FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

[Eastender]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi Firecrackers,
Very quiet today on the thread.
Can't wait to hear all about the Meet on Saturday Teardrop. Hope you all had a great time!

Catch you later

Eastx

[KAT20]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Good morning Eastender, Teardrop, Sweetpea, Rustop, Lukalee, Mad Mummy & Woolflet, Hope I got everyone. I too cannot stop thinking about MDBiker, did not know him but that could be any of my family or loved ones. The driver could have been me the times I know I should'nt be driving, and as I said previously could have been my sister driving. Don't know about your side of the pond but they need to go tougher on drunk drivers, especially repeat offenders that obviously are not trying to rehabilitate. Well, made it through my second weeked. Alittle tough Friday, I don't know about you gals but some times a glass of wine makes an evening alone with my husband alittle less inhibited, if you know what I mean. Something new for me to get use to, learning to feel relaxed and in the mood after a hectic day without AL. Talked with my therapist about hanging out with friends without AL, She says not to worry about what other people think. I said I know but no one wants a Tea totaler. I quess in the sense where the others feel uncomfortable as if the non drinker is judging them. She said thats their problem and if they are bothered by my not drinking maybe they were not really a friend. Over the past two weeks I've noticed once I get past the inital explaination (what ever excuse I make) no one really pays attention to what you are drinking. I find one thing alittle hard and that is sharing what I've discovered. I was reading the AA Big book and it talks about one Alcoholic sharing to help another. I'm that sort of person, want to help everyone. I will refrain as I'm sure that would be the ticket to repelling friends. I will however be happy to share if anyone ever needs. Best to all of you this weekend and week. I've been out in my yard which is very theraputic, just wish it would get above 60. Health strength and happiness to all

[rustop61]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi Firecrackers

Well back to routine and MWO again. Did not go OTT but broke a good AF spell. Still feeling sad at times but as I just posted on ODAT some good has come of it! Those of you who have been on a while will know that I have had lots of hassel from the outlaws!! Well MIL hated my cousin, was incredibly jealous that I was giving her the attention and not her! Hubby offered her lift to funeral, did not go nor did any of his family. Stayed with her that night and got the usual cool treatment, it was such a contrast to the warmth, love and affection that I had been showered with all day (3 of my friends drove 3 hrs to go to the funeral) that it really showed her up in front of hubby. No bad thing.

Came back and got an e-mail from his brother rapping my knuckles for not being down in the month (cousin dying, did not even ask how she was, kids about to do exams,other side of the country) but hey they are what's important!! Was about to send stinker in return when hubby rang, he was told that enough was enough etc. etc. He asked me to send it to him and sent the most amazing one in return. Far more effective than my rant and basically he fully supports me! I'm not answering any of their calls, e-mails etc. and in future everything has to go through him. He does not bother with them so good luck to them!! Feel much better within myself. MIL has tried two different approaches to get to me, neither worked and now I'm not answering the phone!! Sorry about the rant.

Start of another week and hope to make it an AF one.

Rustop

[happydog]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Morning ALL firecrackers,

Kat20...I do know what you mean about bear, yes i think they should get toughter on drunk drivers. LIFE is just not fair sometimes.
Second weekend a job well done. If your friend have a problem by you not drinking they to could have a drinking problem as someone pointed this out to me. Last week my hubby saud he was proud of me but yesterday i was a bit upset with my hubby he said im boring and said goner have drink. But i stuck to my guns and just drunk the af wine.

Rustop.:l
Sweetpea..Hope your pc is up and running.
Madmummy...coming down with some hing i think i need to keep my vest on, everytime i cough it hurts. I hope i have not spread my gems on saturday.
Eastender...Saturday met up with mwo friends it was really nice to meet Jacqui and her granddaughter little Emma what a lovely little character she is, Loppy lugs, jay42,betty, tigger and there lovely daughter kerri, we all had a good time, really felt so relax it was nice. oh yes the food went down well and also the DESERT.

Have a geat day everyone.x

Love

Teardrop.x

[Mad Mummy]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi all

Teardrop - I know what you mean about hubbie pressure mine is the same, it really doesn't help does it?

Rustop sympathy with you over your inlaws mine are similar and I just don't bother with them let husband do that and, as the kids say, just smile and wave when occasions dictate we have to mix.

East and Sweetpea hope you're all OK.

[Wooflet]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi everyone

Just wanted to check in quickly to say hi as I haven't checked in for a while. Doing fine AF-wise (day 20 today - yay) but a couple of other issues to get through. Sometimes I find that it helps to stop thinking about not drinking (as opposed to just not drinking) - does anyone else ever feel that way?

Hope all of you are doing great.

Wooflet x

[happydog]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi ALL,

Wooflet... Well done 20days AF...I try and put a mental block and block it out but some days are harder then other days there is always that little think at the back of my head, thats why i always need eyes at the back of my head and just have my wits about me.. for me it like puting up a shield all around me to protect me if that makes sense. You are doing really well keep it up.x
Mad mummy...no it does not help it like another test we have to past, where we have to be strong in our self to say that word NO. The funny think yesterday my hubby has come down with a cold,(we all have) but he did not drink last night (it felt quite good knowing he was not drinking.) The think is if i did go back to drinking i know he would not like me stealing his skol super when i run out of my drink.

Eastender..... hope everything is ok with you?
sweetpea... try and get to the internet cafe if you can, love to hear from you.
Rustop.. Thinking of you.x
Suki...let us know how you are. we all miss you.:h

Everyone else have a great day.

Love
Teardrop.x

36days af

[Eastender]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi FC's,

I made it to my 60 days! I have been busy with my windows being changed this week. Glad the weather is Dry and warmer! The fitters are still here so will have to be quick.

Kat I know what you mean about the iinhibitions killer a glass of wine can be. After being with Mr East 30years there is nothing that can surprise him,but its my own insercurities that I have to contend with about myself in the bedroom dept, At least I can remember now!

Rustop Please don't apoligise for the rant its good to get things off your chest.Looks like your MIL has got the wrong type of attention from her son! I am a great believer in what comes around........ Its great that your husband supports you, especially at this sad time for you:l

Teardrop Good for you sticking to your guns you are doing so well 36 days.:goodjob:
I am glad you had agreat day on Saturday,Jacqui and BB have had so much to cope with recently Its good that you enjoyed yourselves. I see that the desert must be a hit with you was in capitals on your post, you like the naughty but nice teardrop?

Wooflet Congrats on your 21 days. Yes I agree it helps that we do not make AL our daily focus and learn to just "live " without it constantly being in the front of our thoughts.

MadMummy Sweetpea and anyone I have not mentioned have a great day.

Eastx

[Mad Mummy]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

hi Firecrackers

Teardrop - hope that cough and cold start getting better soon and liked the bit about nicking your husband's lager :H:H

East you sound so relaxed now - doing so well.

I'm on Day 3 today which is often my point of going back to Day 1 the next day - but I'm really stealing myself to stick with it so hopefully.....

Luv B

[Eastender]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Thank you Mad Mummy. I do feel relaxed and quite content. Its been such a long time since I have felt this way.
Try not to worry about which "day " it is, I had difficulty getting passed day 5 for a long time before this AF stint. Its just a number don't let it beat you, I know you can do it!

Eastx

[KAT20]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hello Rustop, Teardrop, Mad Mummy, Woolflet, Eastender and all firecrackers, Could not get on the web site till now:durn: That just messes with my whole day as I get to work earlier to catch up and post. I guess the web site is down sometimes for maintenance. Day 15 here and as Eastender said I am starting to feel more relaxed and content. I have an appointment with a psychiatrist in 2 weeks to check my meds. My therapist felt this was better than my regular doctor as they deal with more mind meds. I have been on Paxil for awhile for anxiety and mild depression which, I'm sure did'nt do squat since I washed it down with alot of alcohol. The last two weeks I had periods of irritability and mild depression. I'm sure alot of it is my brain re-adjusting to normal. Woolflet, I hear what you say about mind over matter. When I tried to moderate all I thought about was when I was going to have AL and how much. Its easier for me to say none. At least this time. Teardrop, too funny, I just asked my husband if he thought I was boring. He said no but I originally felt that way. This last weekend I found myself laughing and goofing around more as I might have done in my early 20's before I begain drinking so heavily. I was also worried about what East said in the romance department and agree I need to get more comfortable with myself and learn to naturally relax. Congrats to everyone on their goals and wishing you all strenght and happiness.:rays: Warm weather as well for those of us in the northern US

[Mad Mummy]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Happy Wednesday Firecrackers!

Off to an earlier start than usual - will need to fight kids off the computer later as 1/2 term has started early!

Hope you all have a great day Teardrop, East, Rustop, Kat, Cowgal etc keep on going ODAT.

Bx

[happydog]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi TO ALL FIRECRACKERS

EASTENDER.... well done 61days af now. so proud of you. I think once you know you feel content with yourself thats when you know your there, no need to look back no more.
KAT20...to tell you the truth i think i would be more relax if my husband was not drinking maybe in time iwill get use to it. It is so good to have a good laugh it a great healer.
MADMUMMY... Yep half term in this house next week as well.

Have to move on have a good day everyone.

Love
Teardrop.x

[happydog]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi TO ALL FIRECRACKERS

EASTENDER.... well done 61days af now. so proud of you. I think once you know you feel content with yourself thats when you know your there, no need to look back no more.
KAT20...to tell you the truth i think i would be more relax if my husband was not drinking maybe in time iwill get use to it. It is so good to have a good laugh it a great healer.
MADMUMMY... Yep half term in this house next week as well.

Have to move on have a good day everyone.

Love
Teardrop.x

[Eastender]

FIREWORKS - ANYONE WANT TO JOIN ME FOR 30 DAYS AF

Hi FC's

Beautiful weather here. Glad because house is open to elements. New windows going in. Almost finished today. My tired old Victorian house is starting to shine again. Funny just how I feel today!

Kat Tired irritable and depressed described just how I felt for the first 40 days. You are right its the readjustment and rewiring. Keep going I know it will be so worth it for you.

Mad Mummy ,Half term when my kids were home was exhausting! The time they are kids is so short,enjoy it,they grow up so quick and the time you have now will be tomorrows memories. I hope you cope with and win some of the fights. I will miss you otherwise!

Teardrop, Laughing is the best medicine you can take,you cannot have an overdose and no side effects! Have a humourous day!

Sweetpea Rustop Wooflet and anyone I have missed have a lovely day

Eastx