

:h :l Sweetpea xxxxxxxx

[Eastender]

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Thanks for the kind words Sweetpea.
I have taught my self ome new tricks today! can alter font and added a signature, thats good going for me!:H

[Suki411]

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Apologies not needed Eastender. I love Brits. Being Norwegian, don't think Norma has it, but I think I do...and I'm only 1/4 scandanavian, the rest is german/irish. SAD. Seasonal affective disorder. Mom and I talked about it so often before she died. Those many, many hours of darkness during the winter have a real effect on me. So do the holidays.

Sweetpea, I actually made a list on sunday, but still have to make so many phone calls to make today. My lovely sister will only call me on her cell to my cell, because we have the same provider and she'd be damned to call on my land line and have to pay. Have learned lately to leave my cell in a drawer so I don't hear it.

Eastender, I agree with you, blood is not thicker than water. As proved by you, Sweetpea, Londoner, Cindi, MissC, Rustop, Flutterby, Debruce and everyone else on this fabulous site.

So glad I found you all.

[Suki411]

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eastender, I just reread your post...Anyway I intended to say that maybe your sis is not as happy as you think she may be and she just likes to make you feel some sort of underdog,it makes her feel better about herself. Don't play her game......

You nailed it. She hates living where she is... I have to remember that and not let her put me down.
:hug: :hug:

[Eastender]

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Suki,
Are you the eldest is that why you have been left to deal with all by yourself? sounds like your sis has more time than you do.....

Part of sibling rivallry (I think this trying to be top dog) till it comes down to the nitty-gritty and it always seems to be left to eldest/strongest of the litter to sort out!

[Suki411]

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Eastender, I am the middle chlld of three. My bro, first born, was considered perfect. Little did they know. My sis was considered perfect. Fairytale wedding, perfect hubby, perfect kids. I was the one that gave gave everyone black eyes, broken bones, whatever. But I was the one that my parents called upon when they needed anything.

I was there for my grandmom, dad, mom, while my bro and sis were having a great time. I was chosen to be the executrix of my mom's estate. For two years my life has been hell. For two years, while working 50-60 hours, spending every vacation day on trying to settle the estate, sell the house, move the furniture to my sister's house (and pay for it).

I can't stop crying today. Don't want to go into work tomorrow.