FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

[flutterby]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Good morning dear fireworkers,

Suki--you are too funny. I can tell you will be "Happy" today because I've been posting just after you on some of the other threads. I will probably be a cross between Sneezy and Sleepy today because my allergies are acting up (with a little Happy in the mix as well). You've probably left for work but here's a big hug for you :l for having such a great attitude. It's catchy!

Hi Pea-
I know what you mean about some of the nutritional programs being too intense to follow through with. MWO is definitely one of the most user friendly, and thus more likely to be followed programs out there. I 'm interested in integrating a nutrition program with "mind/body energy healing" as it is referred to in 101. But I don't know enough to go on about it at this point. I do know that the holistic health practices that I've had time to incorporate into my life have really helped me get my anxiety triggers more under control. One thing I would recommend from my limited (but reasonably researched) experience is acupunture and meditation for support in the relief of anxiety, stress and associated withdrawal symptoms. It's an amazing feeling to visit with the other side of your mind. The less chatty one that let's you relax.

Got to get off this puter and get to work.... Just one more thing for Miss Cheryl... day-one, square-one --- it doesn't really matter because one squared is still one. With all due respect ( I really mean it) to those that find numbering their progress supportive, I stopped counting because it was making me crazy -- all that going backwards and forwards like a duck in a shooting gallery. I'm letting it go for now and letting my faith in this process help me reach my goals. Just my 2 cents.

Love you guys, :h :h
Fby

[happydog]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi everyone,
Hope everyone is feeling good, Because i'm really feeling mad today just want to tell that breast to p*sss off and f**k off out of my system. Hate the way it makes me feel inside my mind does not stop thinking like a (monkeybrain) i will not drink today nor will i at the weekend need that kick start again. Just remind me never to stop drinking on a monday does not work for me. Just a way out for me, an excuse to drink for the weekend.
Right i'm going to hit the sack, because that what drink does to me.
love you all for your support.
Love
Teardrop.x

[sweetpea]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

WHO IS IN ON THE DECEMBER ACTION PLAN

:goodtime: PARTY TIME STARTS TOMORROW


WHO IS ON BOARD FOR THE DECEMBER PLAN

MODERATION :goodluck: AF


THE PLAN

AF Continue posting with your progress because we soooooooo love to hear from you and want to keep giving you the support you deserve

MODERATION
NEVER DRINK ON AN EMPTY STOMACH - HAVE YOUR DRINK AFTER AN EVENING MEAL IF POSSIBLE
? No more than 14 units for women and 21 for men a week
? Have a soft drink between every alcoholic one or have spritzers or low alcoholic
ones instead ( I prefer to alternate between alcohol and soft drinks)
? At least 4 AF days a week
? Keep taking the sups daily
? Keep posting and reading at least 4 days a week. More if you can manage it
? Commit NOW to 30 days AF in January

Morning everyone already posting on this thread and Hi and :welcome: to anyone who wants to jump on board. The dreaded party month starts tomorrow and although I love Christmas I am sooooooo apprehensive that that the nasty beast is going to play mind games with me and get me back into bad habits BUT with your help that is SOOOOOOOOO NOT GOING TO HAPPEN

Hi Teardrop we are going to get a posse together and help you beast that beast right out of your life. You so deserve better than him dishing out his evil spells. Hope you had a good sleep and have woken with renewed vigor, stay strong and Focused You can do it YOU CAN DO IT

Hi Fby not tried acupuncture and meditation but it great to hear that they work for some folks. It is nice to know that there are other things out there that do help because what may work for one does not work for another. That is what is so great about MWO everyone is willing to share what is working for them. Every little helps and every AF day is a bonus day.

Suki it is hard staying AF especially when you are trying to support such a good friend from such a good for nothing ex boyfriend. I think you asked for that drink as a coping mechanism for the stress and tension this guy causes so don't beat yourself up you have enough to contend with as it is. Why don't you try to encourage your friend to not let this guy in the house. Is he likely to start knocking her around if she doesn't give him entry? If she is frightened about what he may do can she get any legal assistance to keep him away. Just a thought - hope I haven't said anything out of line but I am just really worried for you. Reading your post made me think that the situation at your friends house is a drinking trigger for you. You are just such a kind person but try not to get in too deep. You need to put yourself first at the moment until you are stronger - Take care - xx

Cheryl How are you let us know?

To Rustop and Eastender how did day 31 go I am soooo happy you got to that magical figure can't wait to get there myself

Have a really lovely day everyone

:hug: Sweetpea xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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************************** Day 26 AF

[happydog]

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Hi Everyone,

Just got back from work and will have go back out again soon.
sweetpea: feeling a lot better knowing i let of a bit of steam yesterday, i hate what that beast is doing to me. day1 AF and will not drink today. feel ashame that i spend most of my time in bed. (Not today!) I'm not going to one of my xmas do"s The one to do with the dog training. Half of the people i dont know (but not b'cause of that, i like getting to know new people but don't trust myself) its on a monday and got one on friday coming. so the monday one is a no,no for me.

Suki: Hope things are ok, its good that you got that get up and go in you, and knowing you can shut that door on that one. well done for that. (day1 Af for me.)

Flutterby: hi am trying to do meditation, but when i have acoholic inside me does not work. But would love to experience the feeling to visit with the other side of the mind takes alot of patience and practised. Also love to find my spirit guide, have been reading a book on buddism which i find interesting. Been to tony stockwell studio did some work shop there.
Anyway love you ALL, need to be clock watching dont want to be late.

Everyone Have a good Af weekend
Love
Teardrop.x

[rustop61]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi everyone

It sure is party season and a difficult time of year. I know from my experience last year that I cant really go back to moderation. If I start to drink at home I will be back to square one. What I would like to do is have a nice glass of wine with a meal when out to dinner. I was always ok socially, never over did it so the danger zone is at home. With that in mind I will be trying to staying 99% AF this month with the odd glass of wine thrown in.

Everyone have a good AF week-end.

Rustop

[Suki411]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Sweetpea........thank you so much for your kind words, advice, support. I appreciate everything you said. She took back the key, but thinks that he has more copies. I insisted that she change her locks. Which she will. Her kids have turned against him. She knows how I feel.

What is triggering me more is work. It's becoming so toxic for me. When I told my boss (a friend for years) that I was AF for 7 days, he called me a liar. Another friend (?) at work won't talk to me because I called her sunday night a 6 pm, we spoke for 45 minutes before she told me that she was at her dad's nursing home, she'd call me back. Yes, at 10:30 pm. I was asleep and didn't pick up the phone. Now she refuses to speak with me. Friend?

If I stay until July I get 5 months of severance (losing my job due to a move out of state and at my age, it will be hard to find another job), then can collect unemployment, but, you know, it's not worth it.

And you know what else, you and everyone else have given me hope, courage and a sense of self-worth.I have a lot to do to settle my mom's estate before 2008. Another trigger. Toxic family.

Ok, two days of drinking after being AF for 7 days. Not happy, but no beating myself up. I've discovered that everything is a learning experience. But I've also learned that this is no dress rehearsal. This is my life. I want the best for me. I can't tell you how much I appreciate this thread. I'm with you for December. Thanks Sweetpea. Lots of hugs for you.

Teardrop: thanks. I'm joining you being AF. Another reason for me not to drink is that on the 2 block walk from my friend's house I lost my grandmum's wedding ring worn on my pinky. Someone's trying to tell me something.

Cowgal, my earphones are going on as soon as I get to work. Thanks for the reminder that music is therapy. Hope your surgery goes well. I bet those horses need you as much as you enjoy them.

I feel such peace, hope and self confidence being here with all of you. I know that
i'll get there with all of your help.

lots of love and hugs.

s

[flutterby]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi all,
I'm still free falling in December. We'll see what happens. Good luck to all working Sweetpea's mod program and RU's modified mod.
Have a great weekend everybody.
Fby

[debruce]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

I want to join in for getting to stand for 30 days, but I can't get past 1 week. Even when I get to the week, I am not hanging out to get dunk, but more hanging out for the alcoholic drinkg
What do I do when I pick her up from the boat.I can't handle her on my own
I don't know her ,but I love her.
Sorry, but please help me.

[debruce]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Oh my god, I have just read what I wrote, and I don't understand it............so what hope have any of you guys. I have had a few wines and to be honest I don't even know what I was going on about. This is so embarressing.

Sorry!!!

[Eastender]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi guys,
Sweetpea. Have had two days of soul searching to answer where now? Ideally I would like to continue AF but I do not trust myself,and frankly dont want to set myself up to fail.
Tomorrow night I am out to dinner and with company that do not know of my drinking problem (can usually control it outside of home) I make reasons like driving tonight to excuse myself. The venue is walking distance and after 32 days AF I am scared!
I would love to sign up for your Mod Plan and AF for January (Have also signed up for DFD Betty Boops thread).

Suki. You have had so much to cope and deal with..... I agree that although this guy annoys and upsets you (on your friends behalf) for your own sake you need to look after you. Being strong, you will be so much more help to your friend.
I had been told by two spiritualists that I had two spirit guides/angels and I truly believe that when I am ready they take me to where exactly I should be at that time. Sometimes I do not understand why, but when I look back ,these things had to happen in order for me to get here NOW.
I believe that they led me here now because I am ready, maybe your angels are doing the same. Keep strong and will be thinking of you today.

[sweetpea]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi

Just wanted to say have a good weekend everyone

Teardrop good on you keep that beast at bay keep strong :l

Rustop I have decided that drinking at home is not such a hot idea myself. Will try and take a leaf out of your book

Suki the main thing is you understand what your triggers are. Try not to beat yourself up you have got so much going on in so many areas that you must feel like you are on a merry go round. ODAT seems like the way to go and try and do as many AF days as you can. We are all with you and support you 100%.So glad you are on board for December. -xx- :l

Hi Fby not sure what you mean by you are still free falling in December

Hi Debruce never ever feel that you have to apologies because there is nothing to apologies for. Let us know how you are getting on :h xx

Eastender that is my favorite saying never set yourself up to fail. Like you I am scared after 26 days AF but until we have taken those steps we won't know. Being scared I think is a good thing because we will be extra careful in what we are doing. I think we both know that this is not the end it is only the beginning of learning to live life drinking in moderation. I am so glad you are on board for December

LOL to everyone

:armsaround: Sweetpea xxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Eastender]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Sweetpea

Two quotes I read toaday that seem relevant:

"Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood" Marie Curie

"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear- not absence of fear" Mark Twain

[Eastender]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Sweetpea

Two quotes I read today that seem relevant:

"Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood" Marie Curie

"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear- not absence of fear" Mark Twain

[flutterby]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Sweetpea,
Freefalling is what happens before you open your parachute.....
"When you are freefalling there is no sense that you are falling. The wind holds you up, your view is borderless, and all is wonderful. When the chute opens all is calm, serene..."
That's how I want to go through December. Alcohol free-falling.

Eastender-- Loved your quotes. Mark Twain is a favorite of mine. Did you know it was his birthday today (11/30/1835)? Here's another quote from MT....

"Change is the handmaiden Nature requires to do her miracles with".
- Roughing It

Miracles happen.

Love you guys,
Fby

[happydog]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

hi everyone and welcome debruce cute dog. don't worry about mistakes i do it all the time and thats without a drink stick with us., and keep on posting. busy day for me got to get ready, catch up with housework. Got a jewellery party to go to. not in to jewellery big time.
might get some xmas presents out the way. after meeting my friend for a long lunch and chat, good thing is i'm drinking but she does not drink.

Have a weekend everyone.xxxx
Love
Teardrop.x